Are you in a loveless marriage and stay because of the Children?

Question

I'm wondering how many people are in a loveless marriage and stay because of the Children.

Answer 1

I would never do that, its more damadging to lie to your kids than to just move on and accept it.
I would never ever stay for the kids, but i would always try to work at it first if anything went wrong.

Answer 2

I wonder the same. But not loveless just less love.

I think part of it is putting them first - but for how long? Give yourself a time line - say a month a few months what ever you can take, and if you still feel the same way and nothing changes then you have to decide at some point to put yourself first cause eventually the kids will grow up and leave and you will be alone forever. Your kids will not want that for you. And you will deserve to find happiness and so should your partner.

Answer 3

Yes, I am right now. Not totally loveless, I think, but it hurts as much as if it was. Staying for the kids and the thought of having to go through a divorce, separating all the stuff, selling the house, etc. I'm too tired for it...

Answer 4

Ive,never been married , (NEVER WANNA)....but recently split up from ex,, we were together 8 years,,have two boys 5 and 7,, and can i just say yes i think some people do stay with partners for kids,,sakes...ill admit i was doing the same,, taking the ex back for the kids making me feel guilty asking for their dad,, but as the weeks pass by ,, the less times he visits etc,,it gets to the stage the kids dont ask or wanna go when he comes for them ,,for a ride to mcdonalds,, etc.. most days me and the kids already been to drive thru,,anyway,lol,,i also have a daughter nearly 17 years old ,, i was in a 8 year relationship with her dad, and found out he was being unfaithfull,, but couldnt go back for my daughters sake tried but the damage was done,,with the last one with two kids it was mental cruelty mostly,, calling me a slag if i wanted to go clubbing about once every 4 to 5 week,, with friends for fun,,dance etc... and most of the compliments (even though i knew i looked ok) were fat bastard etc,, so keeping my fingers crossed ,, its proper over..

Answer 5

Been there, done that kind of thing and finally after 8 years of it left and moved on. I was so depressed and my self asteem was so low that I was not making anyone happy! Life is too short for people to be unhappy, but I do know so who still stay and say they were glad they did. I know kids pick up on these things and if there is no love and affection between their parents then how are they going to know what a real good and happy relationship looks like??? Just a thought I know we all have our own opinions and I guess even if it was self-centered of me to leave and not stay then so be it! Good luck

Answer 6

The majority of people married are staying in loveless realtionships for one reason or another, but some times you got to think about you and your feelings. Good luck to you on your situation.

Answer 7

Some people say divorce doesn't hurt children. They probably haven't been a product of divorce so they probably don't know. My parents divorced when I was 4 and it always hurt. New men your mom dated, new women your dad dated and my dad was a nice guy to this day my mom is just mean and can't stay faithful to anyone. I know some people just can't stay married but the children do get hurt in divorce.

Answer 8

Yes, I am staying until my youngest turns 18 in about 12 years. Then I will probably be too old to wanna leave.

Answer 9

A better question would be if there is anybody out there with a great marriage where they arn't just staying around for thier children.........That would make for a smaller list of people....

Answer 10

Not now, but I was and my children love my new husband. He is a great role model. And I feel like a person again and I think I am a better parent now