Have you ever been betrayed by someone you thought was a friend???

Question

Have you ever been betrayed by someone you thought was a friend???
If you were, did you do anything to get back at them??? I've been betrayed & It is so HARD to hold back my anger but I'm trying hard to be good!!

Answer 1

Hang in there, and let things get you down.

If a friend truly betrays you, then be glad. Good riddance to people who take you for granted or take advantage of you.

It is very hard to deal with sometimes, and you might wonder why it had to happen to you, especially if you were a faithful friend.

But people can be fickle, and if they did it to you, then they will do it so somebody else because they have not learned the importance of growing up.

As for you, think of this as a growing experience. Be careful when trusting people in future (but don't become paranoid of every little thing that does or does not happen).

Try to let this go so that you will not harbour resentments and hard feelings because it could make you bitter and miserable. Let it go. Move on. Look to a brighter future.

If your friend called you to discuss it and try to apologize, you can take a chance if you wish, but remember the old sayings:

1) Once bitten, twice shy.
2) A leopard never changes its spots.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Trying to get back will only take you down to that persons level, hold the anger back and don't get even you will be the better person for it most of the time things will blow over and you will one day be friends again, and who knows maybe get an apology from this person. Learning to forgive is a hard thing.

Answer 3

I have been betrayed from someone I trusted, and I must say, forgetting isnt always easy as forgiving. The only thing i can suggest is that you talk to them, tell them how they hurt you, and if you really dont want to do that, just dont talk to them about it at all; or just dont talk to them period. There isnt much you can do in a situation like that. but i do wish the best of luck to you and i hope that everything turns out okay for you.

Answer 4

It is a fact of life.

Look at it this way. . .Each betrayal begins with trust, so blame yourself for trusting this person in the first place.

If you do this, I think you'll find you can be civil with the person who betrayed you, and you will never let them into a position to do it again.

Everyone bites the hand that feeds sometimes. . .It'll happen again with another friend soon. . .you gotta be tough, and don't expect too much from people (besides close family, that is).

Answer 5

not many times, but each time very very very very memorable.

the one that hurts the most is the one that you expect the least. I still remember the one from 8 years ago. I forgave the person already, but I just don't have the heart to try to be a friend. It's just too damaging. Just hold back your anger, you'll feel better about yourself later for not going down to their level.

Answer 6

If its the first time they did it talk to them and tell them how you feel. If it's not the first time dump them. About getting back at them don't do it. What goes around comes around. If you do something bad it will come back to harm you. It might take a while for something to happen but if you just keep your head up and keep on being a good person you'll be happier.

Answer 7

yes :(
probably you will not forget it easily, and cant forgive anytime. i can guess how you feel, i can udnerstand the revenge wish inside you. but try to be cold blooded for a while. you dont have to be at the same athmosphere with those people. stop talking with them. without a doubt, this is a sad and unlucky experience for you. and i respect your anger and feelings. i am sure you learned so much about people that we call as our friends.
you will feel good and stronger soon.

Answer 8

Once my so called "friend" needed my help because she had bad credit and mine WAS good. I turned on her electricity in my name and also a cell phone. She screwed me out of over $900 on the cell phone alone. She left town before I had the chance at getting her back and I haven't seen her since. Believe me she ruined things for everyone else because I won't help anyone else out like that again.

Answer 9

there is an old saying 'you can only hurt the one you love'.
I have been betrayed by my best friend. It was 17 years ago, i am not over it yet.

Answer 10

yes, i have, many times...and the temptation to lash out was very strong...but i finally decided that to strike back was to allow THEIR behavior to control mine, and i'm not letting anyone bring me down...it was hard, and it took a long long time, but i finally learned to live with it...in one case we were able to resume our friendship (although it took half a decade)...but there were a few others i never was able to reconcile with...forgiveness is the hardest, but most important part...good luck to you...keep your head up, your heart open, and hold fast to who you are...don't let someone else's wrongdoing change you...