I just haven't felt right since I've been divorced. It's a really lonely feeling. I can't get used to being away from the kids when they're at their dads. It's been 5 years now, and I've never gotten use to it. I stopped dating altogether because I can't trust anyone. Are there any other divorced moms out there who can relate?
2006-08-04 12:38:57 · 9 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not a mom...but a divorced dad who has custody of his daughter....and I can tell you it's no easier on us men-folk. It's good to hear that you care that much about your children that you want them around all the time.
2006-08-04 12:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by gimli_1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. I was divorced for 5 years when I started to date again. The hardest part was feeling guilty when I was dating and my son was visiting his dad. But my therapist told me that after five years of not dating it was time to take care of myself and that my son would be fine. ( he was 7 at the time). It was so lonely, I know, but it will pass. I started going out with my girlfriends first once a week. and then I advaced to dating. After 7 years I finally met someone, got married and had another son. My ex lived in another state and when he went on visits it was so emotionally hard, but I always knew he was coming back..Keep that in mind and things should go smoother. and just amke sure that if you start dating again, and you have a babysitter just be home before your child wakes up in the morning.
2006-08-04 22:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorced mother of three I swore off men and focused on my kids and work. Met my new husband while I was a waitress and he came in every day for breakfast and after 6months of asking me for a date I finally said yes and now we have twins and been together for 5 yrs. I am still putting off getting married because I am a little fearful. I was married for 13 yrs to my ex. There is hope and you have to find fun things for you to do by yourself. I was single for two years and I think having my own time to find out who I was again was the best thing i could have done. I wish you the best. I call him my husband because technically we are married in mind after 5 yrs together.
2006-08-04 20:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah but you have got to move on. You don't have to date. Make yourself busy when the kids are gone, go out with friends, join some single groups. If you belong to a church get into the various groups there. Honey you can't live like this, you are not setting a good example for you kids. You have to show them that after heartache there is life , and that you can survive. I thought my life was over after my divorce. But I found out that there is a man out there who loves me for me and I don't have to change who I am. He actually helped me build up my self esteem. I didn't realize how My ex had put me down. You have to want to change and move on and you can do it!!!
2006-08-04 20:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorced father of three here. Yes, very lonely when the kids are at their mom's house. We all feel it, Hon.
2006-08-04 19:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain....Haven't been on a real date in forever, for the same reason(s). I just try to stay busy and not lose hope. It is hard sometimes but I HAVE to believe there is someone out there. Things WILL get better.
2006-08-04 19:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i can but you should not put your life on hold because of one failed relationship let that be his lost not yours while your alone your ex is not sleeping alone get out date you 5 years of being alone is long enough dont you think so get up n go hang out with some friends and maybe God will bless you with the right man good luck i have been there
2006-08-04 19:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by ladyrena12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorced father of 2 here ....... get out hon ........ date .... holding on to it is like committing suicide on the installment plan ...... ya ever wanna chat ....... e me
2006-08-04 19:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by ibrushallday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not divoce i am still married and still got my kids with me , but i feel your pain , u just need to move on and start dating again
2006-08-04 20:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋