when will my daughter outgrow her EMO faze?

Question

i cant take it anymore. shes 13 and has changed drastically since claiming this "emo "status. shes even done that cutting stuff too. ive taken the internet away. i dont know what else to do.

Answer 1

If your daughter is cutting, she has serious psychological issues and shoud see a psychiatrist and/or therapist immediately. Cutting is serious. It is not something that you can accept she will grow out of. Cutting has nothing to with being emo. Cutting is pathological and extremely dangerous. Frankly I find it frightening that people would advise you that she is "just seeking attention". Your daughter is deeply disturbed and needs help before she does something more serious.

Answer 2

The only terrible thing about the phase she is going through is the cutting. I have a friend who cuts, and you should sit down and talk to her. She is your daughter, I myself being a daughter know that the only thing that would cause me to cut myself is something happening wrong in my life. Talk to her, ask her questions about life. Embrace her, tell her you love her all the time and don't ever let her forget it. As for the "emo" thing, emo is just being emotional and expressing yourself so I don't understand why you can't take it. What she is doing is trying to express herself, so just guide her or show her another way. Maybe painting, or writing, poetry any forms of art or hobby will push her a little farther away from her "emo" phase and take her to a happy phase. Good luck!

Answer 3

first of all not to sound rude get over the way your kid dresses you should embrace the fact she wants to be different and be her there is nothing wrong with it I'm 24 yrs old married and a mom of 2 wonderful kids i dress in the whole goth thing and so does my husband but we don't make are kids dress like us they were cute little kids stuff there is nothing wrong with the EMo faze if it is a faze and nothing wrong with the whole goth look she is your child you should except how she dresses no matter what let her be her ...... as for the cutting that depends on how bad it is when i was a teen i did the cutting but it was never bad it was just like little scratches but if shes doing deep cutting then talk to her about it and maybe then even go to her doctor or a shrink she might just be lashing out because your complaining about the way she dresses teen years are hard enough with out parents complaining about stupid stuff like clothes and how they look

clothes are just that clothes just because she dress in the EMo style or goth isn't a reason to complain alot of really nice people dress that way and there's nothing wrong with it except her as being a individual leave the poor kids clothes alone

Answer 4

If she is slitting her wrists, then she is asking for some attention and/or she just wants to talk (I think, I’m not some pro teen analyst with 4 years in psychology or something) most teens go through this "emo stage" (I’m assuming that she doesn’t look like a "chav", someone who wears allot of Nike and sports clothing and the beloved Burberry look) in my opinion its just a way for us teens to handle all these new hormones. From what I can see, looking at other teens we either handle these new emotions, go emo or turn into a bad attitude rude boy or girl. But back to the point, I would try and talk to her, if she won’t talk to you about slitting her wrists, I would ask her mates to do so for you. DO NOT TAKE OFFENCE by that, think about when you were a teen I bet you confided in your mates much more than your parents. Don’t worry she will grow out of it. I and about 6 of my friends went all emo and we grew out of it. Try not to take personal things away, I mean if she uses the internet for instant messaging she might be trying to talk to her mates about it that way, + she might start thinking she is being punished for trying to reach out. I hope this helps all the best. = )

Answer 5

being "emo" isnt your daughters problem. she will grow out of it. its the in thing right now, and once the "emo" fad is over. so will her choice in style. she is most likely following her friends.
a commen misconception is that if you are emo, you must cut. not so, cutting is a mentle issue. its caused by the feeling that self inflickted harm can take your mind of problems you can not solve. talk to her gently about it. ask her if there is anything you can do. but whatever you do, please do not make her change her style. that will make prblems worse. alot of things people do not know, is "emo" isnt a style. it is a type of music. emo is short for emotive hardcore. unfortunatly, years ago people started thinking the "emo" crowd (the kids who went to the emotive hardcore bands concerts) were kinda cool. same time goths and all the other groups really started apearing. it became a fad. me personally, i'm a "scenester" i dress in tight jeans, and teeshirts. tight fitted clothing. my hair is cut short. i however, am not emo. i in fact, dont know anyone who is "emo" were all scensters, attaching ourselves to a fad. only after this fad has passed, i will still be wearing my tigh fitted cloathing. i am comfortable wearing it. so i am guessing, so is your daughter. talk to her about cutting. explain to her that cutting isnt exceptable, explain to her the risks or cutting. if she is depressed, talk to her about getting in to the docter, and getting a therepest.

Answer 6

If shes cutting herself, she needs help. That could be serious. Or it could be a cry for attention. About the way she dresses, the less you say about it the more she'll stop. When they're in their rebelling faze, it doesn't help to feed the fire, and encourage them by making a big deal about it.

Answer 7

Maybe, go shopping with her and pick out a new wardrobe. Get rid of all her emo crap. Get her nice makeup too. Dont let her hang out after school either. Pick her up and take her home imediatly. Take away the phone also. If that dosnt work, go for therapy. She wont get out of it herself after that.

Answer 8

Emo kids are cool. I'm 27 and don't like kids but can put up with the emo ones.

Answer 9

first of all im 13 and emo! and frankly im a bit offended! first of all ask her why she cuts... i think she is a scene kid! if you dont know what that means email me at [e-mail] and you spelled phase

Answer 10

Well she will grow out of it eventually. but something is influencing her behavior. My mom gave me therapy but sometimes its deeper than that talk to her abt her problem. and don't let her cut herself anymore.