How long should we be married before it would be appropriate to renew our vows?

Question

My husband and I had a small wedding when we got married (he has a big family and we couldnt afford a lot at the time). We decided we would renew our vows in a big ceremony with everyone there, later on when we can afford it. We dont want to wait an extremely long time, but we dont want it to be "too soon" either. What is a good length of time to have been married before we renew our vows, or how soon after the original wedding would it seem appropriate?

At our wedding it was just our parents, my brother, and my husband's brother. When we renew our vows we want to invite over 200 (we'd expect at least 100 to come).

Answer 1

G'day Mama Alto,

Thanks for the question.

My suggestion is that a good time is when you have bought a family home and can comfortably raise a family.

It would then be appropriate to hold a ceremony.

About.com says that there are very little rules about renewal ceremonies so you could plan it now if you'd like.

It suggests that there should be changes from a marriage such as:

* no attendants but give your kids if you have them a special role;

* don't have a register - hopefully, you have set up your household; and

* no hens or bucks parties - you're already happily married.

You might want to look at combining it with a housewarming if you're setting up your new house but you can make your own rules. The renewal of your vows in front of your close friends should be the centrepiece.

I have attached some pages for further reading.

Best wishes to you and your husband.

Regards

Answer 2

If you have the money for the big ceremony I would do it within 2 or 3 yrs but no later than 5yrs. I had a small romantic Las Vegas wedding with just both of our mothers and siblings; we are going to renew our vows on our 5th Anniversary and have both families (200 people). We have been married now for 2 yrs, and we are saving for a large ceremony on our 5 th anniversary. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

There isn't any established "time period" for renewing vows. I know two couples that renew their vows every year with a small family gathering. I have only known a few couples to renew their vows with an elaborate new wedding and reception...and those have been at key anniversaries (5 year, 10 year, etc....) A girlfriend of mine just attended her grandparents 50 Year Anniversary Party and they did the entire wedding all over again and they were in their 70's.

Answer 4

I know someone that renews there wedding vows every 7 years. They do that because of the 7 year itch. I think that is a good idea. And that would give you enough time to invite everyone you want and to save the money. Congrats and best wishes to the 2 of you.

Answer 5

Whenever you are ready - is the most perfect time to renew your vows.

My husband and I had a small destination wedding. He too has a very large family (21 first cousins). A few weeks after our wedding, we held an afternoon reception (cheaper than evening) and invited all the relatives to enjoy food, cake and photos of our wedding. We did not exchange vows again - - but we did spend time at each table recounting who was most nervous, who cried first, etc. It was a wonderful afternoon.

Answer 6

You should renew your vows when you have the money to have the huge wedding that you have always wanted. Me and my hubby had an extremely small wedding w/only my mother, daughter, sister and brother-in-law there. We have been married for 18 months and are saving for my dream wedding which will happen, hopefully, in the next year. Good luck and congratulations.

Answer 7

No sooner than ten years. You want your guests to be happy for you to make that milestone. Even though they weren't at your first ceremony, they wouldn't be all that impressed if you only managed to stay together a few years before renewing your vows. Whatever you decide, congratulations and may you have many more anniversaries.

Answer 8

Advise: don't ruin what was a decent, loving ceremony by 'renewing vows' with a large, out of control, idiotic, over priced wedding. You avoided all the stress and misery, haven't you learned anything??

Answer 9

We had to get married sooner than we wanted because of insurance and bills and stuff. Had a tiny little wedding with immediate family only, and the JP. I really wanted a big wedding, so at the 5 year mark, we are going to have a big, giant one. I ran it by my family and a bunch of other people and they thought it was a good idea too.

Answer 10

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