My daughter was 15 months when she passed away and it has been almost three months ago. How do you let yourself deal with the hurt and aggony of her not being there?
2006-08-04 11:53:33 · 15 answers · asked by Clecs Mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry about your loss. I know right now nothing anyone says to you will take away the pain of loosing a child as that is the worst thing a parent can ever go through. I lost my first son when he was 11 months old in a horrific car accident. I went through all of the stages shock at first then the tears wouldn't stop then I got angry and blamed my sister because she was the one driving the car I didn't think I would ever accept the fact that he was gone. I started going to a grief councelor and she really helped me a lot and as hard as it is to believe time will make it easier although there will be apart of you that will never forget you just start to remember it will less pain. It has been 10 years since my son died and there are still days that I cry and probably always will be just as when I see boys about his age playing a game I wonder if he would have liked it. Always cherish the memories don't rush yourself through the grieving as this is our way of coping with it. When you are ready to pack away her stuff keep her favorite toy close by. It isn't easy but it does get easier
2006-08-04 12:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Martha S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry!! There is no easy way to deal with the pain. It all depends on your strength and emotional being. It is up to you on how to get through this. I lost my daughter 2 years ago and she was only 7 days old. I think of her everyday and sometimes I cry but I know she is in a better place. She is safe from all of the violence and pain here on Earth and that is what gets me through. I know this may not be what you were hoping to hear but this is what I have to offer so I hope that you can get a little bit of hope that life does go on and one day the pain will be gone but not forgotten. God bless you and your family and you will be in my prayers.
2006-08-04 12:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by NICOLE D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I have 4 of my own and I really don't know how I would deal with it. I work in a hospital as security and there are times we have to go to the morgue, I really really really hate it because it's nothing but kids down there, I think about my kids every single time that I have to go down there.
If I were you, hold on to the good memories. Remember when you first found out. remember when she was born, remember all the good times, all the laughs and the short time that you had together.
2006-08-11 16:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert on the subject but to me you need to give yourself time and go through all the nessesary feelings that you have instead of keeping it closed up. If you feel like crying then do it, if you feel like screaming then do it. There are no rules to over come grieve we all do it in our own sweet time and when you get the answers that make you feel better then you are on your way so I wish you all the best and hope you can come to terms with what has happened. I wish you only happiness
2006-08-11 09:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by sashel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to speak to someone with professional help
my wife's brother died when he was 12 months old. I'm sorry but her father says that it has never stoped hurting but gets bareable.
do not bottle it up, talk about it and grieve do not be ashamed, you have suffered the worst thing anyone can do not be afraid to cry when ever and for as long as you need but get help as in long term it is the only thing that will enable you to deal with it.
i am so sorry this has happened to you, i cannot imagine the depths of your pain and loss and if it had happened to me i do not think i could have coped
2006-08-11 05:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm only telling you what I did,not what you should. I had to take my 15 year old daughters things and pack them up and put them away.Her pic I left out.She shared a room with her sisters so it was hard having her bed their empty.I made our home a lively place not a shrine.It was very hard and I miss and Love her so much.Time will help you adjust and another baby too.
2006-08-11 17:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One its ok to cry about it infront of ppl and its also ok to bring it up my 22 yr old sister had lost her little baby well they never found out what gender it was but yah and she went to my house aka her dads and she stayed and ate ice cream and i made her laugh alot go to someone that will comfert you make u feel better or maby evan laugh like a sister who has alot of ice cream lol or hey if ud like to talk my e-mail is anime_lover114@yahoo.com i could be the little sista u never had lol
2006-08-11 21:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by Trix 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just remember her for the cute little girl she was and know that one day you will reunite..and Know that God took her to be an angel and she is always with you.....I have never lost a child but know of freinds that have...and it has to be the worst kind of pain to ever endure..Get on with your life because that is what she would want you to do
2006-08-04 12:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. Join a support group. Talk to others that are going through the same thing. Hope things get better for you.
2006-08-04 12:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by lez23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray!!Go get professional help with your loss you are not alone,they have self help groups of people dealing with the same thing,also see your doctor and Priest or Pastor for guidance.
2006-08-04 12:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by pycosal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋