I love my man dont get me wrong but i cheat. I was totaly faithfull the first nine years we were together. Then i found out he was sleepin with the babysitter so we split up for a year and now we are back together and i dont know what my problem is. He doesnt know about the others but i feel guilty and still love him at the same time? Any advice?
2006-08-04 11:50:07 · 19 answers · asked by ru2tipsy2c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are so confussed right now. In reality, of course you love this man, but you are no longer in love with him, otherwise, you wouldn't be drawn to other men. Be true to yourself and to this guy. There is nothing like being free and not having to lie.
2006-08-04 12:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I went through pretty much the same scenario. We ended up divorced. But we both were introduced to Jesus and now have a great Christian faith......we both felt that we should get back together again but this time with God as the most important focus instead of us...It is so much better, we are happy and all problems are very solvable....we have never had so much fun. Who would have thought it was possible..we were together for 16 years, apart for 4 and have now been back together for 2 1/2 years. Our focus is no longer on what someone can do for us but what we can do for someone else...makes all the difference.
2006-08-04 12:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by like to help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u lost the trust..and that's what any relationship is built on..even mother and children....they have to trust their mother to take care of them, if not they are doomed to do things on their own. just as u and him have not resolved your issues.. u must re-confirm ur commitment and really work on ur ability to trust each other. obviously u love him, but sometimes love makes us do crazy things, like taking someone back even tho he cheated before. what u are doing is not right, but u know that and that's why u feel guilty. u need to let the past be the past, and move on and USE it to help u be Better in the future. if u don't let it out and put it to rest, u will eventually end up doing something u both regret, and hurt each other very badly. if u can't stay faithful, break up w/ him and do waht u need to do to become a whole person again, u need to be the kind of person u respect, so u won't feel guilty. now is the time to work on your past hurts, and if that doesnt' include him right now, so be it. u can't be in a relationship when ur not whole...same w/ him. build yourselves up SO THAT you are both people who are trustworthy, and u won't want to cheat on anyone.
2006-08-04 11:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a cheater. You'll feel guilty, and think that he's sleeping with women. His past cheating will always make you think he's cheating now. My advice is to pick a standard of living, and stick to it. If you're in an open relationship, then tell him. If you're not, then you're a deceitful person. Cheating is wrong and it will drive you crazy. Be monogamous or not. You are like a lot of people that want their cake and have a cup cake every once in a while. That's shameful. Please watch out for diseases. You could give him one from your cheating.
2006-08-04 11:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by punkdrunkard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel wronged by him and you haven't been able to forgive him deep down. I think you need to be careful though there are diseases out there that you can get. You need to evaluate how you feel about the situation and how much you love him. If you do love him as much as you say then you will have to stop cheating on him. Even though he kind of deserves it. Besides what happens if you get caught. What will you do then.
2006-08-04 11:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him you would not cheat. It sounds like you have trust issues. Try talking openly and honestly to him. Tell him about your feelings. Listen to his feelings. If nothing else talk to a professional. Learn why you are doing what your doing. Don't let it set where it is now. It will only get worse.
2006-08-04 11:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are still cheating then you are not ready to go back to him, maybe you realized that him leaving was a good thing because you moved on.
maybe you want to be the cheater now instead of him, but marriage is supposed to be with the person you truly love and there should be no one else. NO MATTER WHAT
2006-08-04 11:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by kag6667 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to be harsh...well..maybe I don't. It sounds like you two are made for each other. Neither one of you knows the meaning of integrity and honesty, so you may as well stay together and avoid possibly ruining the life of someone who is genuinely looking for an honest and commited relationship.
2006-08-04 11:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by gimli_1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how it is making you feel, so why continue? It is only going to destroy you inside if you continue. And in the end will destroy your relationship completely. Best to sit down with yourself and decide what you "really" want. Your not hurting anyone but yourself right now, but if he finds out, you will have hurt him as well. Revenge is not sweet if that's why your doing it and guilt can eat you alive.
2006-08-04 14:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably doing it out of revenge. If he doesn't know about it at least you are only hurting yourself. Just stop and try to analyze things. You are either with him or not. I'm sure you didn't like what he did so why make it worse.
2006-08-04 11:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by Bogie Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋