I have been seeing this guy for about 2 month and we want to go up in the next level of our realtionship. The only problem is that he is married. He keeps telling me that he is going to file for divorce, but he says that he hasn't had time. He just quit his job and the only other thing that he has to do every day is go to school from 5pm to 10pm. Am I just fooling my self into thinking that he really wants a realtionship with me or is he really just busy? Help Me Please!
2006-08-04 11:43:21 · 22 answers · asked by elmosbabe2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry but you are fooling yourself. He is looking for someone to be with and someone that would continue to be with him while he is married. Don't waste your time with some other woman's no good man. Find yourself a good man that would love you, care for you, and treat you with respect. This guy that you have been seeing has no respect for your or his wife.
2006-08-04 11:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Looking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no. First, you've known him for 2 months. He's got no business trying to get in a relationship with someone while he's still married and he's got no job. How unfair is that to both his wife and you! Stay away from him. how do u know he won't do the same to you (set himself up w/ some other girl then dump u when she and he are "secure"). how do u know he's even going to file for divorce; what if he's just using u for now?? He can't be trusted. Don't walk into this trap. Find another guy who is worth your time.
2006-08-04 21:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by Arnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Married men rarely ever leave their wives.
2. Cheaters always cheat...why would you believe for a minute that IF he does leave her..that he wouldn't cheat on you? I'm sure you'll treat him better (blah blah blah), but what makes you think he won't cheat anyway?
3. The man is unemployed....why wouldn't he have time to file? There's all that time BEFORE 5 p.m. Would it be because he has no money?
4. There is no "next level"....except mistress or other woman, and if he's not working, then he certainly isn't going to be taking care of YOU, now is he?
5. Would you like it if some woman poached on your relationship? I think not.
2006-08-04 21:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are his actions telling you? Is it matching what is coming out of his mouth? How is he going to support himself without a job if he gets divorced. That man is not going to file for divorce and has never had any intentions of doing so. His wife is probably supporting him while he goes to school. Men create a problem with their relationship, that is non-existant, so that they can find a woman to cheat with them. Would you have cheated with him if he told you he just wanted sex on the side every once in a while and things were fantastic at home? You need to go on with your life and get him out of yours. Never get involved with a married man again unless you are prepared for heartbreak. The more you pressure him to leave his marriage, the more you will begin to see him distance himself from you. Men are simple and operate by the same template when it comes to cheating. You just need to weed out the gamers and you will find a sincere man.
2006-08-04 19:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is highly unlikely that he plans on divorcing his wife. If he truly wanted to divorce he would have by now. Plus, do you really think he is going to school every night from 5 - 10pm? I'm a guy and know the scoop. Don't get into it and find yourself someone single.
2006-08-04 18:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by Bogie Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First read what you just wrote...I think deep down inside you know what you need to do. He sounds like a loser to me, he hasn't had time to file for a divorce? are you ****** kidding me? I have a girlfriend who JUST turned 25, is raising her 15 year old sister, she works full time while trying to be a mother/sister to her younger sister and do all the things parents should and she had time to file for divorce. There is no excuse. I don't know why you would want to be with someone with such a lack of a drive to be anything in this world. You deserve better, don't fall for his bullshit lines, move on. You are better off without him and the drama he is causing.
2006-08-04 18:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding, right? Why would you date a married man? He's married! That is the ultimate level of committment with someone, and if that someone is not you, you DO NOT need to get involved! How would you feel if you found out you husband was cheating on you with some other woman?
Get out of this relationship, now. If he hasn't left his wife for you yet he won't, ever- he loves being married to her, and he likes dating/having sex with you on the side.
2006-08-04 18:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are fooling yourself. No offense honey, but you are probably just a nice piece for him on the side. Or maybe he DOES care about you, but that doesn't change the fact that he is married. Leave him and tell him to give you a call when those papers are signed. Or not...
2006-08-04 18:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, your fooling yourself. Best to end this asap. No good comes out of seeing a married man. He has no intention on asking for a divorce. He is stringing you along. RUN don't walk.
2006-08-04 21:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn that is a very big problem as no honey it ain't you so dont think that it's his *** an you should forget about him a move on with your life. Dont be waiting for him because it sounds like he is not planning on filing for divorce. You probably can do alot better anyways. Good luck
2006-08-04 18:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by leihuaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋