For instance, he is been working in traveling job for a while now. He likes to work in traveling job for that he should be away from me and my 2 yr old whole week. Therefore, he fly back home once in a week to be with us only for a day.However, when his 2 yrs old and me we tell that we r going to come along with u this week he makes so many excuses, he says the ticket is not available, his project has not signed for further next week, so many other rubbish excuses list goes on. Why is that? But he just wants to come once in a week and have a rest at home? And he will ask me to keep ready his suitcase for the week days ahead, cook for him, all his needs.Me and my 2 yr old is not getting anything except over the weekend looking after his needs, moreover he never play with his 2 yr old he is always with computer. What to do? what is the reason?
2006-08-04 11:33:02 · 25 answers · asked by kiran123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
may be work loads have taken its toll on him, or could be pressure in his office plus the long distance travelling might make him tired
2006-08-05 18:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by dadvedar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend. Do I hear you. I was married to one for six years. I will tell you when the trust is broken in whatever part of the relationship. It will effect the whole relationship. Your mind will start working. if he's lying about this what else can he be lying about.
Maybe the responsibility of having a family to support has become overwhelming. He could be hiding. Playing possum. If he hides he doesn't have to face anything. He also maybe depressed. You are obviously feeling taken for granted an unappreciated. You can seek counseling or decide your doing it alone anyway why do you need him. Good luck
2006-08-04 19:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him have you read book called "Cry WOLF?" if he said, "Nope never read or heard it before." tell him to read it. If he did read or heard that before then tell him that last 3rd time and now after that I don't believe everything you say.
He seems that he cheating on you since he travelling at work and he not being honest here and so seem he doing something with a whore and come home not really care about his own 2 year old and stuff like that. Just leave him and do what best for you and your kid. and don't care what he think or crying or what ever he doing that his plm. since he been lied to you all the time.
He did bang a woman, and that is the truth. If he didn't he wouldn't be like that.
2006-08-04 19:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the key you said it.What is the reason for this behavior,can you except this way of living do you want your child to be brought up this way,sounds like you need to make some serious decisions,try talking with hubby but you may need to talk to your Pastor See if your husband is really in this marriage for you and your son or you are just a resting place and he really focus is on his time away,Talk Prey and make a dissuasion and go for it.
2006-08-04 18:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. He sounds like he's working hard, trying to bring money home, buuuuuuut it also sounds like he's got another family somewhere else. Is he going to the same places every time he goes on these trips? Listen, you're not supposed to sit at home with your child and wait patiently for him to come home. Threaten to leave him, tell him you miss him, tell him you can't do this anymore. Depending on his reactions, do what you think is right. File for divorce, find someone who will protect you in your time of need. A dear friend of mine works out of state all week and is only home for the weekends. But I know he's not cheating on his girlfriend, because she goes with him sometimes. I wish you the best of luck with your future.
2006-08-04 18:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by scarsoflife8282 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may seem far fetched to you but I've heard about it too many times. He might have a whole other life with children and another woman. Leave him. You and your 2 year old can do much better than him. He has you there waiting for him like a freakin Joke! To hell with him!
2006-08-04 18:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but it seems like your husband is cheating on you. He wants to have fun and come home while you take care of him. You need to let him know how you feel. The conversation should be a warning to him that you will not continue to be in a relationship when he doesn't want to be with you or your son.
2006-08-04 18:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by Looking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he goes somewhere buy a ticket and follow him..I would leave the baby with a sitter or family member...You could go on a diffrent flight but make sure you know where he is staying
2006-08-04 18:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is shacking up with another woman. Juggling two women is wearing him out. Check the history on his computer, snoop through his cell phone numbers and calls and snoop through his suitcase/briefcase to see what he is up to. If you know exactly where he is at, just fly to him and surprise him. But you need to be prepared for a possible surprise of your own.
2006-08-04 18:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get his credit card and make a list for punishments -
$80 for things you cant prove are lies
$100 for white lies
$200 for ignoring the kids
$500 for big lies
$1000 for cancelling get aways
$1200 for staying on the pc to long etc etc
convert to your currency if need be
he'll soon get the point
2006-08-04 18:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by Aussieblonde -bundy'd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is providing a good life for you, you might wanna sit down and see if he can find another way to do it- if not you will either have to deal with it, or hit the road. You need to be talking to him to find out whats up!
Maybe counseling b4 it gets worse might help. If you dont have trust, you have nothing.
2006-08-04 18:44:52 · answer #11 · answered by ProZack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋