I mean is ti really love then? i found my perfect guy, i thought. we never fought but now that we have decided to move in together we are constantly fighting!!!! its so not fair cuz i love him but hes driving me crazy!!!!! whats goin on ? cuz im afraid i mite be falling out of love. or is it the stress of moving?
2006-08-04 11:24:14 · 20 answers · asked by Belosnezhka (aka Gex) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because God hates us.
2006-08-04 11:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by fiend_indeed 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I know exactly what you mean lol I was there too believe or not. But yes that's how it was with me an my husband when we first moved to his first duty station. I think it was like the first month of living there. Yes it was a long time until we got used to it. Just give it some time I promise things will get better. Your not falling out of love with him an I know that it hurts fighting with one another an you must really hate it an probably thinking of leaving him soon or maybe even said it to him in a fight but it's just because you guys need to get used to it an yes it may take a while but hang in there because there get better as the days go by. Give it a chance. Good Luck!! If you need more help or need someone to talk to about this then plz e-mail me. Do hesitate alright. Keep Your Head Up.Leihuaz@yahoo.com
2006-08-04 18:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by leihuaz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. Jeez. Yes, it's stressful when two "free" individuals have to share space and it's usually more stressful for a guy, who's always doubting if he's made the right choice. Give it a little time to see if the situation corrects itself. Otherwise, there's no better way of knowing if you're truly compatible with someone than living with them. The only time love should hurt is when true love is lost. If you're in a relationship and love hurts, run! Run away and never look back! This usually means the love is unrequited, which means this is not your perfect person, or your soulmate.
2006-08-04 18:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by El 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you spend most of your time together, thats where the problems can start. In every relationship no matter how long you have been together, every couple needs space and time to there self. Maybe have a weekend away on your own or with friends somewhere, the time apart will definetly do the both of you good. Also you really do need to talk to your partner about this. I doubt you are falling out of love with him, I think it may be that you do everything together, I my be wrong tho. Im actually moving in with my partner in the next few weeks and this is one thing we said we are going to stick to so that we appreciate the time we spend together. The key to a relationship is comunication. Good luck hun and I hope things get better for you.
2006-08-04 18:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by crazyicklepwincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it might be because now you are living together and seeing each other a lot more. There isn't really enough time to miss the other person. I think if this was truly the "one" - there wouldn't be all this fighting. When I met my husband, our relationship was effortless - things just came together for us as if they were meant to be. We've known each other 3 years and never had an argument. Sure, there are things we might not see eye to eye on, but we talk about everything; there is never a need to fight. We look at it like, you're with this person because you love them and it's about supporting each other and having fun. If you're not having fun....then they're not the one. Hope you can work this out. Best wishes!
2006-08-04 18:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be any number of things. Maybe the fact that you never fought before means that you never straightened out issues that you had (and didn't know you would have) before you moved in together. Maybe it was too soon. Give it some time and see how it goes. It may just take time to adjust. Otherwise if it doesn't work out then move out and move on!
2006-08-04 18:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by Bogie Boy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better have a straight forward long talk with your man.Yes you could be stressed but maybe you are not ready for the commitment of living together,for real sit down and talk not yell or scream but put all your feeling out there and see if you have what you really want or what can be done to make things better.Good Luck.
2006-08-04 18:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by pycosal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this same problem, we broke up moved out of apartment and now we are back together but in our own places. I've come to the conclusion we loved each very much we were just not ready for that next step, moving in together. To answer your question I'm sure it is the stress....if you feel he is the guy for you just get your own apartment and watch you will fall back in love with him.
2006-08-04 18:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by Kenya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just part of the whole equation. You can't have one without the other, nor would you enjoy it as much were it not for the pain of losing it. Take comfort you are not alone.
"But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness
And pass out of love's threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh,
But not all of your laughter,
And weep, but not all of your tears..."
- Kahlil Gibran
2006-08-04 21:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by stoptheinsanity_73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True love doesn't hurt. The fact of the matter is you never truly know someone until you live with them. You are used to doing things your way, as he is used to doing things his way. Give it some time, make compromises. hopefully it will all work out.
2006-08-04 18:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are fighting doesn't mean you might not love him. Fights happen to everyone. Just work through them. I'm in a fight with one of my best friends, and I love him more than most anything in the world. Trust me, it will blow over and things will be dandy.
2006-08-04 18:36:55 · answer #11 · answered by Ellias 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋