One of my close friends in the eighth grade developed anorexia and some of our other friends and I told her mom when she started skipping lunch and not eating anything when we hung out. She got really mad at us and she didn't talk to us for awhile. Then she started with therapy and eventually she went to an inpatient facility when her eating disorder turned into bulimia and we believed that she was doing better. Well, the other day one of my friends found a live-journal she has that is similar to her normal live-journal's user name that talks about how she still purges and how her parent's don't know. But the more recent entries talk about how she is trying so hard to get better and since she still sees her therapist, how she is working with her to achieve this. But only about a month ago she was saying how terribly she was doing. My friends and I are conflicted, because if she is really doing better we don't want to tell her parents and risk losing her friendship permantly this time.
2006-08-04 10:47:50 · 5 answers · asked by keiko 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Definitely tell her mom about this. You can even do it anonymously if you want - print out a page of the journal and put it in the mailbox addresses to her mom or something. Then you are off the hook.
Even if your friend does know you told her, eventually she will realize how much you did for her. You guys have saved her life once - don't make it mean nothing if she kills herself now.
2006-08-05 11:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely won't have her as a friend if she dies from it! She may have known people were messing with the journal and written that she was doing better or maybe she is, but I don't know if it's worth taking a chance. If she's been to inpatient treatment she has a serious eating disorder. Eating disorders are associated with a number of psychological issues which are not easily or quickly resolved. One may be something called body dysmorphic disorder. In real English that means that the person cannot see themselves as they are. They could be 5 feet tall and 70 pounds and still think they're fat.
You do have another option besides telling her mother if you'd prefer it. You could write a letter to her therapist if you know the therapist and the therapist's location. Give information ACCURATELY about what you have read and express your purpose of contacting the therapist. You might also want to express your concerns about disclosing in the letter. If sent to the therapist, there's no guarantee as to what will happen with the letter. The therapist however is supposed to work in what they believe to be the best interests of their client as directed by the client's goals except in life threatening circumstances.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-04 11:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by concernedinwv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is a way that you could talk to her parents and ask them not to tell her that you said anything....but just to let them know to keep an eye on her...she may be still having problems.
2006-08-04 10:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should definately tell her mom about that..even if she gets mad at you its best that her mom knows..she is seriously putting her life in danger and believe me she will thank you someday for this if you do it. would u prefer her being extremely sick or not having her as a friend..its best you tell her parents..im sure you could ask them not to tell your friend..they will understand
2006-08-04 11:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would tell her anyway, if it is seems suspicious..because no matter what she is taking her life into her own hands, if she is you real friend, she will forgive you when she gets help.
2006-08-04 10:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋