Where have all the normal people gone?

Question

Do you remember the old childhood rhryme that went...Bobby and Susie sitting in a tree, K I S S I N G. FIRST comes LOVE, THEN comes MARRIAGE, THEN comes a BABY in a Baby carriage. Am I the only person here who met a guy in College, fell in love, graduated, married, bought a house, opened a saving account...THEN had a baby? Does ANYONE do that anymore?

Obviously Tiffany. Heck, you don't even need to love them, you don't even have to know them. Crap, you don't even have to be out of Jr. High. So is it right? Are you truly okay with cocept of bastard Children?

Obviously Tiffany. Heck, you don't even need to love them, you don't even have to know them. Crap, you don't even have to be out of Jr. High. So is it right? Are you truly okay with concept of bastard Children?

Answer 1

I'm with you sister I met my Hubby after college, waited till i got i got married to live with him we have a house 2 cars a puppy and i just found out 2weeks ago im 9weeks pregnant!! We need to go back to the time were men respected us and our parents. Whats up with all these 12,13,14 year old asking about sex, when I was that young i still payed with barbies!!!

Answer 2

Yes right. I understand what you are saying.

I have all of that, besides the house. (Strange subdivison sorts can keep their 400K houses that happen in the city, we live in the mountains, but the prices are no lower).

I didn't meet my husband in college, I met him while I worked during college (at a coffee shop that shall remain anon) and he, 12 years my senior, obviously had graduated.

I didn't graduate. Oh well. I will go back, and graduate, eventually. I am a SAHM, my husband's career and financial security allow this.

There is nothing wrong with that. Just because you married your college sweetheart doesn't make you better than me. So, you graduated from college, I am fine with not. To say that your situation is above anyone else's is regarding yourself pretty highly.

Granted, I too think that I made better decisions then a lot of other people I know (on here and otherwise). I have security financially, marriage-wise, childrearing-wise (as an AP/BF/SAHM of almost four), and life wise. I have a plan, I know where my future is, what school my children will attend, minding nothing terrible happens to any of us. But even then, I have life insurance, as does my husband, and wills.

Most of the kids on here, and I am only in my late twenties here, have no idea what they are doing when they have *oops* broken condoms, children out of wedlock, government cheese children.
The statistics for people who drop of of high school (let alone college) are terrifying and sad for the innocent babies. The level of physical and other domestic violence is higher [1], the poverty level is living above the average [2], and we all have learned in the past few years that "welfare to work" systems are a failure. (I just read "Nickel and Dimed" if you haven't read it, do so).

Teenage girls are way less likely to breastfeed, finish high school, get married/stay married. They are way more likely to smoke, drink, use drugs while pregnant, have poor nutrition during pregnancy, and have premature babies. [3],[4]

Yes, it is ****.

I am not a Christian, I am not a conservative, not even close.

I do give a crap, no matter how frustrating it is that so many people on this question forum and so many in the cities/towns we reside in are so ignorant. (And fyi to you out there, "ignorant" is not synonymous with "stupid"). Where I live the demographics are so varied, there are obvious mountain peaks (as in certain areas of large cities). I see the poorest of poor, illegal Mexicans counting out change for beer, and using welfare for formula. And I see those that are middle class like myself, driving expensive cars and living in nice (even if not owned) houses.

Really, to judge all those who did not/do not exactly the same as you is so crass it almost leads one to believe that you are the one who is most ignorant.

Answer 3

marriage doesn't really matter. You can love someone and not have that piece of paper to have children.

K my mom got pregnant at 17. Back then it was pretty much a given that unwed pregnant women HAD to get married. She spent 18 years with my father only to realize that she wished she wouldn't have married him. I have 2 children by a man. We're getting married net year. I know we went kind of backwards with everything but things happen. I've gotten pregnant 4 times on birth control. First-condoms second-patch thirnuva ring 4th-IUD. I would NEVER have an abortion. My fiance and I are happy. We now use 2 forms of birth control now. We plan on having more children but not for about 4 years.

Answer 4

I took even longer than you. Graduated college and grad school and spent time out in the work world. Got married at 36. We just had our second child in February (I turned 42 in June).

Answer 5

Not in 2006. Sucks though. I would if I had that 'special lady', but right now, I'm single.