Dealing with nasty text messages.?

Question

Apart from ignoring them how does my daughter deal with abusive text messages that she is getting from a girl she knows. She is obviously jealous because my daughter is going out with her ex but they are really nasty.

Answer 1

It is harassment. You should call the police. Your daughter should not have to "deal" with it. She does not have the problem. I am sure after a quiet word from a police person, the nasty girl will back off.

Answer 2

Check out this site...

http://www.thesite.org.uk/homelawandmoney/law/victims/textualharassment

I had the same problem, and have not had to take it far, but for a start I am able to store texts straight onto my computer for reference, an ability available to most modern phones I would think. I have also increasingly ignored texts, and in my case they have now stopped.

Apart from the obvious changing number etc, perhaps the phone service provider may be able to help, BT certainly have a department for this kind of thing, and I would imagine most telecoms companies would happily advise.

Just out of interest I have three numbers that may be of general interest to people on a similar subject, although I think they are land line numbers.

Nuisance call (BT?) 0800 661441

Silent calls 08704443969

Telephone preference service (marketing etc) 0800 398893

Answer 3

Do you know what it means to "mack on" somebody? How about what it means to be "dissed"? Perhaps you need some context. Here is our TV writer's summary of a new show titled "Teachers" (I added the emphasis): NBC dissed the great "Scrubs" once again by moving it to make room for this sitcom that centers on a misfit high school teacher trying to mack on hot women when he's not teaching a classroom of apathetic kids who'd probably rather be watching "MTV's Spring Break" on their iPods. If you like shows where cute people say witty little things, this one will do you right.

I have become familiar enough with "dissed" in the past few years to understand that it is short for "disrespected," a word that itself wasn't in my vocabulary. To "dis" someone is to insult him. But "mack on"? I could understand from the context that it involved interpersonal relationships, but I wasn't quite sure what it meant. I turned to the Urban Dictionary, a Web site that explains slang, often, I must warn, in graphic, earthy terms. I found out that, among other things, "mack on" is a term for high-powered flirting. I wanted to translate the term for our readers who, like me, might not be familiar with it. The writer objected. I left it alone.

What do you think? Should newspaper writers use ANY slang at all? Should writers use only old and familiar slang, like cool? Should writers pick up slang that is familiar among the readers who might be particularly interested in a specific story? The sitcom in question is probably aimed at the 18- to 34-year-old viewers, a group perhaps familiar with "mack on." Should writers try to connect with readers by using terms that the readers will understand right away? What if we use a term that has several meanings, some of which are obscene? Where do we draw the line?

As a copy editor, I allow feature writers much more leeway in using slang, but I know that sometimes we are leaving our readers confused or even irritated. The key is providing context, I suppose.

One good thing is that when we venture into slang we all -- old copy editors and our dear, devoted readers -- learn a new word. Cool.

Answer 4

she can always change her number, SIM cards are dirt cheap now, you can get them for next to nothing! Then your daughter can have a new number and just tell the people who need her number the new one! OR you could tell that girl that you daughter has saved all those nasty messages and you are now going to the police with them for harrassment! That should scare her and stop her doing it!! All the best!!

Answer 5

If the girl is threatening your daughter then she is committing a crime. Calling her names and not stopping when she has been asked to is called harassment. Call the police station and ask someone there what you should do. If you don't want to go that far then have your daughters name and number changed on the phone.

Answer 6

let ur daughter give this idiot a good battering, then maybe the idiot will think twice. Or a really good idea...... stick the phone up the offenders a**e!!!! then the idiot wont b able to text for a while. Good luck

Answer 7

Have your daughter tell her that she has reported her to the police and they are monitoring her phone so that they can charge her with harrassment.

That should scare her off. She sounds young.

If not, maybe a number change.

Answer 8

what your daughter need to do is confront the girl who is sending the nasty text messages and have your daughter beat her a**

Answer 9

well if tehyare thretaing your daughters like get a restraingin order so if she text she can get arrested or...you cna have teh fone company blaock her text messsages..or get her naotehr number..i personally think that that is so juvenile and whoever teh girl is needs to get over but tahts all i can think of for now

Answer 10

tell the phone service and they can block the number from texting your daughter or change her number