my best friend moved 3 hours away a little less than a year ago and now she wants to come down and visit me for about a week. I keep telling her that my schedual is waaaay too full for this but she wont let it go. how do i tell her that i dont want her to come down and visit?
2006-08-04 10:37:36 · 8 answers · asked by Meria 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be honest with her... but if she is your best friend don't you feel like making time for her?
2006-08-04 10:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her again. Tell her that although you would love to see her, there is no way that right now is a good time. IF she still continues to make plans you might have to be more blunt with her. (Blunt doesn't mean rude, just more forward). Tell her that you don't understand why she doesn't understand that she cannot come out right now. Tell her you don't want to hurt her feelings and it has nothing to do with her but you CANNOT make any time at all to see her. If it's because you really just don't want to be around her anymore then you are going to have to tell her that too. She will be hurt but it won't hurt as bad later on down the road when she figures it out on her own. She'll be hurt that you didn't just tell her instead of letting her think there was still a friendship there when there wasn't. We all outgrow certain friends. It's totally normal but you don't have to be mean about ending it. Good luck...:)
2006-08-04 10:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Stacy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she still your best friend? sounds not to me... but just let her know that it's really not a good time and if she is really a good friend she'll understand that to come back after a year she'll need to do better... than just dictate the timing
2006-08-04 10:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by SPYL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"It's not a good time to come down right now"
If she doesn't understand than shes not a Friend
2006-08-04 10:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by rsist34 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may be your best friend but you're not hers.
Be kind - be gentle - but be honest....it's best for both of you in the long run.
2006-08-04 11:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by Surething 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats sort of mean
2006-08-04 10:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by ♥OHIO*HONEY♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Leave me alone". Any questions?
2006-08-04 10:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isn't she your friend? why don't you want to see her?
2006-08-04 10:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by vicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋