My son is trying to convince me it is normal for the average 15 year old to go to bed at 2 AM, get up at noon, watch tv, go on the internet, and play video games all day. He never leaves the house and gets upset when his Mom no longer does him favors. He rarely helps around the house.
Please tell me how the average boy lives...
2006-08-04 10:21:41 · 14 answers · asked by Cherie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
this is the average 15 year old boy.
HOWEVER
if you don't want to help with dinner, you don't eat dinner.
if you don't want to vacuum, no video games.
if you don't want to dust, no t.v.
if you don't want to take out trash, no internet
if you don't want to make money over summer break, don't expect mom to buy you school clothes.
if you don't take care of you, then don't expect others to.
you only get what you give.
water in the face at 6:00 AM
if he doesn't want to get up or yells - make it 5:00 AM tomorrow. no naps - they are for babies, not 15 year olds. he'll go to sleep at a descent hour within days.
i know i'm a big B, but, you can ask any of my children, i don't put up with crap. and my children and grandchildren are exceptionally well behaved.
2006-08-04 10:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well from being a 15 year old once and a step mother of a 15 year old I believe that everyday should be productive that means, completing chores (more than the usual you have to earn your keep)! All that stuff you mentioned is a luxury (it must be nice to stay home leisurely while I work my a$$ off to afford you this)! That means I expect you to be studying or get a work permit and get a damn job! You will have a 11am curfew! What the hell is on T.V. that at your age is imperative to watch that isn't too explicit in some way! Don't eat in gluttony you get breakfast, lunch and snack and don't go rummaging through my refrigerator after 7pm and lastly you ask before you touch any-damn thing in my house! As for the computer if it ain't educational I would block it phone privileges are you can call friends but they better not call here and you can't use it after respectable time 9pm lastly You behind better be up when I leave out for work why the hell are you tired you ain't do nothing exerting!!!! Lastly that damn video game doesn't help you be productive and it's just a dumb dumb box so only 2 hours a day and not straight through you got to break it up! Let him have it honey but those are just my home rules! The house better be spotless when I get home from work too!
2006-08-04 10:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow, my parents would have never let me get away with that! We always had our regular responsibilities such as keeping rooms clean and weekly vaccum, dishes a couple nights a week. And in the summer those all stayed and we were expected to help with any household "projects" and minor yard work.
I personally would compromise by letting him keep his bed time set up (let him think he's getting away with something cause it's not really a huge deal) but have a list of weekly things he has to do (only five or so, not like washing dishes everynight and - building a fence or some major job could be the whole weeks' list) He can choose when to do them (his fault for leaving them all week if that's what he chooses) and if he doesn't want that he loses priviledges like the tv or something important to him. He is part of the household and should be expected to help out. Remember that you are the adults and he is only 15. You are responsible for helping him be as successful as possible in life and chores, unfortunately, are a part of that.
Good Luck!
2006-08-04 10:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by zetamomma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your son to get a job and find some friends to hang out with on the weekends
2006-08-04 10:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by sweetiepie411@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're lucky he'll be most likeley be interested in 13 year old girls. You should invite his friends round to your house and encourage them to go to any teenage social events in your area.
It may be a good idea to go away for a weekend leaving plenty of advance notice.
2006-08-04 10:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son should get a job and be able to help finacaily support him self instead of relaying on mommy and daddy. Don't give him money unless he helps around the house.
2006-08-04 10:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
in my opinion there is nothing wrong except bed time I usually go to bed at 10pm on Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays on Monday I go to bed at 11:10 and Friday I go to bed at 1am.
One more thing make him do some house chores.
2006-08-04 10:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's how the average boy lives. Sorry it's true.
2006-08-04 10:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Chels ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm,
I'm a teen and yeah, it is normal to stay up hella late and slept till whatever oclock in the afternoon. It's not normal to not go out..
but if he wants to hang around u should let him.
He's a teenager,
and he'll just end up resenting you and being p.issed off at you if you don't. Give the kid a ******** break.
2006-08-04 11:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
thats about how my brother lives. I think you should be firm about your decisions and make him work so the rest of the family doesnt have to pick up the slack.
2006-08-04 10:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by marishka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋