My mate needs my help but i need advice on how to help her?

Question

My mate who is a 17 year old girl nearly 18 years old
and she finds it so hard sometimes to go out her front door and gets upset alot, and sometimes she feels like she cant cope, she has seen lots of thearpy people, but nothing seems to work how can i help her? or what could i advice her to do?

Answer 1

I to have had problems going out. And have felt panicky of the outside world. I'm pleased to say this will change. It has for me. And it will for your friend. Don't push her to go out. Ma-by suggest outings were you know there wont be a lot of people,or go out with her earlier than you would normally. And always let her now you are there for her. Remind her of the positives of going out There is a book i have read that helped me (the road less travelled) by M Scott Peck. It made me see why I'm the way i am.

Answer 2

Could be an anxiety disorder or obsessive compulsive disorder, there is a great number of possibilities. To fully get a handle on the issue she will need a good therapist, or perhaps better a psychiatrist. A psychiatrist can prescribe any needed medication. To help her yourself, do not attempt to correct what you see as wrong, that takes special training. If she mentions seeking help, encourage her and offer any support she may need. Encourage her to be completely honest with the care provider, that is the only way to really see improvement. In the meantime, visit with her where she is comfortable. Maybe sitting inside by the door with the door open will be a first step. Ask her if she might try sitting on the front step with you while the door remains open. If she is resistant, don't push. The theory of facing your fears can and does work, but only when done in the correct manner. If attempted in the wrong fashion, the fear can be intensified and that would hurt rather than help her.

Answer 3

The first important thing to do is get proper diagnosis. Only a professional can do that. She may not be going to the right people. The only thing you can really do is be supportive and caring towards her. She needs to come to grips with her fears and find a way to conquer them. All you can do is be there for her when she needs you. Just don't become an enabler.

Answer 4

This may sound silly but...

If she won't go out to the people then bring the people to her.

Get with her Mum and have a party for her - no reason other than to get her used to being with people.
Every sports event on TV
Every family event
Every and anything

Answer 5

Keep your own mind stable. Act normal in her presence. Don't become emotionally involved. Tell her to walk out of this situation, and look ahead to when she is 30, How does she want to see her self? The first step to success is to try.

Answer 6

seems like agorophobia, need more info. e-mail me if you like. one way is what is called systematic desensititation, this is where you gradually get used to whatever fear you have. all the best she will need a friend like you because this takes a long time but it can be done, properley done it is 90+ percent successful.

Answer 7

I would just be her friend, be there for her. She doesn't need advice, but support. Carry on being her friend even when it's hard, that is probably the best you can do for her right now.

Answer 8

Sounds like panic attacks i have them but I am not an MD so she needs to see a psychiatrist its no big deal nerve pills help. Have a good one:-)

Answer 9

just be there for her let her talk cry what ever she whats to do. encourage her to keep seeing the therapist . It can take a long time to sort yourself out just be patient with her and a good friend

Answer 10

sounds like she has a condition called agoraphobia. Check the net.