I've had this best friend, since college. She is sometimes manipulative, and she isn't very trustworthy, and at times she can be down right immature and irresponsible. I love her like a sister though, she does have some good qualities, but I feel like she is immoral and dishonest a lot. She constantly disappoints me and doesn't keep her promises. I've written her off but am I wrong? Would you try and salvage the friendship?
2006-08-04 10:09:01 · 8 answers · asked by Fairy 3 in Social Science ➔ Anthropology
I would have stopped being her friend at college. It sounds like you are trying really hard to have the qualities of a friend, but the same qualities are not being returned. That's not a friendship. You are being used.
2006-08-04 10:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by ilikegum 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is tell her about herself. Maybe she doesn't feel she is being manipualtive, or untrustworthy. But you have to talk things out first. If you still feel after you've talked to her about it that she hasn't changed, then you may want to move on. One important thing to remember about any realtionship is to be accepting, this may just be who she is. She may never change. You have to decide is she is the kind of person you want in your life. The second most important thing is mutual respect. If either of you feel disrespected by the other, it isn't a healthy friendship. You should also establish personal boundaries. No one can make you do anything you don't want to do. Learn to say No when you really mean No. She should respect your decision.
2006-08-04 10:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by Oracle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you've just outgrown her. It happens you know. people grow during their lives and if you have grown and she hasn't, you're just not right for each other anymore. I've had it happen and I'm still glad I chose to end the friendship. It wasn't a real friendship anymore anyway. You could however tell her what it is you don't like about her. Maybe she doesn't have a clue and if she knows what the problem is she can make sure it doesn't happen to her with future friends.
2006-08-04 23:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would stop being friends with her. I've done just that most recently and it's very freeing and feels great that I don't have to be burdened by her bad choices and their effect on her daughters. Good luck!
2006-08-04 10:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it truly is particularly obvious that he's making use of you. you need to stay faraway from him and in no way be "acquaintances" with him anymore. He feels like a risky man or woman too if he says that he will harm someone's' vehicle. Jealousy is a really reliable emotion and he's particularly jealous even as he sees you with different adult adult males. Jealousy is likewise very risky because you do not comprehend what he's able to doing even as he's jealous. He appears like a freak. he's making an attempt to inform you what to do and who's he to do this? you need to have ended your relationship with him once he requested you to sleep with him! also you is probably not relationship any of his acquaintances or all and sundry it incredibly is close to to him, why get your self into that in case you comprehend that he's a creeper. believe me, he's manipulating you. he's asking techniques to make you sense undesirable about what you probably did once you do not even do something undesirable! If I were you i could in no way search for suggestion from this guy again and stay a techniques faraway from him. i do not comprehend the way you nonetheless dangle out with this guy after each thing he has carried out to you.
2016-11-28 02:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you need to start treating her with a long handed spoon dont do what she says and keep your guard up at all times sometimes even your best friend can be your worse enemy I know it has happen to me before.. just follow your heart and you wont go wrong with that :)
2006-08-04 10:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by ~*~ Stormy Weather~*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i wouldnt!!! you are doing the right thing. i have had to do this in my life and was glad i did. she will just bring you down with her. you did tell her how you felt and gave her a chance to corect what she was doing though? Right?
2006-08-04 10:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by kris s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
KEEP IT UP AND YOU'LL DESERVE EVERYTHING SHE DISHES OUT
2006-08-06 07:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋