It will be my first time,i'm ready,i just don't know how to deal with the pain
2006-08-04 10:02:26 · 14 answers · asked by duckanfrog 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If youre comfortable and really ready it shouldnt be that painful. My first time didnt hurt at all. Try using a lubricant though just to make sure. And make sure your partner knows its your first time so he can go slow.
2006-08-04 10:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do dont get drunk. Ensure a lot of foreplay so you get relaxed and wet, if you are not dripping use lube. Make sure he wears a condom. Have him streach you out with his fingers first and then slowly and gently push his penis in. Hold on to him and kiss him as he does this so you are focusing on him instead of pain. If it hurts stop. Your body is not ready yet. Afterwards you will feel a little bit of pain from being streached out. This is natural and when I lost my virginity that was the only pain i felt ( i was 18.5 years old) and he got really worried but he was good about it he held me and made sure that i was alright. We spent the night spooning with his hand holding my lower abdomen tight so i would have something to relieve the pain.
Just make it as loving as possible. Trust your partner. Relax and the moment something feels wrong stop
Not all women bleed. Its just the hymen tearing if you do bleed and that is a natural thing but most women and girls had it torn way before sex through sports.
The only pain i felt during sex was in my neck but only because we were having sex in missionary position and i had my neck pressed into the wooden arm of the futon so i suggest have a pillow to rest your head on.
2006-08-04 10:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by marishka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get comfortable being naked with your partner! Get familiar with each other's bodies. For me, this was a big thing to get over, and being comfortable just eliminates a whole set of things to worry about.
Practice with your partner inserting other things into you beforehand. His finger, a very slim dildo, (or a rounded toothbrush handle... yeah, worked for me! :D), anything that's solid and safe to use. Aside from getting used to the feeling of penetration, it's also a great trust-building exercise to do with your partner.
Make sure you and your partner talk about 'it' beforehand and during. Make sure he understands where your boundaries are, and also make sure that he will respect your wishes if you ask to stop at any time. If he won't accept any of these conditions, dump the bastard at that moment and save yourself for someone that truly cares about you.
When it comes down to the big moment, be relaxed. Make sure you have no chance of being disrupted by anybody. The security of being alone will make you much more relaxed. Use A LOT of lube (the stuff that comes on the condom is never enough for me!). Have your partner go very very slow. When he first starts, ask him to just hold it there without thrusting so you can get used to the feeling. Keep talking to each other. Keep breathing slowly and steadily.
My first time I did all of this stuff beforehand, and it didn't really hurt much at all for me. But every woman is built differently, so I can't promise you that there won't be any pain. Your first time may not be very glamorous and perfect like in an adult movie. It may very well be awkward and but if it's with someone you really love, you won't be embarrassed and you will remember your first time fondly.
Lastly and most importantly, protect yourselves! Use birth control! The last thing you need is to get pregnant or to get an STD.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 10:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by bettalover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain is not that bad. A far bigger concern is making sure you are protected against pregnancy and STDs. A little pain from breaking your hymen is over quickly; the consequences of not being protected can be with you forever.
2006-08-04 10:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always try different positions and find the one that best works for you, sex is not meant to be uncomfortable, tell your man about the problem and he should be considerate about it and help you through it, plus its a fun way of trying new things, that's always a plus! Hope everything works out!
2006-08-04 10:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok have you ever maturbated? Yuo should at least stick your fingers in your vigina plus my first time it didnt hurt i flt weird inside but not pain tell the guy it is your firts time to take it slow and if you dont want to tell him just say that you like it slow good luck
2006-08-04 10:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the pain will last only a short time make sure your well lubricated like make sure your turned on and make sure to use a condom to keep from getting pregnant or stds and have plenty of pads cause you will bleed
2006-08-04 10:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain sucks, if your not ready to have sex don't do it, I was sore and bleeding for 3 days.
2006-08-04 10:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um get drunk, that way you wont feel the pain. Lol Im joking thats what i did. But um it doesnt really hurt that much you will be fine
2006-08-04 10:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Alina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him go down on you before he goes in that way you would be too turn on to fell the 2 seconds of pain once your juices get flowing you wont fell a thing
2006-08-04 10:11:01 · answer #10 · answered by devoe442004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋