My boyfriend wants to have sex without a condom adn i really dont want to cause i dont want to get pregnant...but he says nothing is going to happen and that i will not get pregnant cause he will make sure of it. But that is not the only things i am not worried about since he is not using a condom.......ahhhhhh i am going crazy plz help!!!!!!!!!!! But i am not sure of anything he is tellign me...I am scared i am 20 yrs old by the way. What should i do? I want to make him happy though?
2006-08-04 09:52:07 · 74 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Dont do it
2006-08-04 09:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by Somebody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to have sex without a condom then don't. You need to feel safe during sex. If he doesn't want to have sex with a condom the he doesn't need to have sex at all. I fell for the same situation when I was 19 and now I have a 19 month old little boy. So just tell him you would rather be safe then sorry. He needs to respect you for you and your decisions. Just remember that you could get on a birth control such as the Depo shot or the pill. And that a condom does not protect you from any STD's and the only way to be certain that you are not going to get pregnant is to not have sex at all. Good luck and Glod Bless!!
2006-08-04 10:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend cannot "make sure" that you will not get pregnant if he doesn't use a condom. There is something called precum that comes out of the penis before ejaculation, and he cannot control it in any way, shape, or form. There are millions of sperm in a drop of semen--so any amount of semen can potentially impregnate you.
The best way to have sex and not get pregnant--without using a condom--is to go on some prescribed birth-control method, like the pill. HOWEVER, the pill does not protect against STDs. Only latex or polyurethane condoms, properly used, protect against STDs.
You could both get full STD checks from a doctor, and if you're both clean, you could go on the pill or something to prevent pregnancy.
STILL, if your boyfriend cheats on you, he could get an STD from somebody else, and then you could get it as well.
Your boyfriend is deluded about being able to control whether or not you get pregnant, and he is being utterly irresponsible. Apparently he won't listen to reason but is intent on pressuring you, perhaps to your disadvantage (not to mention his own--and who knows if he would take responsibility if you ended up pregnant?).
You need to draw some clear lines with him and tell him that there will be no more discussion about it. If he keeps pressuring you, get rid of him. He doesn't sound too terribly concerned about what you may want anyway. This is an indication of how he will deal with you in the future. Decide if he's worth the headache--and heartache.
2006-08-04 09:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!!!!! If he does not respect you enough to wear a condom then you don't want or need to have sex with him anyways........and as for him making sure of you not getting pregnant......yea that is what my ex said and now I have an 11 year old....I don't regret it...I would not ever go back and change anything.....but I am not with him anymore. So ask yourself this do you love him enough to trust that he will be there for you in the end? Will he support you and your child and be there anytime you need help? Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with him or even dealing with him? Well good luck, I think you already know what you should do....you are a smart gal....don't have a brain fart with some guy who just wants to get laid without a condom.
2006-08-04 10:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Having sex without a condom is a gamble with your life and your health. You could get pregnant or catch a disease. Don't believe all that hype about him not being able to feel you with the condom on. I had sex without a condom and I have my 14 year old daughter to show for it. I played smart for a while then I tried it again. I got away with it a few times. Then I got my 11 year old daughter. AIDS is out there like crazy now. People are dropping like flies. Don't be coerced. Don't be pressured. If your BF respects and cares for you, he will accept that you are not comfortable with this. The only time you show ride bareback is when you are married and your husband and you are clean as whistles and trying to have a baby. You can take that to the bank and cash it in BIG. His happiness should never supercede yours. Keep in mind, you'll be the one with the swollen belly as well as the one whose life changes forever.
2006-08-04 10:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it without a condom no matter what he says. As a matter of fact, dont ever do it without a condom unless you are 100% sure he is going to be there the day after he finds out you are pregnant as well as the day after you give birth.
Too many girls/women have their whole bright future from stupid stuff like this.
As a matter of fact, you would be better off not to have sex at all for another year, and if he is still around, then have sex while using a condom.
2006-08-04 12:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by Raiddinn Beatdropper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. This guys sounds very selfish. He can't even respect you enough to abide by what you want concerning condom use, he is a JERK! Cut him lose. He seems like the type who if he does get you pregnant he won't be there for you. So don't do it. Just cut him.
How do you know if he doesn't have a disease. I am sure that you are not the only one he has feed this line too.
Be careful and if u do decided to sleep with him PLEASE MAKE SURE HE USES A CONDOM AND USES IT PROPERLY. Because if he doesn't use it properly and it breaks he get the satisfaction and you get the false hope and all the pain and agony...
Good Luck, be strong I am sure he is putting a lot of pressure on you. BE STRONG and stand your ground its your body!!!!
2006-08-04 10:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you going to marry this guy? I mean, getting pregnant (although that is a very big deal) is not your only concern here. I'm not here to judge your boyfriend or accuse him of cheating, but how do you know whether or not he has any diseases? and what if he cheats on you some day and catches something, then he goes on and has sex with you and passes it on to you? Never have sex without using protection. I am glad I never caught anything all this time, but I would not play with STD's or my health in that way ever again. Plus, I am lucky to be married. Even then, however, women are not safe because of all the cheating @sshole husbands out there. Just be careful. I know you want to make him ahppy, but you don't want o contract an STD from this boyfriend of yours. They make those sheer condoms. I mean, if he doesn't understand, you need to just drop his condomless @ss. Good luck and God Bless
2006-08-04 10:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT. If you have unprotected sex, there is an 85% chance that you will get pregnant- are you willing to take that risk? You could also get any number of STDs if he's been fooling around or has something that is untreated from an earlier relationship. Use condoms (and preferably some kind of back-up method) until you are in a monogamous, committed relationship where you are either on hormonal birth control or ready to have a child.
2006-08-04 10:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER EVER have sex with a man without a condom unless you are on birth control or trying to have a baby, and you have both had std tests. There is no way he can make sure you don't get pregnant unless you're on birth control. Not even if he pulls out before he comes. If he actually cared about you, he wouldn't pressure you. Seriously, you deserve better than that.
2006-08-04 09:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by pisceswoman87 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is an immature moron. Neither of you are financially or emotionally prepared for a baby which is EXACTLY what is going to happen if you let him go without a condom. Why are you so concerned with making him happy? He clearly doesn't respect you. Dump him...he's a loser. You really want to get pregnant at your age, your life will be over and you'll end up like one of those disgusting trash welfare recipients on the Jerry Springer show!
2006-08-04 09:59:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋