I was sixteen when i first had sex with my boyfriend and, i don't feel guilty about it but a lot of people seem to think its wrong, i love him and i'm eighteen now and i haven't slept with anyone else but him, we're faithful to each other and my family loves him is it wrong because we're not married even though we've been together for a little more than three years?
2006-08-04 09:52:01 · 45 answers · asked by ♥ Penny ♥ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
dont even trip my girl was 14....when she lost it to me....now we are married !! :) you shouldnt listen to other people ...if you are happy with what you are doing!!! hey its your life!!!
2006-08-04 09:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 5⤋
It would only have been wrong if you were under 16 then in the eyes of the law there could have been problems. As you are 16 you are deemed to be old enough to decide for yourself. As for sleeping with your boyfriend before you are married, who cares, it is the year 2006 and things hae moved on a lot in the last 20-30 years. Forget it being a "sin". A sin is something that the church believes is wrong not what is necessarily the right decision for you. Have fun and stay safe, remember 16 is not too young for sex but it is a bit young for the responsibility of a baby.
2006-08-04 10:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by mind bender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention the boyfriend's age, but that hardly seems to matter now. I assume that you did not get pregnant so you practiced some type of safe sex, and if you have been faithful to each other good. Hope it continues. I don't blame you for not feeling guilty or anything, and I don't see where it is wrong at this point. I would have thought so when you were 16 because most relationships don't last at that age, but your on the right track so if and when you two decide to get married go for it.
2006-08-04 09:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by redhotboxsoxfan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously people have different moral boundaries, and society is becoming more and more lax every year. Ask anyone over 30 if there are consequences to taking a relationship to the physical intimacy level. Sometimes they are well hidden, and sometimes they are dramatic, but they are always there. There is a slim chance that a relationship that goes there too soon will last no matter what the age of the participants are, and even those that last are questionable as to whether or not they benefitted by going too fast. I am one who has experienced this several times, and though I can not change my past, hopefully I can influence someone not to make the same choices I did. God bless you.
2006-08-04 10:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by jchristop05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right and wrong are all up to your own Moral standards. You are having sex out of wedlock, that is a sin according to most religions. Mormons may not care who knows I sure dont. But One thing about being a Christian is that you can ask for and recieve forgiveness. One day you will be married, I hope to this same boy, now a man. At that time see your religious leader and confess and be forgiven for your sins. BTW I am not a theologist but I dont think this is a mortal sin, and the rules of God are not as well known as we might think. You might want to start asking forgiveness now, even though you do not intend to stop your relationship. Accidents happen every day.
Take care and take precautions too, at 18 you still dont want to get pregnant I am sure. I would be afraid for you if you were my daughter
2006-08-04 09:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by admiralgill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to understand the nature and quality of a serious relationship at that age. Years ago this would not be a problem because after marriage you would have little choice whether to remain married. Now, where divorce is so common, there is an easy escape readily accepted. My advice is to think about the future in terms of permanence- the day to day grind of living with this person- the quirks, the money, the everything and.........well, the chances of you guys staying a couple is slim to none, think that every moment and then try to move forward
2006-08-04 09:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by tonymrep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason people think its wrong is because the world was formed by God, and he made guidelines (waiting till marrage)for us, to protect our hearts.
you are loved by God and He should always be your first love.
Note: I understand not everyone believes this but its my opinion.
I council girls all the time with different stories about pre marital sex. No matter the circumstance, you are worth the world to God. Make sure your relationship goes deeper than just sex. You could make a commitment to your self and not have sex for a month... if the boyfriend cant deal with that then you can see his motives.
2006-08-04 10:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by rock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved him and you were absolutely sure that u wanted to sleep with him then it is not wrong, however 16 isnt wrong at all, if you were much younger say like 13 or something then you should really wait. But you 2 have been together for quite a while now so dont worry, what matters is that you love one another.... young love ehh...aww.... its so cute... sorry just reminissing my young days.. Good luck to the both of you...
2006-08-04 09:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by chromosone4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. If it was with the right guy, and you were ready for it (and you didi it for the right reasons) I see no problem. Not eveyone is at the same emotional level at 16, and no one here or even in your life will be able to tell you if you were ready- only you can know/decide that. If you're happy with the choice, then no, you weren't too young. Remember that whatever you do (in any field) you must do because it's your decision, and if you can achieve that then no one should be able to make you doubt it.
2006-08-04 09:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by Felix Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem with it is that the biochemistry of sex is such that you are attached to this boy because of hormones and chemicals, not necessarily your brain.
In addition, the big problem with it is that you are risking pregnancy and at 18 you are still too young to be a mother.
If you want to trigger each other's sexual feelings, do it in a way that doesn't put sperm in contact with egg!
2006-08-04 09:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way it was your decision and you both are still together and you love each other
16 is the most likely age for teenagers to have sex
plus you found a guy who is faithful to you
I'm also happy to hear that your family love
I'm happy for you not too many people get that kind of relationship
2006-08-04 10:12:06 · answer #11 · answered by annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋