what would u do if a guy that u been living with for 15 years and still will not commit
2006-08-04 09:45:34 · 20 answers · asked by angel m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd have moved out a long time ago. Find yourself another place to live and move away from him. Start going out with new guys. Start enjoying life again.
2006-08-04 09:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you say he won't commit? He seems committed to what he's got, a live in. Why would he change the situation? He's been getting "free milk" for 15 years. Why would he "buy the cow"? YOU decided to live with the guy. YOU didn't bother with marriage. Now, after 15 years, you decide it's not what you want. So, leave, or toss the guy out. If he wanted to marry you, he'd have asked loooooonnnngggg before this.
2006-08-04 10:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have taken a cue a long time ago. If you are ok with the situation, then stay. If you want more - then i suggest you get out and start looking for someone who wants what you do.
Why is he so afraid to commit? You have been living together for 15 years. That is an awful long time to waste on someone who is not wanting what you want.
2006-08-04 09:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i wouldnt be living with a guy for 1 year that wouldnt commit to me..unless i knew that we were just roomates and friends so it wouldnt matter..so that was the first incorrect step that you stayed with him for 15years..do you love him? well maybe if he doesnt commit..maybe he doesnt want to..your question is broad you should have put more details to get better answers..but after 2years or even 1..i would have left because i wouldnt stay with a man for so long and he wouldnt commit or he wouldnt know what he wanted..so for 15years you wasted your time and energy on a man and a "relationship" that obviously went no where..now look at you on yahoo answers asking this question..thats sad..if i was you i would leave now..i would pack my things and leave..because obviously hes not ready..or he doesnt want to commit to you if he has taken 15years to have his mind made up and is still not looking like hes making any more commitment then he has in the first year yall lived together..STOP WAISTING YOUR TIME!..move out! find someone else! find the same things you want! stop waisting your time with somehting that will never be! good luck! move out now!
2006-08-04 09:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Calendar_Model 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave, a man isn't going to commit when he doesn't have to. Why would he, he sleeps with you, lives with you, in his mind the two of you are married with out papers and why get the papers, leave and if he loves you he will commit to get you back, if he doesn't commit then find someone that will, Never move in with any one with out a commitment first
2006-08-04 09:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously? If it were me I would have left after year 3 but when you say commit are we talking marriage or just acting like he is in a "loving relationship"? 15 years????? Honey, I commend you on your patience and that guy better realize your a trooper of a rare breed because most women would have been left.........
2006-08-04 09:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by OhSoJazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think he'll suddenly change his mind tomorrow and he'll magically want to commit. If he hasn't done so in the past 15 years, then you should move out!
2006-08-04 10:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you live with someone for 15 years and still have no commitment? what is he, a room-mate?
2006-08-04 09:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out and look for someone else. he has all the benefits without all the hassles of the commitment of course he isnt going to commit. he has gotten away with it for that long and so why should he suddenly change. move out or live with the situation.
2006-08-04 09:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by mayami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think the only reason you stayed this long was because you had kids. Wait till the kids are grown, your already half way there, then your free to leave without all the expense of a divorce.
He's not ever going to marry you now. Why should he?
2006-08-04 09:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by daddyssoccermom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋