do not suggest taking away privledges or grounding. been there,done that and nothing helps. on top of that she has destroyed her bedroom in a home that is only 6 years old and gone through 3 mattresses in 1 year. we have her in therapy but we are at our wits end. can anybody help?
2006-08-04 09:29:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like she is out of control. I would put her in a military school. She needs to learn authority and you cannot seem to get the job done.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 09:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all 15 yr olds are a handful...in their own lil ways...and I am glad to read that you do have her in therapy...because it sounds as though she has even more issues than the normal 15 yr old..who has many on their own.
I would suggest that since you do have her in therapy that perhaps the therapist can give you some direction as to how to get your daughter to respond to things you ask her to do. Suppose the "hows" all depends on the "whys" of why she is acting out the way she does.
The short end of the answer though is: Patience, Tolerance and Understanding...and the very short end of the answer is:
Just love her...in time and with help for her...this will pass..but she'll remember you loved her through all of it....better days ahead. Hang in there..and good luck to you and your family.
2006-08-04 17:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by svmainus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no choice but to ride out the storm. Have you taken her to your family Dr? If not, take in her for a general check up. If he finds nothing wrong, at least you will know there is no stimulates causing this behavior. Some kids are very high strung. My daughter was one. Just love her, don't be over critical, and try and share her life with her as much as possible. 13 - 18 can be the he!! years for us adults. Sometimes even longer. Stay consistent and try not to stress to much. Pick your battles with her. Don't let everything be a tug-a-war. Just combat problems that are really necessary. Pray to God for strength, and tolerance. And maybe he will throw in a free bee, by passing time by a little faster.
2006-08-04 17:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound like any helpful answers. Oh boy, thats rough. How did she destroyed 3 mattresses? Did her behavior occur as a gradual thing or did it just happen. If it just happened i would speculate something is going on (drugs or something....eeek! i know). Glad to see she is in therapy. With the destroying of property...makes me wonder about bipolar disorder. Has the therapist ruled anything out like this or other disorders? If you need to talk IM me at believeinit28@yahoo. Good luck...
2006-08-04 17:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by Draya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't want to insult you, but have you ever stopped and asked her why she is acting this way? Drugs? School stress? What kind of people does she hang out with? Do they share the same behavior? You have to be very careful, to much could push her further away. What does she like? What's she into? sports hobbies? Maybe trying befriending her. Get involved in some of the stuff that she is into.
2006-08-04 16:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by Chuck 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call the state child welfare and tell them she is unmanageable. They will come take her to foster care or a home.
Maybe then she will appreciate what you have given her.
2006-08-04 16:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just restrain yourself from killing her for a few years and she may outgrow it. Sounds normal
2006-08-04 16:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg... the ONLY thing you can do my fellow parent.... continue to show support and love and bite your tongue when you can... it wont last forever but it will sure seem like it!
2006-08-04 16:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by wildest_rose1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT NOT TO DO ~ Whenever she does sumthin good give her a cookie!
2006-08-04 16:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well what do u ask her to do?
2006-08-04 16:36:53 · answer #10 · answered by Angle heart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋