I was looking up phone numbers, and couldn't find my biological dad's number, but I did find his dad's number... I never really got to know my dad, but when I was 7 years old, I did get to spend sometime with him. Then my mom started to convince me to chose not to see him anymore... I told him that I was happy and didn't want more to do with him so he gave up his visitation right and let my stepdad at the time adopt me. Well now I want to see him and get to know him, but if he has a family of his own, what if he hasn't told them about me? I really want to know if I should call him... and what should I say when I call my grandpa since I haven't seen him in such a long time too. What do I say or do????
2006-08-04 09:15:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am almost 16 now and I would be contacting him by phone. My mom doesn't know that I have found the number to contact my grandfather, and she would most likely not want me to contact them. My dad wasn't abusive towards my mom, just left her with a broken heart I guess. She doesn't like me talking to people that she doesn't want in her own life... Like my dad. Thank you alot for the advise, I could always use more though... I am his daughter and I feel that I should contact him, too... I think that the last I heard, he has a son now, he is probably 8 now. That means that I have a little brother... which would be great to get to know.
2006-08-04 10:22:16 · update #1
If your father was not abusive to your or your mother, I think you should try to contact him. You need to work things out with your father. It will help you in future relationships.
Calling your grandfather is a good idea. He'll be able to tell your father that you want to see him in private.
What should you say to your grandfather? "Hi, grandpa. It's me,
He'll probably fall all over himself to help you out. Think what he has missed out on through no fault of his own.
Good Luck!!!!!
2006-08-04 09:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to see your dad then you should give him a call. you could tell him that its been a while since you two have been together and you want to spend some quality time with him. if your days goes ok then you tell him that you two should have more time to spend together and get to know ezcgother a little more. when you see your grandpa you want to let him know how much you care for him and talk more about the things that have been going on in your eachothers life to know more. and if your dad hasnt told his new family about you, you should get some-one from his side of the family to call you and tell you if he has a new family. well i wish you good luck with your dad and grandpa.
2006-08-04 16:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mario S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Do you still live with your mom and stepdad? There's nothing wrong with your desire to get to know your biological dad. If you're not independent yet, your mother's/stepfather's feelings are something to consider. But as long as no one would be hurt, I think it would be perfectly fine for you to get in touch with your grandfather. Just tell him who you are, and let him know that you wanted to find out more about your dad; see how the conversation develops from there.
2006-08-04 16:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt let other people do your thinking for you. you dont say how old you are now or if you rae a boy or girl. maybe i missed that info somewhere along the line. at this point in time, i would go ahead & contact him. give him a reasoanble amount of time to get back to you about his true feelings about if he wants you to get to know his new family. if he doesent let you know after this time is up then i would let it rest for a while. how are you going to contact him> by letter? by phone? over the computer? choose your contact carefully to protect you & him respectivaly.
2006-08-04 16:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by rje46805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call. Don't expect everything all perfect and warm and fuzzy all at once.
What to say: You have grown as a person (don't know the time span here). You are rethinking your life. You would like to get to know them.
Regardless of what happened in the past, leave it in the past. Look at the future, and hopefully they will do the same.
2006-08-04 16:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by phseamstress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call your grandfather and ask how to get a hold of your dad. You don't want to live the rest of your life wishing you could have at least tried to start a new relatationship with him. Do it while you can... Good luck.
2006-08-04 16:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by thewomanbehindtheman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain the situation. Tell him about what your mom did to you. It was wrong of her to do that and makes her an unfit mother, FYI. Well anyway when you speak to your grandfather just tell him your name and who your looking for. Explain to him who you are and what happened. You were 7 for christsakes! If he really loves you he will understand, and if he doesnt, you dont need him anyway. all in all, it better knowning than wondering.
2006-08-04 16:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think you should call, you have nothing to lose , and if you dont you will spend the rest of your life regretting it. good luck.
2006-08-04 16:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK U SHOULD JUST FOLLOW UR HEART AND DO WATEVA U THINK IS BEST AND IF U DO U SHOULD SAY WATEVA IS IN UR MIND BECAUSE ONLY U KNOW WAT IS GOIN ON
2006-08-04 16:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by mexisalvi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes why not he is your dad after all!!
2006-08-04 16:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋