Feeling of sadness and despair
2006-08-04 09:10:26 · 8 answers · asked by stephanie s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As an adult child, you are not responsible in any way shape or form , the actions of your parents. What you are feeling is really the guilt of trying to blame yourself for their divorce. Adults divorce for any of thousands of reasons, none of which are because of the children, but yet the children cant help feeling to be the cause of it. But you as an adult should be more concerned with your own life now. There really is nothing you can do about it, so all your feelings are really for nothing. Be close to both because no matter what they will always be your parents, but show them that over the years together they raised a son to be proud of. Show them that you love them both still and will always be a part of their lifes no matter what they do now, but move on and start your life. Learn from this that nothing in life lasts forever and there is no guarantee of everlasting happiness. Just dont let this event direct your own life, dont ever feel afraid to try loving someone and possible marriage because no matter what you are feeling now, most marriages do last a lifetime and remember your parents probably would do it all over again if they could. Good luck
2006-08-04 09:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really not into the ultra physcho babble that goes on where everything makes us phsychological messes. If your parents would be more happy apart, dont' you want them to be happy. It's nothing about you or against you. They just don't love eachother any more. Would you rather have them stay together and be miserable?
It's a sad thing, but you just need to deal with it like an adult. They did it due to their relationship dissolving and not anything you've done or didn't do.
Dont' make this into some huge emotional lifelong problem that makes you a victim. Of course it's sad but your parents will be better off. It's about them and what will be best for them.
2006-08-04 16:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents did the same thing but don't be sad everything work out 4 the good i'm 13 my parents been divorce every since i was 2 and i been dealin with it since but after while ur get use 2 it so just hang and there
2006-08-04 16:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They didn't die, they just chose to have separate lives. They probrobly waited in misery all these years till you grew up to finally split. You don't have to pick up the pieces. You only need to be supportive and help when needed. It isn't about you.....it's about them. It is natural to feel sadness, that will take time. Just be grateful your parents are alive and able to make these decisions.
2006-08-04 16:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by MrsMike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not the only one going through this. I'm dealing with the same thing. My father divorced my mom 3 days ago. They were married 32 years. I kinda hate him. Leaving my mom now that she's ill. If you find get any ways to have closure on this write me and let me know.
pito_goyra@yahoo.com
2006-08-04 16:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by bella_mexicana_rellena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an adult, certainly divorce does not come as a shock to you? Your parents were miserable. You should be happy that they finally did something about it. Support them and be happy for them!
2006-08-04 16:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by Vincent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iv'e been there. My parents divorced when I was 31 yrs. It sounds funny that I too feeling the emotions that you are feeling, but my parents were unhappy with each other . which didn't have anything to do with me. their happiness is much better
2006-08-05 00:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by blue moon lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it to GOD
2006-08-04 16:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋