well just because he's the father of my child does not mean we have to be together, he can still do for her and we can be friends. MAYBE
2006-08-04 09:09:47 · 10 answers · asked by playgurl pooh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, it is all in the Mind, I would say.
What he went to jail is too important, but if that has changed him for the better and since he has done his time, I think you should sit down and talk to him.
Communicate, dont Implicate.
Forgive and when you forgive, forget. God always Forgives and Forgets. So why cant you???? 'Forgive us our tresspasses as we forgive the trespasses against us' Rings a bell?????
It is VERY important that your daughter has her father around. If you didnt, you would understand the value of a whole family.
How he and his daughter bond is upto them.
You can start liking him as a friend, and build up then.
And for the sakes of your child, dont put eachother 'down' in front of her. Would not be a pretty image for her young mind. Be responsible Adults. It is much easier to bring children into this world, but to make them into God Fearing Adults is tough. You owe it to eachother and to her to give her a good and respectable future.
All the best and God Bless you.
2006-08-04 09:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends...do you still love him? If so, why? Does he still love you? What was he in jail for? Has he learned from his mistakes? Do you think he will repeat them? How is he towards you? Your daughter?
The reason I ask is you need to really think it through. If he is going to be a repeat offender, then you're better off without him. Give him time to adjust back to the real world before giving him a chance at you again. Life is great when you're first out, but after awhile life catches up to you and reality sets in.
If you were having problems before he went in, they're still going to be there, just might take awhile to set in. I would really think about it and take time. If he's sincere and it's meant to be, then he will be there when the time is right. You asking this question is telling me that right now is not the time.
2006-08-04 09:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by tracylynne1973 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what he went to jail for and do you want to take him back is the question? What is he trying to do for himself now that he is home? Hopefully he is trying to find a job and stay on the right path so that he can be there for his daughter and try to make up for some of the lost time. You are right that just because he is your daughters farther it does not mean that you have to be together, but if you want to then give it a try just make sure that he is committed to doing the right thing, best of luck.
2006-08-04 09:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by Thandie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you take him back now? You should think about what got him there and how you felt while he was in. why go backwards. I think (well i can't really tell you what to do) But this is what I would do, because I had that same thing happen. I would be friends with him and if he is the man that I want in my life then it will be. If not then stay friends.
2006-08-04 09:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by Nita C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A similar situation happened to me. He used his "jailtime" as an excuse not to get a job for five years. Three weeks ago I discovered he was cheating on me and lying to the women, while I was at work and college. (I attend both full-time.) He told women I was dead or I was already out of the house.
I say start a new life with your child. I did it with my kids. It is difficult at first, but well worth it in the end.
2006-08-04 09:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by dawnsakura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jailbird? And you want him back? You're joking, right? Considering the justice system, he's probably not much improved. I'd need more information, but most likely he's not worth it anymore, and I'd suggest finding a second husband or something.
2006-08-04 09:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be with him just because he's your baby's daddy...I'd rather be by my daym self rather then screwing around with a loser. You can do bad by your self dear....Remember that movie Baby Boy? Even though it's not real, there is some validity behind it...If you screw with trash, then it could come back to haunt you.
2006-08-04 09:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend just got out of jail. Just listen to the way that sounds!!
That statement right there should answer your question!!!!!!!
2006-08-04 09:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by ABN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be so typical. No you shouldnt take him back hes a criminal and what can he really do for you?
2006-08-04 09:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did he got to jail for????
2006-08-04 09:11:47 · answer #10 · answered by ksgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋