Who hates Chinese traditions?

Question

Okay. I come from a multicultural background, and I hate the Chinese part of it. Why? Because my stupid Chinese relatives think the only way to achieve happiness and success in life is to go to damn university. What If I don't want to go? Why are they so narrow-minded?

Answer 1

LMAO....you're the same as me. I don't really like, nor am I interested in, learning about my Chinese part of my heirtage. Chinese tend to be stubborn and think that only they're way is best. They probably want you to go so they can brag about it and feel like the family is "mighter" "smarter" or whatever-er. If you look, they tend to wear tons of gold and try to buy the really nice cars, like Mercedes-Benz.

Do what you want to do. But honestly, don't let them sway you, one way or the other, whether it be consciously or subconsciously. Basically what I'm saying is just because they want you to go to college, don't let that make you NOT want to go just because they're trying to push for you to.

I would recommend going to college because just like how a high school degree used to be the minimun requirement for a good job and chance at a good career, nowadays a BA is the minimum (MAYBE an AA, but do go for a BA - better pay in the long run).

Answer 2

Actually, you're the narrowminded one (and I don't mean that as an offense). Young people are seldom appreciative of what a good education means.

At your age, I didn't want to pursue higher education, but I admit that it was mainly because I was bullied throughout my school years and I didn't want anymore of that. I didn't realize at the time that college (or university) is a different ballgame.

Life is very hard and unless you have some sort of entrepreneural instincts where you're good at making a lot of money (something that seldom comes easy to anyone), having a college or university degree opens a lot more doors and your jobs will pay a lot more than if you simply have a high school diploma or a GED.

Also, salaries are going down and even a Bachelors degree isn't enough anymore. That's how important a college degree truly is. I would really reconsider your decision, at least long enough to take even if it is two classes a semester (something that might interest you) and figure out what you would like to major in. It can really be a lot of fun just setting your goals and following them.

Answer 3

If you care a little bit more about your Chinese heritage, you will read a little about its history. Then you'll understand where your relatives come from. In the long history of Chinese culture, getting educated was--and still is for the most part--one of the very few ways to gain power, wealth, and more importantly, HONOR for the family.

I don't think you can call them narrow minded until you did an objective research and found that a vast majority of people on this earth who are successful (use your own defition here) didn't go to college. Maybe your relatives simply have more accurate facts than you do.

Answer 4

It's the Chinese culture, but for a good cause, the only way to get anywhere in life (and I am not talking about making money and stuff) is to get better education. Unless you want to end up like some of the people here on Y!A.

And this has nothing to do with the Chinese traditions. Chinese traditions are completely different from what you have just described. Go study chinese history, learn about Confusious, study the culture. There are alot of wisdoms collected over the entire history of China. What you described is just a typical modern Chinese family.

Answer 5

Yeah going to a University or College in the future has nothing to do with Chinese Traditions. It's a universal traditions. Hate to say it but your family is not the one who is narrow minded...need i say more?? You should be proud to be chinese and greatful that you have a family watching over you. How old are you? How come you sound so spoiled all of a sudden in my head??

Answer 6

Think your relatives are not narrow minded but you are.All your chinese relatives knew of the value of education and may be their experience made them say so.Its not only in chinese tradition,all asians value education and the children are made to finish their basic degree or graduation.Education helps you in long term.You will feel confident when you face the world with a master's degree.Success through education is a fact that one must accept.Its you who is going to suffer if you are not going to the university not your relatives.They are saying this for your own future.Be proud of your tradition and be proud of being a chinese.Respect your tradition and your background.

Answer 7

well, is not Chinese tradition, i am not Chinese and i think the same, an educated person is worth a lot, what u want to be?? and stupid ignorant who doesn't have an education?? come on?? where the heck is u brain?? did u even get one?? u finish college than u get a good job ( it's hard but u will) than u earn money doing what u love to do!! not going to college is the most stupid thing i have ever heard, but well it's OK, while i got my career and have a good job and lot of money i can pay u 7$ per hour, so u clean my house!! and walk my dog!

Answer 8

Your naive. Your Chinese relatives wanting you to go to a university has nothing to do with the Chinese tradition. From their point of view they see going to a University as a means to becoming successful in your future career and life.

Answer 9

Hey.I am half african american and chinese.The reason they seem so narrowminded is because they are?They are atheist.Not even agnostic.I am a hanif-muslim and I accept things for what they are.They believe in nothing that has true morality.Unless they follow the buddha.If your parents don't follow the 4 noble truths and the eightfoldpath path, they really don't care about true peace for you.As sad as this sounds this is the truth.And your assumptions were correct.But they are making sure that you will be financially stable for when you get older.That is a + in the situation.I am 23 now and have taught myself everything I know.Even how to find my own happiness.Sometimes, I think my mother is inept to love.I am 23 now and made myself a muslim and said I was crazy.I think she is crazy for some of the things she does.I was 19 when He called.But anyways.They really are that narrowminded and will care more about what they want before they even consider what you want.I hope this helped.BYE LOVE!

Answer 10

There is nothing Chinese about getting an education. Just go to the damn university.

Answer 11

University WILL pay off in the long run. What are your other options? Vocational school is alright in certain fields and can be done within a year. I know 7 years of university is not too tempting, so go with a shorter program. If your parents don't agree, get a temporary job and support yourself through it and see who has the last laugh.