My wife has left home and took my daughter with her, leaving me with every bill, ect. She now lives with her sister and her son, and all they do is party and act stupid. The only time I am allowed to see my daughter is when she goes to work., a couple days a week and that means I may see her for 6 hours maybe on those days. my wife says i have no chance in hell of convincing a judge to award me the primary residential parent. She doesnt want whats best for my daughter. My daughter needs both of us and she dopesnt care. What can I do? I have gone to a counsler in an attept to save our marriage and she refuses to participate. Nothing has really happened to cayuse this she just says she doesnt want the responsibility of being married anymore. anybody got any suggestions?
2006-08-04 09:03:22 · 8 answers · asked by alawhitesnake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get yourself a really good lawyer. I wouldn't worry about the cost. This is for your daughters protection and you can always get a loan or see if the lawyer will accept a payment plan. Unfortunately it is harder for dads to get the kids but there are fathers that have been granted custody. Not sure if it would help or not but you could possibly hire a PI to take pictures of your wife partying. Get all the amo you can.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 09:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to be married so there is nothing you can do to force the marriage to work. She is absolutely wrong about you not having a chance of getting custody of your daughter, especially if she left because she doesn't want the responsibility of being married, if she can't handle that how can she possibly deal with the responsibility of being a single parent! If you can prove that she is indulging in behavior that would make her unfit (partying constantly) you have EVERY chance of getting custody.
Go over there sometimes when you know she is drunk, announce that she is drunk and you are taking your daughter. Until there is a formal custody agreement in place posession is 9/10ths of the law, once you have your daughter she can't take her back unless you let her, same as her having control over you seeing her now (which she only has because you let her have it), you have the right to do the same thing to her, its just as much your child as it is hers. If she calls the police and she is drunk they will help you remove the child from that environment, you could even call the police yourself, say my wife is drunk and I am going over there to get my daughter ok? This shows that you want to do things right and are simply trying to protect your daughter, that goes over big with them, they may volunteer to assist you. Either that or pick her up when she is at work, take her home and don't return her, tell her you won't until she straightens up and sobers up. She'll have to get a lawyer and fight for her and the lawyer will advise her to behave like a pristine nun. Good luck, but don't let her buffalo you, its YOUR daughter too and legally you have EXACTLY the same rights to her as she does.
2006-08-04 09:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just knowing your part of this story, it is simple to say you have a right to see your daughter more than a couple of days a week.
There is a reason your wife "doesn[']t want the responsibility of being married any more." A counselor will want to know in order to help both of you. I can fill in the blanks, but that can be frustrating.
Given the benefit of doubt, I wonder how are you available on work days? There appears to be so much left unspoken.
2006-08-04 12:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by divabylaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a lawyer. He can get you visitation rights to your daughter. She is right in the fact that you probrobly can't get full custody unless you can show the court that she is unfit (that will take time and money). If you do try to get custody you need to show you can provide a good and stable home for your child. Our lawyers told us that it also depends on the age of your child. My husbands youngest was 11 and the lawyer told us by the time we settled all this in court they would be old enough to choose on their own. It could take years and take every cent you have and then they could choose to go back to the mother. Make sure you keep your child support payments up because if you don't and try to get custody - they will throw that in your face. And most of all, do not put your daughter in the middle of all this.
2006-08-04 09:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by MrsMike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a lawer.if all she is doing is partying the child don't need to grow up in that environment. and if you don't get custody the judge will set up every other weekend visitations i know that's not much. some woman just wanna be b****'* to get back at you but don't realize its hurting the child more than the father.and the child will resent her for that. I didn't ask for child support and he can have the kids whenever he wants.he does help get them to school when I cant and helps out . of course we are good friends even after what we've been threw.she just needs to grow up and get over it and do whats right for the child that she is hurting by not letting her see her daddy.good luck!
2006-08-04 09:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to prove she is a unfit mother with the help of a attorney, good luck.
2006-08-04 10:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer and go for custody, if you can prove she is out drinking all the time and neglecting your child then you have a decent chance of obtaining it
2006-08-04 09:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by dixie.flatline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill her.
2006-08-04 09:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋