i am a frade that my ex is going to come and get my kids
2006-08-04 09:02:17 · 26 answers · asked by bscootermom2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My sister had the same problem. She made it to where she or I had to go inside and sign my nephew in and out every day. Not due to his father but because an psycho ex boyfriend of hers who threatened to kidnap him after school and kill him. This guy is now in prison for attempted murder on his new girlfriend so we don't have to worry anymore thank goodness. It seems like a lot to deal with and it is but if you're that concerned about him taking them DO IT!!!!
2006-08-04 10:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by real_sweetheart_76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have full custody.....he cannot come and get them, ha has no say in the matter and all you have to do is notify the school that he is to not have any contact with them and is not allowed to come to the school unless you give the OK.....if you have not done this already you need to because if you haven't he can and there wouldn't be anything that you could do about it.....so you need to go and have everything put on paper that you can with the school and custody and also visitations if any at all.
2006-08-04 09:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid that he probably can. Does your ex have visitation rights? Does he live close enough that it is a probability? If you are truly afraid of him the only way to stop him from getting the kids from school is to let the school know that you are concerned about this and ask if they can inform you if he tries to pick them up. Even though I am sure he will have to sign them out, unless you have something legal that says he cannot, the school has no choice but to let them go with your ex.
2006-08-04 13:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by NaturalMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most schools at the beginning of the school year or when you enroll your children. There is a form to fill out. Who is allowed and who is not allowed to pick up your children. If you never received such papers, ask the school. At the very least talk to the Principal and anyone else concerned about your worries. Document everything and get copies. because if you do discuss and write such papers, and the ex does get the children the school will be in trouble.
2006-08-04 09:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can. If thier his kids by birth or naturalization he has every right to the kids. He can pick them up and leave and go home with them....Does he have visitation rights?
is there a reason why he doesnt have them? or do you switch.
It depends... if hes a danger and you can prove it without being a lying B****.. then he cant. GO to a lawyer and a judge and prove to the court why you ex shouldnt see your kids. becareful..caus a restraining order would have to be put in place or a restircted order. or you can make it so he cant take the kids unless epcifiied. it all depends on the arrangements of the divorce. see a lawyer.. though..
2006-08-04 09:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by SEXY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can request that the school not release them to anyone but you. If it's in your divorce papers, leave a copy at the school. I have one on file for my kids. Also, when you register them on some of the paperwork if may even ask if there is a custody problem they need to know about.
2006-08-04 09:07:34 · answer #6 · answered by icddppl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said u have the custody of ur kids then why u scared if he take them is very easy when he will do something and u think is against ur right call police and make blotter we will looking where he will landed.as long as the right and custody for the children is with dont worry the eye of the law is with u always.he can nothing to do expect if he ask permission to visit ur children and u allow that is another story.
2006-08-04 09:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by cute sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let the school know if your ex is a non-costudial parent. You have to provide them with a copy of the parenting plan and visiattion agreement signed by the court so the school won't realese the kids unless you have made previous arrangements.
Good luck
2006-08-04 09:07:20 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have something from the court that says you have full custody then you can arrange for ONLY certain people to be allowed to collect them from school. he can NOT just walk in and take them out of school. More and more commonly these days, schools are requiring Photo ID when you collect your kids from school so if your kids are in one of those schools then he can not go in pretending to be anyone else and get them that way either. Schools that do NOT require ID can be told to ID EVERYONE who comes for your kids. There are ways to prevent him from getting to them in school...you just have to be creative. IF there are extenuating circumstances (Protection order, no visitation for him, etc.) you can deliver a copy to put in the kids' records at school so they know to not allow him to have contact or take them and to notify authorities if he appears on school grounds. Many things you can do...find out what your rights are and what you can do by talking to the school and an attorney and relaying your fears to them.
I have an ex in prison and do everything I can so that IF he gets out and I am NOT notified, he can not simply walk in to my daughter's school and see or take her. I have death threat letters to back up my needs though. Your case might be different...don't know. Hope this helps!
2006-08-04 09:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to provide the school with a copy of your divorce decree that shows he is not allowed to pick them up. Also make sure to make note of that on their emergency card. I would also go the extra step to personally go in and notify the office staff.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 09:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋