My former husband and I have remained very close since our divorce. We sit together at our son's sporting events, attend conferences, etc. This is awkward at times because people assume that we are still married and still address him as my husband. How should I correct them in these situations?
2006-08-04 08:59:32 · 45 answers · asked by workinggirl418 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When someone says "your husband", smile and politely correct them by saying "my EX-husband, actually". There's nothing wrong with being on good terms with your ex-spouse; if some people have trouble with it they just need to get over it.
2006-08-04 09:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with some of the others- I would refer to him as a friend for a few reasons.
First and foremost, your child will be happy knowing that his parents are still good friends. I grew up with my divorced parents HATING each other, and it was very uncomfortable for everyone involved.
Secondly- if it's someone who you will keep running into, they will leave it at that. If you say it's your ex, you know how some people can be, there will probably be more talk about it.
Either way, whatever you do, I think its awesome that you have a close relationship with your ex. That is very healthy for everyone involved.
2006-08-04 09:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why make yourself and everyone else uncomfortable, or more so, by correcting anyone? It seems it would only add to an already uncomfortable situation. Something you COULD do is wait for an oppertunity when you are alone with that person and let them know. Discression is the best way to go to avoid more embarrassment than neccessary for you, him, or them. Best advice I can think to give, under the circumstances. I can certainly see this as something that would become tedious at best. Having to repeat it multiple times to different people. One question I have is WHY isn't HE doing anything about it? Why is this issue only up to you to deal with and have you spoken to him about it? Hope this helped.
2006-08-04 09:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You state that your ex-husband, and you remain close, and yet you are uncomfortable when people assume you are still married. Mention your being uncomfortable to your ex-husband, and if he has no objections, when someone mentions the fact, Tell them he is your ex, but a very close friend, and still your son's father.
2006-08-04 09:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could call him anything you want.... but to answer your question.
If someone addresses him as your husband, just politely correct them. Say oh, I'm sorry this is my Ex-husband Bill or Tom or whatever his name is. Unless you still like the sound of that? Maybe you want people to assume you are still married?
2006-08-04 09:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are divorced, then why in the world are you not telling people that he is your past??????
Are you keeping up appearences?? Have you thought about what your son is thinking about all this????
In anycase, I think what you should do is 'correct them the next time on' Tell them he is your EX, in a more diplomatic way, thats all.
Discuss with him about this and make sure he agrees with you on your answer.
2006-08-04 09:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he say when this happens? Does he try to correct the people when it happens? I don't know I might not correct it at all..........or if you have to....just tell them no no we are not married anymore we just stay good friends for our kids......let me ask you this......if you get along so well why are you divorced...sounds like you should think about getting back together....why not?
2006-08-04 09:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce him by his first name. No title need to be given. If the person persist you can share whatever information you chose to. This should really be worked out in the event either of you get into another relationship. No ones business but yours and his
2006-08-04 09:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When its appropriate yes. When its that kid joes parents at the baseball game that have nothing to do with you, or when the kids are around no don't bother, it isn't their business anyway. You could always just say ex husband to correct them, you don't need to offer anymore explanation than that.
2006-08-04 09:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it someone you know quite well, tell them you are divorced but friends. If you don't know them, it's none of their business. Unless you are uncomfortable with people thinking you are still together, what difference does it make what other people think? I think it is wonderful that you two are still friends and the two of you spend time together with your son.
2006-08-04 09:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋