Ok the guys got all offended when i asked them this question and said i should ask the girls because their just as guilty. Of course it's always easy to point the finger at someone else when we don't want to own up to things. *shakes head* I am not saying all guys are this way or all girls are this way but i do believe quite a few are. I do not ask these questions because i am fat and ugly i'm actualy very small and slim...lol! I ask because i am trying to understand people. It makes me sad when i see girls and guys acting to desperate for love and sex. PLEASE do not get offended. If this doesn't apply to you than move on. If you act all defensive than it leads me to believe that you are guilty of this.
2006-08-04 08:56:00 · 39 answers · asked by mountaingirl88 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I LOOK INSIDE
2006-08-04 08:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thiknk EVERYONE is guilty of it in part. I dont think that many people will tell you that they can date/screw someone that they are not at least somewhat attracted to. My exboyfriend can... You should see what he is seeing now, but most people have some sort of standards when it comes to what the person looks like before they get involved. Im not saying that I will only go for someone if they are HOT, but I have to be physically attracted in order to want to do anything more. Maybe I am too picky seeing how I havent taken the bait from anyone in 9 months, but some of the guys were very attractive... I just didnt like the personalities... See how it works both ways?
2006-08-04 09:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone is attracted to the outside of a person first, both sexes. Especially when you're a teenager and you have those raging hormones. But at some point looks come second to who a person is on the inside...a connection has to made between people, and you can't do that just with how you look. Looks are just the starting point! And everyone has different tastes and different opinions, so one person's looks might not appeal to one person, but will suit another one perfectly. All the more reason to see people for who they are, not what they look like. It's something that comes with age, I think.
2006-08-04 09:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing you see in a person is what they look like but unfortunately some people don't see the inside at times and they need to see the inside of people to see ones true self always remember there is someone for everyone and what you may not think is so good looking to you someone else may think they are hot!
2006-08-04 09:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by ThePearl412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad & I have had a discussion like this a few times. Sadly that's partially a biological thing so we're all wired to do it whether we like it or not. We are technically animals & that's how it is in nature. An animal picks a mate based on strength, appearance/symmetry...etc. If they appear healthy then they are worthy of procreating & ensuring survival of the species. An animal is not gonna pick a mate who is sickly looking or anything like that. We are the same way, if the person is attractive then subconciously it tells us they are healthy & whatnot. Some people do act strictly on that but on the other hand there are people (like myself) who don't & choose personality, compatibility & whatnot instead. In time, if they fit together then that person becomes attractive to them even if they are not to others. Trust me, if you've seen the guys I've dated...I definitely did NOT go for looks! LOL!
2006-08-04 09:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by §uper ®ose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys do show off! Not with our bodies, but with objects such as cars and fancy watches and phones. We act tuff and show that we are the strongest of the pack, and women look pretty. Thats life. Girls can care less about whats inside at first, same with men. WE dont walk up to a fat person or ugly person and go "hey id really like to get to know your brain"
2006-08-04 09:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ry M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I admit I do, but that's at first glance. I dont think people would like an ugly mate, would they? But I really do fall for personality. There are many good-looking guys out there. I take a first glance, go WOW, but after I find out he's a jerk, it's a total turn-off... So it's not exactly that I'm attracted to the outside. I'm attracted to both.
2006-08-04 09:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by somethingsovague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree alot of people are superficial like that. I have many friends who are.
For me, the looks get my attention at first, but her personality drags me in and is what i really come to love overtime.
If you want to look at the scientific explanation for the answer to this, usually better looking ppl are who produce the most fit children, so you are instinctively drawn to those people.
I am also sick of all those desperate for sex, its a sign of the times... but i understand why people are desperate for love. I am. I think everyone is to a certain point. I just love to be in love, i love to have a partner. Its just a natural thing for humanity.
2006-08-04 09:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Subtle_Romantic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"fat and ugly i'm actualy very small and slim"
uhhh... so are you ugly or not? because small and slim are sort of the same...
anyway... how do you act desperate exactly?
everyone has different tastes for potential partners/mates, you might think they are resorting to desperate measures but they may not be...
when i meet people, i usually talk to the ones that attract me the most... and most of the time thats personality shinning and not the actual appearance...
2006-08-04 09:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by Crankers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's true, but I want to also add that girls don't neccessarily look at the outside, they are emotionally influenced. That's why sometimes, you don't understand why girls do some things. Well, about love and sex. Everyone needs love, for love brings peace and other good stuff.
For sex ask the condom companies.
2006-08-04 09:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by davysaga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know some people who are like this. and they are very shallow. me i dont understand cuz i was always told that it is the inner beauty that really counts. i think alot of why they are that shallow about looks have to do with the media. look at what the stars look like. and how they dress. the media make it sound like if you dont look like that then you are ulgy, and not worth anything. people need to understan looks go away. so i married a guy that i think is good looking (he dont look like the stars) bt he has personality and when his looks fade i will have someone i have a deep emotional connection with, and who i can carry on an inteligent conversation with. cuz that will last forever unlike a persons looks
2006-08-04 09:08:03 · answer #11 · answered by silver_princess16_03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋