Should I be offended by my fiance calling me a waste of flesh? Or should I brush it off?

Question

I am a man and she is a she

Answer 1

Was she pissed as you for something? Does she do it all the time? If it was a one time deal, then you may just want to brush it off. If it's a habit, and she calls you other lovely pet names, then you need to put a stop to it.

Calling your significant other names with malicious intent is not a way to keep a relationship together. You need to determine whether this is a pattern or a one time deal, and if this is something that can be fixed?

If it is a pattern, you may want to reconsider the whole finace thing. Verbal abuse is probably not something you'd really like to deal with in a relationship, let alone a marriage.

Answer 2

As the fiance referenced in this question I feel I have to respond....first of all, please tell me when I ever said this to you because I do not remember that at all. If it was said, you should think about who you were actually with because it was not me. I agree with what people wrote though.....if I actually said that to you I would leave me also.

Since the question you wrote is false then my question to you is why did you write it? Do you think of yourself in this way? Did I say something to you that made you upset? Last question.....why would you write a question on here instead of coming to talk to me? The key to a good relationship is good communication, but it seems to me that you are devoting more time to Yahoo answers than to communicating with me and I think that is a much bigger problem. Let me know if you would like to discuss any more of our personal situation on Yahoo Answers.......

Answer 3

Just think if she can talk to you like that what are the chances what she says to you later will get nicer? Not likely. If you let it slide you are saying it is okay for her to say that and worse in the years to come.
Don't know the reason for her calling you that, but she did and that opened the gate. My rule of thumb is "if you never say anything bad then there is nothing to regret or wish you could take back". Respect yourself and don't allow this behavior towards you.

Answer 4

Yeah, right now you're a waste of flesh. Tomorrow you're a stupid moron. The next day, you're scum on a windowsill. Or the next, poop on a shoe. It's going to escalate, and you'd be foolish not to be POE'D about it. I'd be like, WOW, you really value me. I'd keep that in mind and it would be hard to let it slide. I personally would be done with it. I don't take disrespect like that.

Answer 5

yes you SHOULD be offended by that! Don't brush it off AT ALL!!!tell your fiance that you refuse to be talked to like a piece of crap, and be prepared to back up your words with actions. If that doesn't reach them, stoop to their level....a good insult is, "I'd call you an a*shole, but an a*shole has a function!" or maybe they are too brain-dead to get that one.....

Answer 6

Personally, I would be very offended. I would also reconsider marrying someone who thought so little of me. I think it is a power trip on his part, to control you. Get away from him and find someone who cares about you!

Answer 7

That is verbal abuse; don't brush it off as the cycle of abuse starts verbally and will most likely increase as he finds out what you will/won't allow him to do.

Answer 8

Just brush it off. Im sure he didnt mean it

Answer 9

You need to find someone better is what it sounds like. Who in the world wants thier significant other to talk to them like that?

Answer 10

Yes - even joking around you don't say something so hurtful/spiteful to someone you love.
Maybe you should rethink your marriage plans!