ok so my bf is coming from Germany in 2 weeks, hes a virgin, hes 6'8 and skinny. I'm 5'4 and weigh abt 180lbs. He says weight dont matter, but if that was ture than guys wouldn't always want the "barbie doll" type. We r both virgins and i have big plans 4 us. So when it all starts to happen and he starts touching me I dont wanna feel like he is thinking "ewwww." This is a serious question, so not smartasses plz.
2006-08-04 08:38:58 · 37 answers · asked by Ali G. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the actual question is... DOES WEIGHT MATTER?
2006-08-04 08:42:17 · update #1
I understand your fears; I'm overweight myself. I rarely feel sexy.
The thing is, you are what you are. You're not going to lose very much weight in the next two weeks. If you make love with him, he's going to see you the way you are.
You might feel better if you talk to him about it. Let him know that you worry about being desired by him. (As skinny as he is, he may have the same worry.) If he's a nice guy, once he knows that, he'll take good care of you.
BTW, the articles below may help with the first time.
2006-08-04 08:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, when I was a teenager I would say Yes weight does matter. I used to care about what other people think. I dumped a chick a week before school started because I didn't want people to know. Now that I am older I can say that I have had my fair share of heavy Hunnys and Barbie Dolls. The one thing that I have found that it really is whats on the inside that counts. If you are willing to give up your virginity to this guy that means you two must really love each other.Then size shouldn't matter at this point. I guess you could call it growing up? maturity? call it what you want. Just make sure this is the right decision.
The dude Pete will realize when he gets older that size isn't as important as the person on the inside. The person that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2006-08-04 08:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by Chuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is a bit confusing but I kinda see what you are getting at. I am 180 pounds 5"3 my hubby is 6"4 and 160 pounds. Sometimes I don't feel like I am sexy enough and that he is not longer into me. he always get mad when i say crap like and yes I know better.
As long as YOU think you are sexy then that will show in your face and other people wil start to think it too. I know its kinda hard to believe but its true. He should like you for you. If he does not like you for you and only by the way you look then I would be finding someone esle to be with.
Now as for it being the first time I would not be planning it. Its not as good. Its needs to be something that just happens. If you plan it then it may really not be the right time for you or him. Ithink you should get to know eachother before you do something that you both my regert later. But if you do BE CAREFUL and use protection.
I hope all goes good with you and your freind.
2006-08-04 08:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by purplebutterflyhippie04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it does. Even if he's 6'8", he's still not gonna weigh much more than you.
And I made a golden rule about that...no girlfriends less then 30 pounds lighter than me (and that's for women about as tall as me....the short ones better weigh about 40-50 pounds lighter). I'm muscular but it's still no cakewalk picking up a woman who weighs as much as I do.
BOTTOM LINE....if he's cool with it, and swore up and down weight isn't a problem, why are you worried? I know that not all guys are as picky and shallow as I am. One warning though....he may not think you're AS big as you are.....guys will sometimes drop blind dates over that kind of thing...I mean I know I have, and some of my friends have. On two occasions I went along with it for the first date, 'cause I didn't wanna be a huge jerk and just walk off. I guess I was still a jerk anyway....but in both cases they lied about their weight!! Good luck to you, hopefully everything will work out for you guys.
2006-08-04 08:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by Pete El Pirata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all does he know what you look like? Second of all does he go ewwwww when he talks to you? And if he dosn;t mind that you are on the cuddlier side of things You are the one with the problem and not him, my husband and I are exactaly the same as you and your boyfriend, but my husband loves my bumps and curves more then if I looked like a barbie doll. He even tells me he dosn't know what he did to deserve such a sexy attractive woman, sexiness comes from within not on the outside, outside looks only last so long as long as you are happy with the way you look you should feel sexy feel good about yourself and stop worring about what you boyfriend may think when he is caressing you, beleive me a guy will not sleep with you if they are turned off by your weight. I hope all goes well for you and your new beau have fun!
2006-08-04 08:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of men out there that like heavier women. In fact, there are men that prefer it. There's a club called something like Big Beautiful Women where men come to meet large-sized women.
I know plenty of big women that are happily married and/or in a serious relationship with "normal" size men. They have active sex lives and love each other deeply. Please stop stressing about it.
And if I were you, I wouldn't make big plans with him. Just enjoy seeing him and spending time with him. And if something happens, well, that's fine. But sometimes when you try to force the issue or plan things, it can be stressful and not turn out the way you imagine.
It sounds to me like you and he have never met face-to-face before. If that's true, then you and him may not click physically. And it won't have anything to do with your size. So just relax and enjoy him and the time you have with him. Again, when people are in love, size doesn't matter.
2006-08-04 08:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mistress T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to be comfortable with your body. I am sure you are the only one worried about what you will look like. Your boyfriend knows what you look like so I do not think he is expecting to be in bed with a 5 foot 9 inches 110lbs. girl. He expects to be with you. Just relax and enjoy it. You are losing your virginity; this happens only one time. It will be a bad experience for you both if you are all tense because you are worried about how you loOK. Sex is never good when people are tense. So just relax and know you about to experience something sweet with someone you care about. ok? Relax and enjoy!
2006-08-04 08:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"but if that was true than guys wouldn't always want the "barbie doll" type"
This is a stereotype feed to most woman of what guys REALLY want. But the truth is guys actually do prefer some actually fat and skin on their woman. Do you think they really want to hump a block of cement?
If this guy really likes you he's going to like you for YOU and that includes your personality AND you're body.
2006-08-04 08:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by K. V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man is real in any way then he won't look at the cover of the book. A good person who has any heart or smarts knows that beauty is only skin deep and what is within the heart and soul is where the real beauty is stored. have confidence within yourself. present yourself as you are and please your man with true happiness and confidence.if this is a relationship based on sexual pleasures then you should wait . when the time is right to lose your virginity you will know it.
2006-08-04 08:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by rbrt_hmmr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter but unfortunately to some people it does matter. He may not care and most men don't care. But you have some vane jerks out there that do. But those are the ones that you don't need anyway. You don't sound like you are all that heavy anyway so things should be fine. Good luck.
2006-08-04 09:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋