Could you ever walk away from your own child?

Question

No I mean in the case of a relationship breakdown - 40% of fathers apparently lose contact with their children following seperation/divorce..

Also some choose to have nothing to do with their children from the word go..

I have a gorgeous baby daughter and I just could not imagine not knowing her, how she is or any circumstance that I could walk away from her - just wondered how some people can..

I should add - I have no intention of leaving my daughter.. I just wonder how some parents can.. because I love her so much I can't imagine ever being in a place I would even think of it.. if that makes sense?

I should add - I have no intention of leaving my daughter.. I just wonder how some parents can.. because I love her so much I can't imagine ever being in a place I would even think of it.. if that makes sense?

Answer 1

our mother did this to me and my sister , not that she should have stayed with our dad if they fall out of love then fine but to leave a two year old and a 6 month old why??? i often wondered my self . \\she didnt want to use the days for visiting so we never saw her for years till we were quite old twleve i think it was she contacted out of the blue . I have kids and i would never walk away from them yes from an unhappy marriage my kids never i dont understand it guess i never will.

Answer 2

Never! My daughter goes to my mother's 1-2 weekends a month (my mom begs me to leave her over there. She loves being a grandmother!). It was, and still is, hard. At first, I would go over at 2 in the pm, and not leave until about 6:30 because I couldn't bear to leave her. Then I would call 2-3 times that evening, then first thing in the a.m. and be there by 11 am. I have gotten better, but.......I have a hard time leaving for a day, I can't imagine missing out on watching her grow up! People like that never should have become parents in the first place. I love my daughter sooo much. I could never walk away.
I don't think her father could, either. My daughter and I went to stay at my Mom's for 2 days, we had a terrible heat wave, and my Mom has a pool. He couldn't sleep, he was lonely. I came home, and he ran to the door to greet us, and hold her. Some people are simply more family oriented than others, which is a shame, because sharing a child with someone that you love deeply is the greatest expirience, and gift, anyone could have.

Answer 3

We often think we can. Depends how old they are, and what is going on in your life. If they never stop screaming, demanding, wearing you out, it seems the easier option. I had mine fostered for a while when they were 5 and 6 cos of divorce etc. (Many year ago). What I really needed was support and a chance for a break, sometimes not always possible. They took ages to get over it and caused even more problems of insecurity with them when they came home. Depending on what your bigger picture is, I think it is possible. I didn't in the end, but their father did, and has never seen them again since those days, and they are now in their 30's. Mum is expected to stay no matter what, and it's half expected for dad to walk away. But I can really understand that temptation to leave it to some one else. I thought of it, but glad I stuck it out.
Wasn't easy and they still remind me sometimes when we argue. I hope you find the answer within yourself - dont feel guilty, you're only human. Good luck

Answer 4

My daughter is 19 months old and I can never imagine not being in her life. When I put her to bed at night I can not wait for the next morning so I can see her rise. I will be her role model, I will be her rock, as long as I am alive I will be my childrens security in an unsecure world. Being a parent is lifes greatest gift. We must be our childrens compass so that they can never get lost. The chance of me walking away from my children. 0%.

Answer 5

if you mean put up for adoption, i did that when i was 16. it was by far the best choice for both the baby and me.

if you are putting it in the context of a parent that walks out on his or her family, i would never be able to do that. i had a baby 2 weeks ago and i made the doctors let me out less than 48 hours after my c-section because i missed my other kids so much. not to mention i watched my dad do that to me and my brothers and sisters...not just once, but 3 times.

Answer 6

No but I can understand how some mothers are driven to distraction by the crying. I know I was at the end of my tether 15 years ago but luckily I pulled myself together. I think people have reasons for walking away frightened post natal depression. there is help out there

Answer 7

I am addicted to my son, I need to be with him all the time. I think if my husband and i ever split, I couldn't not let him see our son, It would not be fair on the baby. A father is an important figure in any childs life. They need both the mother and the father to lead them the right way.

Answer 8

If I were strung out on drugs and or alcohol and had no stability to offer the child than I would painfully walk away knowing that it was in the best interest of the child.

Answer 9

You have to give more information! like when they are crying? or when they get older and throw a fit at the store? or just cuz you plain ole couldn't deal with them??

I could never walk away from my son when he is crying... unless I know he is okay, and in a place (like his crib) that he can't get hurt. When he gets older and throws a fit cuz he can't get something then yah I would be okay with walking away,,, if I give into it then he will be spoiled.. at that age you gotta ingore the bad behavior because you are rewarding it if you acknowledge it!

Answer 10

I have 7 kids.... All of them I love and love but then I've got steps, new children and adopted children who I haven't counted.

Never disown a child!