I now live three miles from my job and have my child on the weekends. My exhusand (the father) wants me to move into the guest room because he cannot keep house (it is such a mess I considered calling child welfare), he says it is because our child is now a preteen (12) and needs me there (no he will not give full custudy). My concern is he gets on my nerves and lives 37 miles from my job. He owns the house (on over 200 acres of family land) so him moving closer is not an option. I want to be with my child every day but I am tired after working and cleaning, doing laundry, and putting up with his drama is draining.
2006-08-04 07:44:52 · 15 answers · asked by CharKaye 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Okay. now why did you leave the man in the first place? Do you think that you could go back to that situation. Will he barter, you keep the place clean and no rent for you, save money. If he will do that, you can save enough cash to buy your own place and then maybe looking into having your child. I would take pictures of the situation that you are getting yourself into, then consult and attorney and ask him just for a consultation about the situation you are getting yourself into. As far as the Drama is concerned if you are moving in with him get ready for it on a full time basis. Do you really want to deal with this?
2006-08-04 08:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by JOJO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no way!!!!!!!! STAY WHERE YOU ARE!!! YOUR EX-HUSBAND JUST WANTS A MAID AND NANNY!!!! the child lives with him,he is responsible and if he wont keep house then YES!!!! call child welfare!! he wants his cake and eat it to!!!! HE has the child, family, money, etc and wants you to take all the bad stuff plus putting up with him!!! hes insane!!! dont put up with his drama, do something good for yourself and set boundries with this creep and dont let him cross them!!! of coarse he wont give you full custody then he couldnt make your life hell!!! do what you can with your child and be there for her and enjoy her on the weekends but dont let him use her to use you!!!! you deserve a life to !!! let him hire a maid or better yet, he could step up to his own responsibilities!!! i hope you make some wise choices for yourself, this isnt all about the child. hes being very selfish and so busy with his own life hes not taking care of her, he wants you to so he can go on being selfish!!! poop on him!!! also maybe the child could learn some chores as well, but not to the point of taking care of him!!!
2006-08-04 08:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by kini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't get along with him it would not be a good idea for you to move in with him. Your child is old enough to be able to help out around the house. The sooner they learn to do chores the better adults they become, and more independant.
2006-08-04 07:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are You Insane - Listen to what you said His House on FAMILY LAND he can put you in the street anytime he wants - Find someone for your self someone who would help you, love you, and take care of you. that will never happen if you live with your XXXXX If you find that someone then it will not be all work. Your X is right in one thing it is easyer with two. TO many stay together FOR THE KIDS - FOR THE MONEY - TO SAVE MONEY - Life is very short - Try and find Happy with out letting others use you up.
2006-08-04 07:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by klucejr 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to clean his own house it's part of being a parent. If he cant handel it he needs to give you, your child. Your Xhusband needs to find a new wife. Your not his maid. He want you to become his cleaning slave. How unfair. Your not so smart if you dare move into his guest room!!! I mean are you serious
2006-08-04 07:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by mexchick316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like to me he wants more a housekeeper than for you to be closer to your child. Also, it could present legal and fiscal(income and other taxes) problems. You would also be increasing your travel expenses without increasing your income. Personally, i do not think it is worth it...
2006-08-04 07:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by circle_sabine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no way, girl it's not your job do do his housekeeping! If he can't pull himself together that's his own problem. Keep the arrangment you have now, that's the best it's gonna get.
2006-08-04 08:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by jellybean24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should...she will need you a lot more now that she is a preteen with probably a changing body
2006-08-04 07:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by [dANiiE♥♫]™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on a weekend, ask your child if he really needs you
2006-08-04 07:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by stick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like moving would not be healthy for you at this time. talk to a lawyer, cause it doesn't sound very healthy for the kid either.
2006-08-04 07:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋