What was the problem? Did your parents' tell you to wait until you got married? If they did why didn't you do it? It couldn't be that hard. My parents taught me to wait until I was in love. I decied that I would wait until I got married for two reasons.
1. I didn't want to get pregnant and have a child out of wedlock. The easiest way to do that is not to have sex.
2. I am an adopted child. And I didn't want to be like my whorish birthmother. She was a easy whore who didn't have sense to keep her legs togeher. She was 22 and should have known better. She was a very dumb person to fall for the line" If you love me you will have sex with me" What a stuped person.
I made it to my wedding night. I was 28 years old and still a virgin. It really was that hard. Why didn't you have the will power to do it?
2006-08-04 07:36:28 · 21 answers · asked by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jennifer you are awesome.
I hope to have a wife like you someday.
2006-08-04 07:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by FM?FU! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your opinion that not having sex before marriage is the right thing to do and all power to you but just because people made a different choice to you doesn't mean that they have a 'problem'. Waiting is not about will power but it's about choice. I'm surprised that in this day and age there are still people who are so old fashioned and un-enlightened. You obviously have a big chip on your shoulder about your birthmother but you shouldn't hold that against people who make different choices to you.
I met my husband when I was 17 and we knew from the first minute that we were in love and that we would be together for a very long time. While we didn't get married for quite some years later (busy with uni, careers, travelling etc), we committed ourselves to each other very early on and we didn't wait until we were married to have sex. 11 years later we are still going as strong as ever and I don't regret for an minute that we didn't wait until we were married.
We were (and still are) very much in love with each other and sex is an expression of that love so I would not have regretted it even if we had not not eventually married each other.
2006-08-04 15:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am concerned on how angry you are at you birth mother, that is a sign you are angry at women in general. I'm sorry you feel so much pain, you should know that in this world we have so many distractions and obstacles it is easy to get caught up in romantic moments and life happens. Your question makes me wonder why you need to understand why your mother couldn't wait. The truth is maybe she wasn't suppose to, maybe God wanted you to be created at that moment so you could carry out his plan. You have a higher purpose than just staying a virgin until you are married. If you answer his calling you will be able to understand why you must be conceived at the moment you were. Your mother is not a whore and you must pray to release your anger and forgive her. To judge her is to judge yourself, You are not a bastard, and she is not a whore, you are both God's children.
2006-08-04 14:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by wiseroxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents would never tell me to "wait"... But they did teach me to have a head on my shoulders and make good judement. There all kinds of ways to protect yourself from getting pregnant; what you really can't protect yourself from, once you start getting involved in relationships, is heartbreak - yup, have had plenty of that, but it was a growth experience. There's more to life than a black and white "sex is evil" - "marriage til death do us part is good". There's a lot of passion and experience and triumphs and disappointments that come with relationships, and sex plays a part in all of that... The risks are great, but so are the rewards... This is the way I see it, and I wouldn't trade my history for anything else.
2006-08-04 15:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your whorish birthmother? hmmm have you met her? was she really a whore? maybe she was a college student who was raped, or maybe she was happily married and tragicly lost her husband. Let me guess you have wonderful Christan holier than thou parents now. I did not wait until my wedding night and I love the child who was concieved out of wedlock. Would'nt chnge the choices I made for anything
2006-08-04 14:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents never talked to me about sex ever. So 21 one night stands later I wanted to stop so I got married. Yup, even the first time I had sex ended up being a one night stand. How sad. I am so lucky that I married a caring, forgiving and amazing man.
2006-08-04 15:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Regrettably the monkey on my back was more overwhelming than I could bear. Plus you had the added incentive of not wanting to follow in the footsteps of someone you found morally reprehensible...I had no such frame of reference. I was a walking hormone, anxious to build a history.So I applaud your will-power, and even admire it. But insofar as we're all evolving works in spiritual progress, I'm not upset with myself, either. Ultimately I think I turned out pretty well, along with a number of my peers similarly experienced. As with most things, where we start doesn't matter nearly so much as where we end up. But yours is an inspiring observation. Thanks for sharing.
2006-08-04 14:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone make mistakes or does things their own way...you picked yours which is great, however the rest of us aren't idiots because we went a different way with our virginity...just different from you!
oh ya and it sounds like you have great adopted parents who taught you good morals....sooo without your birthmother's choices YOU would have not brought so so so much joy to the parents who raised you and call you their own. God knew they we there waiting for you!
2006-08-04 14:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because I ended up getting a forced marriage at 14, by my aunti, when i came back to my country I did not call him here, I then fell inlove with a wonderfull man and we got married, but I wish I would have stayed a virgin for him ( not that that would change anything), but what can you do life plays so many games.
2006-08-04 14:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by sweetlikehoney_73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was only 15... I didnt no how to say no cuz i didnt wanna feel like a outsider...i was so stuped my first time was with a guy that worked at a fair... so how was it? was it speacile and romanic... add me thea_15_2009@yhaoo.com if ya got yahoo messager...
2006-08-04 15:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by thea h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it worked for you, why dont you leave others alone?
You are only full of regret for your birthmother. Maybe that was not
the story at all.
2006-08-04 14:45:35 · answer #11 · answered by Carlos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋