why do marriages don't work no more?did they ever?

Answer 1

It's because people's mentality is changing & marital values are on the decline.

Answer 2

Yes, I believe as the years roll by its becoming so mis-understood. People accept marriage to light heartedly, they don't realize the ultimate commitment their promising each other..We live in a world that is changing so fast that such changes of culture, economics and traditions are fading away...Marriage s/b everlasting...it s/b a test of ones own integrity and devotion to those they love most...It s/b well thought out, planned and executed by the words spoken to each other during a marriage ceremony..but not today...you can have a drive though marriage and if it doesn't work then just split and try it again with someone else next month...that sort of behavior is making a mockery of such an institution and is being steadily replaced by living together.

Answer 3

All of the reasons for having a marriage have gradually been
stripped away to one - the two people love each other
(and are commited to each other).

You can have children. You can have standing in the
community. Women can be reasonably safe without
a guy around to protect her.

Since marriage is no longer a requirement for these things,
it is no surprise that it isn't happening as often. Its also no
surprise that where it happens and the commitment isn't
there it falls apart.

However, we still dream about the good old days and
are overwhelmed with the 1950s idea of a good home
consisting of a man and woman married with 2.6 children.

To try to attain what we are told is good, we get married
and then discover that it ain't all its cracked up to be.
If this were the 1950s, we'd stick with it and our 2.6
children would be in therapy.

Is morality changing? Sure, but I would not say its changing
uniformly for the worse. Lynchings aren't very common any
more.

Answer 4

People make a commitment without knowing what is involved. Marriage takes constant work, and many people do not realise that. Divorce is much more socially acceptable than it was in the past, so many people turn to that as an option too early on, before they've tried to work on their problems. It seems marriage is almost seen as something casual, which it is not.

Answer 5

Everyone is becoming to selfish. No one takes those coventants seriously anymore. It is much like any promise. A handshake or an oath actually was a binding contract and people took them so seriously that they would rather die than break a promise. No one has such integrity anymore to take such commitments seriously. Marriages have become like clothing. If it doesn't quite fit, let's throw it out and get a new one. If people would take it seriously and not be so selfish, they would last a lot more. If both partners put each other on a velvet pillow and put their partners needs before their own, then both partners would be happy.

Answer 6

Marriages still work, when approached with great respect and care. So many marriages today in the US and elsewhere are bred out of lust, guilt, shame and contempt that they're so many are doomed right out of the gate. Others simply allow sex to become their communication tool... a real lack of communication is sure to blame. Also, the media has painted this picture that fidelity within a marriage is lame. Why not have an affair? It'll spice up your life, make things interesting. That's it... it's the media!

Answer 7

the reason marriages don't work anymore is because people don't take it seriously anymore. back then, getting a divorce was like killing someone and now divorces happen as often as taking a shower. it's sad because people get into a marriage unprepared and too early. people think of marriage as a tiny stepping stone in their relationship. they believe that just because they're in love that they're ready for marriage. it requires much more than that but because people don't understand they regrettably understand after they get a divorce. marriages did work in the past but the value of marriage has been continuously decreasing. it's just sad. the only advice i can give to people is to not rush into something that's supposed to be forever if they're not ready.

Answer 8

There are a few things that contribute to the divorce rate:
1. Women no longer have to put up with men's crap. If a guy is neglectful, abusive, or cheating, she can leave. A few short years ago, it wasn't socially acceptable.

2. People these days are plain lazy. They are too selfish to work through marital problems. No relationship is always easy, or perfect. But people can't be bothered to work through it.

3. Lack of morals. I don't think this needs much explanation, you see it every time you turn on the news.

Answer 9

Divorce is too easy now a days. Everyone gives up too easily. What ever happened to " for richer or poorer", "sickness and in health"..."til death do us part". People have to work at marriages to keep them going strong...you just cant sit back and hope for the best!

Answer 10

America has become a disposable society. Where it used to take years and tons of money, not to mention court time, to get a divorce, now its just a few papers to sign, a couple of months and boom! youre single again. Its too easy these days to get rid of something you no longer want, whether it be garbage or human, all you have to do is throw it away. most people go into marriage with the thought in their mind of 'i can get out of this is i have to, no big deal'. its pretty sad

Answer 11

Because women are moving into the workforce in greater numbers.

Leaving behind their biological natural self.

Dollars and cars are what count now. At least that's how it is in the west. By the time they get around to "marriage" they have already racked up 20 -25 "sex partners" and guys can tell so they dont want them.