Or it is just natural that guys do it? Does it mean that he wants to cheat on me? Please help me! And I want serious answers. If you are going to be a smart *** then leave now.
2006-08-04 07:21:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men are visual. Him looking does not mean harm nor does it mean he is going to cheat. Sometime tell him you want to look at it with him. That will excite him.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 07:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that most husbands (an alot of wives)look porn up on the internet while their wives are not there. Please don't take offence at that. I'll explain :
The firts reason is that although we all love our wives (at least I do) we sometimes need a bit of time for masterbation. Again thats no offence intended towards you or any other wife, we can have all the sex that we want or need, but there is something relaxing about it that most men will do this.
The second reason that men look up porn is that we all men and women have our fantasies that as much as we love our spouse, there is no way that we will actually tell them our deepest darkest horniest fantasy. The net is a way of exploring this without imposing ourselves on our spouse or actually cheating. Call it therapy if you like.
As long as your husband is faithfull, I don't see the problem, but if it really bothers you then you must tell him. The worst thing that can happen is if you say nothing but feel worse, eventually all lines of comunication will be cut and then you will have problems.
Hope this helped, and good luck.
2006-08-04 12:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by Hotnbothered 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
His "admission" to having a problem with porn may be because he wants to avoid conflict. He's a man. Men like porn. There aren't very many men that don't entertain themselves with porn. I personally don't have a problem with my guy looking at porn. Unfortunately, for him, you do. There has got to be some sort of compromise between you two. Both of you need to be willing to bend a little. Him looking at porn has nothing to do with how he feels about you. It's a male thing and most women will never fully understand why men enjoy it. Him blaming your sex life is very wrong and hurtful. That was just mean. However, I think it was a backlash at you because he knew right away that he was in trouble. I'm not blaming you at all but at the same time, don't be a mother to him. Don't tell him what he is/isn't allowed to do. I would try talking to him and try to get an understanding as to why he is looking at porn. I guarantee you it has nothing to do with him not being satisfied with you or loving you.
2016-03-16 14:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Hon..
It has nothing to do with you, regardless of how pretty or not so pretty you might be.
Looking at porn or scantly clad women in it's own self, is naturally appealing. An instant stimulation to view the nakedness of another being. Triggers go off in the brain and a fantasy begins.
You're good enough for him. And I don't think you'd appreciate him looking at porn when you are around. It's natural. And no, he's not cheating.
If anything, it should spice up your sex life with him. Talk to him and let him know you're not a porn star yourself, but maybe would like to include something like that when you both are intimate.
Hang in there... it's harmless!
2006-08-04 07:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My wife's X husband did that all the time. And in front of her. That's why they got divorced. You either need get it on more with him, or divorce him. My wife took it as cheating. Because, he wouldn't have sex with her. He'd rather beat off to a screen, than be in the real thing. So, you must decide how much this guy means to you I guess. You two see a shrink maybe?
2006-08-04 08:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys do and even some women. It's no big deal. I'd rather my husband be looking at internet porn than go to a strip club, but clubs don't bother me either. He comes home to ME is the point that matters.
2006-08-04 07:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly C 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It means he's caught in the snare of porn --- you fiend(a person extremely devoted to a pursuit or study for something) and you'll get addicted to it.
ask him about the porn -- let him know that you don't want it in the home. If he isn't addicted it shouldn't be a problem for him to find something else more healthier to get interested in.... if you find he's still looking at porn then you strongly suggest he gets therapy and put forth all his effort to get out of the snare of porn --- be supportive and go with him to counselling...
2006-08-04 07:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys are made differently than girls. Guys like to look at all aspects of sexual stuff. It isn't that he wants to cause problems with you, it's just that the Internet makes it convenient for him to satisfy his curiosity. He doesn't do it to hurt you or your relationship, he just does it because that's the way he's made. If you want to spice it up with him, ask him to show you what he likes to see, and then ask him to show you what he thinks you would like to see. See if you and him are on the same page. Keep it fun and friendly. Don't take it personally. He isn't looking to have an affair or looking to see someone with a body better than yours. To guys, it just needs to be a girl, and he will look. Try it. It might improve your relationship on multiple levels. Good Luck
2006-08-04 07:35:46 · answer #8 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Most men (and alot of women) get a kick out of looking at porn. It doesn't mean that he is thinking cheating on you. My only conern would be that if you have children who are old enough to use the computer that they may see things that he may've saved on the computer. Other than that, let him be.
2006-08-04 07:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by Claire 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys like to look at porn. It does not mean he is not attracted to you. If he is having sex with you he's attracted to you. For some reason guys like looking at pictures of naked women. Also guys use porno to help them masterbate. Men are very much visual people.
My boyfriend has porno on the computer I know where to find it. He occasionally looks it up and uses it to masterbate to either when I am unavailable or do not want to. This does not stop him from having sex with me 2-3 times a week.
The only time it is a problem is if he is constantly doing it and it consumes his whole life.
He does not want to cheat on you. Guys like porn it is just that simple. They will look at porn whether or not he has a wife or gf. Relax it has nothing to do with you. It is a guy thing.
2006-08-04 07:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Before there was porn on the internet there was a thing call Playboy Magazine. This has been asked for 50 years. You're fine. Men love nudes.
2006-08-04 07:31:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋