Why do men think they have to have sex?

Question

I would really appreciate some honest, sincere answers. I just want to understand. Sometimes I believe that the sex drive in a man is a curse. Don't bash me in a testosterone induced rage. I only want to understand the male brain. Please respond to my question with kindness.
You can't say - because it feels good. Eating and sleeping feels good, but you can't do it all the time.
You can't say - because it reduces stress. So does excersise and alcohol, but these still don' t rule a man's thoughts.
Somebody please make some sense of this for me.

...one hour and 38 responses later,...
I'm quite sad. nearly all of the answers have been very enlightening.
I want to please my husband very badly. I love him so much. I would die if he sought sex from another female. I just can't bring myself to want it like I did in the early days of our relationship and I don't know why. I told my male GYN about my total lack of desire (except for when it's close to time for my period-which tells me it has a lot to do with my hormones), and he was no help.
And I am trully shocked about those statisics because almost all the married females that I know feel the same way that I do. They have almost no sex drive...

Answer 1

`by nature, we just have to. might be the testosterone though. prisons are full of men because of this. we will go without food and sleep for some good "strange". kinda brash but also honest.

Answer 2

It's the testosterone, keekee. We get a dose of it every few seconds, and you don't. This is what makes a guy horny all the time. It makes a guy look at a girls t1ts when he's talking to her and it gives a guy sexual thoughts at the most inappropriate times.

Yes, it can be a curse. I was constantly walking around with a hard on during my teenage years. I'm a lot older now, but I'm still horny as hell. I've heard some interesting stories from women getting a sex change hormone therapy, and they pretty much said the same thing.

Maybe when you get a little older, you might get some hormones that make you think of sex a little more. I hope that you will be a little more understanding then.

--Rick

Answer 3

It's basically instinct, this may be an overused answer, but the basic function that every creature has in common is the need to reproduce, females have it to, but not to the same extent. Now then, some males do not think they HAVE to have it, I know quite a few from both sides, and I also know some females that want it alot more than men do. I hope this answers some of the question?

Answer 4

--Sweetheart, if I knew that I would rule half the planet. All I know is that science believes (and i agree) that a sexual thought crosses a mans mind every 7 seconds. Is it a curse? Well no, it is an inconvenience. A curse is something that witches do. It is simply the urge they have to move forth with. Let me put it this way. Men, who actually create life, our bodies make million of sperm a day. Sperm die after three days. So if we do not get rid of it, where does it go? So yes biologically we have to have sex or utilize other methods to expell our dying creations.

Answer 5

I have no idea why men need it so much. I personally am fine without it; in fact, I get much more satisfaction from kissing, hugging and cuddling. If I never had intercourse again, it wouldn't even phase me. It's painful and doesn't provide me with an ounce of pleasure. I feel it to be very obligatory as I've been married a year. I'm almost never in the mood for it either - but I don't think many women are. Good question - it'll be interesting to see what answers you get!!

Answer 6

In all honesty, it is mostly a biological compulsion to procreate based on an buildup of sperm. Women actually have a bigger sex drive, but society has trained up that it is not "nice" and it is "slutty". Why do you think women have a sexual peak that comes later in life (beyond the best years to procreate)?
Guys unconsiously feel the need to pursue, seduce, and conquer. It makes them feel more powerful, desirable, manly, and validated.
Society expects a lot from women, and tells us they we are failures if we don't measure up. All these responsibilities, obligations, and impssible ideals creates too much "noise" in our minds and it distracts us from feeling sexual.
Also, most women are trained to not ask for what they need and to just be happy with what they get. This is why a lot of women are so unsatisfied with sex.....
Women lack a buildup of sperm and we lack the desire to plant a seed, and we have no compulsion to hunt and conquer anything. Guys do. It's part biological, part psychological.
Too many guys think they have to have sex with a woman to "mark their territory". They feel pressure to "do the manly thing". They need to sometimes do it with a lot of women so they can convince themselves they are not gay, or to avoid true intimacy because they are afraid. it gives them the feling of power and status....you know, an ego thing.Reasons vary with age, experience, priorities, and self-esteem.
Does this give you some insight?

Answer 7

The primary instincts are (in order):

Get away from what hurts (virtually the spine, no brain involved)
Defend yourself
Drink enough water
Eat enough food
Procreate
Sleep

That being said, the most successful men (from the genetic
point of view) are the ones who spread their genes furthest.

Now, we humans have created this thing called civilization
over the last 10000 or so years, and it sits on top of these
instincts, and sometimes it can control them and sometimes
it can't.

Consider that we have multi-billion dollar industries that
try to accentuate a woman's features to make her more
appealing to mate with.

Women are not the only victimes here.

Answer 8

Let me level with you. I could say the same thing about most married women: They don't care if they have sex or not. Answer THAT one for me, would ya....? Seriously, though, men have a primitive instinct to spread their seed to keep the world populated. This probably dates back to cavemen's primal urges. And yes, it feels good also and is a great stress reliever. There's something JUST about the act that turns a guy on too, and it's healthy too. So that right there is my 2 cents. Hope it helps.

Answer 9

Sweetie, that's a fact you have to deal with. If a man is too civilized and extremely cultivated, he's gay.
Besides, biologically speaking, men get turned on visually wile women get turned on psychologically. Is why we're more picky than they are. A man that makes us feel like crap doesn't turn us on. While they don't care if the chick treats them bad or not as long as she is hot-looking. And we're far more sexual than they are because of the hormonal changes we constantly have. But society has managed to control us by offending our feelings if we behave like they do. I rather have a man that wants me 24/7 than one that doesn't see me at all.

Answer 10

We all have to have sex! Men and Woman! It triggers the release of endorphins that simulate sensory in our brain to give us a sense of well-being. It also keeps hormone levels balanced which help us think and feel better. When there is no desire to have sex it is usually due to physical illness or mental anxiety. Be healthy have fun!

Answer 11

The whole answer in a nut shell is that men and women both do it as a bonding to each other. Some do it just to feel better about how they are or to have power over there mate, but if both do it , it is to grow closer to each other.Sometimes it is because the other has insecureities that have to be filled.