What does the intuition of a out sider say...?

Question

When I met my husband I was aware that he had used the services of prostitutes before me(he told me only a couple of times)This was during a time with his ex-wife before me.He said that he wanted to get a divorcefrom her a couple of years before he did.And that the marriage was over for him so while still married to her he would screw hookers on his business trips.Also when he would go visit his son in a town 350 miles away.He never took her because there was tension there between step mother ans stepson. He'd pick fights with her and say that he was going to see his son and would but he's stay in hotel and call a hooker.It only take less than1 hour to do it.My husband walks out on me about once a month saying that he's going to divorce me . Most of the time he goes and see his son alone.Or his brother.He pack up and leave when I want to try and comunicate with him my feelings so that we can get pass it and move on.He start to yell and say that I'm f*** up& packs his belongings& leaves

Tell me what you think of this

I found websites on the history on our computer with serches for prositutes in our local area. Looking for massage parlors. He say he was just looking and going to do anythings

I'm very sensitive to people and I try hard to be a good person so when I communicate I always trying to make the other personfell confortable and reasure them that I'm not judging them but in fact trying to comunicate

Yesterday I realized that he doesn't love me and that he is doing to me what he did to his second wife.I a hopeless romantic.And Im always willing to believe that people make mistakes and I will forgive and forget.My kindness is mistaken for weekness.He's been trating me so bad for almost the whole marrage. Foe the longest time when I would bring up my suspicions he'd say that i need help that i was Bypolar and that was why we were aruging.We tryed marrige counceling and after thefirst vist when we had a disagreement he refussed to go to coulnceling again. Trying to blame me by saying that i pissed him off by bring up the therapist at taht moment. I mentioned to him while he was going off on me,I mentioned for him to rememder what the tharipist said to do at that moment so that we could get better.

Someone told me yesterday that " It's over" that i have to except it. That for my husband it been over for him.That it wasn't fare to me that he walks out on me once a month threatining divorce. That I will find someone that will love me and that i will be happy..I....t's over...I'm going to file for divorce..Don't know where to start

Answer 1

In my view, past behavior can be a good prediction for future behavior. I know, we all want to think that this one relationship is special, he's done it to "her", but he won't do it to "me"; most of the time, it is not so. Sounds like your husband is stuck in the same pattern of behavior he's used to; he didn't change it to make his last marriage work, he won't do it in your marriage, either. Most likely, he's out there telling some chick how he really wants a divorce from his f**ed up wife, how he feels that the marriage is over, and how poor him has to go sleep with hookers. Are you OK with this? If not - please leave; he will not change, and you will only get hurt again and again.

Answer 2

Leave this scumbucket RIGHT NOW. . . Then call the police and set up a sting on him to get arrested for soliciting a prostitute! You better hope this piece of human garbage hasn't given you AIDS!!!! File for divorce immediately based on this dirtballs behavior and take the slug for everything he has. This guy is a scuzzbucket and he will never change. YOU DESERVE BETTER. . .even if you are a skank yourself!

Answer 3

Time to end this one. Sorry to say it but honestly. He did it once and he is doing it again. He is ruining not only himself but you. It is not nice what he is doing to you and your self esteem. Get away from this man. Do you really want any of the STD's that these women most likely are giving him? Protection or not that is really discusting that you would want him to touch you after he touches dirty whores.

Answer 4

You know what to do, you just don't want to make the choice for yourself. If you stay with this man then you will remain the poor victim. Do what is right, suggest he get help and start helping yourself, alone.

Answer 5

I think it's a good thing he wants a divorce - this man is not only unclean, but he is not trustworthy. Don't worry about him and let him go. You deserve better and you will find it. Don't waste your time on jerks like this one. Best wishes

Answer 6

You say you try to communicate your feelings when he wants to leave. But two questions:

1. Do you try to communicate when he is in a good mood, or only when you are scared he is leaving?

2. When you say you want to communicate, do you mean you want to convince him, or do you truly want to hear what he has to say?

Obviously he is extremely unhappy, otherwise he wouldn't yell at you that "you're ****** up"

You guys need couples therapy and you need it quick.

Answer 7

He is cheating on you and sleeping with hookers. You kind of walked into this one. He wont treat you any better than he treated his ex. You need to get out of that relationship before he gives you AIDS.

Answer 8

are you living the life that you want? ask yourself if you are happy. it sounds like he is still sleeping with other women behind your back. telling you that you are f***** up is not loving. see if he will get some help to get over his past. if you are strong and love him try to help him. if it continues i say the best thing to do is be happy with some one who will make you happy.

Answer 9

HE'S cleaning out dirty gutters honey.... what do you think he's doin? doesn't it sound odd that the same thing he said to his ex, hes saying to you?
beat him to the punch... file first

Answer 10

Run Bunny, Run....