im kinda new at this whole kid thing bec i have never had a bf that has had kids befoure and it starteding to come between my bf and i bec i dont like his son around us all the time in fact not at all i just wish his son was not here but he is so how can i make this work i love my bf but it hard to do stuff with his son bec he like to talk all the time and he like to b with his dad and it bug me and my bf has said to me that if i cant get along with his son that we will not be able to get married and he cancel the wedding for now bec i dont get along with his son what kinda of stuff can i do with a 9 year old and how can i make this work i tell my bf that im not used to being around kids and he said well u have to get used to it bec your around mine and he is a part of me and your with me so u just have to that what he said to me and i want to make this work with his son that all that stand in the way of us getting married is his son i luv his dad so i dont want to let go of him.
2006-08-04 07:11:47 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, first you'll aways come in second to the son. The son feels as if you're taking his dad away from him. Of which the dad maynot be spending enough time with his son. At the age of 9, find out what he likes or include him so he'll know you're not trying to separate him and his dad. The dad needs to talk with the son so he'll know he is always a part of the family. The madder you get, the more the son knows he has won. The dad will always choose the son over you, been there.
2006-08-04 07:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by alabamalady813 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the kid isnt going away. i cant stand people like you. i dated a couple of guys that pulled that crap with me. didnt you know he had a kid when you met??? did you think the kid was going to go away?? i have an 11 year old and he doesnt stop talking. but thats too friggin bad. SO- if you really want to be with this guy - then shut the hell up and deal with his son. he will always be his son, but you can be replaced in a heartbeat! Remember thaT!
2006-08-04 07:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say,but its the truth,i dont think you are ready for a child in your life.There are times for adults to spend time together.But 90 percent of the time the child will need something or be there.Dont let your love put you in a relationship you will later regret.Try going to fun places with your bf and his son,amusment park,hiking,swimming,spending time together so he doesnt see you as a threat,but a friend to him and his father.Good luck God bless:O)
2006-08-04 07:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's why i never dated a guy with a kid before 'cause of the fact if you and the kid don't get along then most likely the relationship won't work out, but maybe you should spend sometime with the son and get to know him.. and get the kid to know you.. let your guy see you make an effort.. but get to know the kid 'cause if not then your relationship will fall apart..
2006-08-04 07:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by ~PrInCeSs~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like his son, and he is only 9 and not moving out anytime soon, you should break up cause that won't work unless you try really hard to like him. Next time think before you act!
2006-08-04 07:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by Why Not 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do'es he have custudy? if so you got to get along with the kid. he's gonna want his dad's total attention, dosent he have friends that he plays with?tell the guy you want at least one night a week for just you guys. if he doesnt have custudy and you only have to deal with the kid every other weekend thats easy go do your thing and let them have father/son time.
2006-08-04 07:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new boyfriend!!! It is not fair to him to have someone not accept his son, it is not fair to you to have to accept something you can't, and worst of all it is damaging to this child!!! This child needs to be surrounded by people who love him in order to grow up. Stop being selfish and let him go!!! Also with the extra time you will have, you can sign up for your G.E.D.! Perhaps you will learn punctuation!!!
2006-08-04 07:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by wiseroxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya, First piece of suggestion, take a even as on looking love, because once you rush you'll ultimately fall. yet the following is the precedence, you'll in no way comprehend if the adult adult males has something till he tells you, so first get right into a extreme relationship, attempt chatting with him about your sex needs and get both truly one of you examined, even as u sense its time. the single difficulty you won't be able to replace is what percentage women he has slept with in his previous, because you probably did not comprehend him on the time, so have him only get examined. yet another difficulty is, your are 22, you're so youthful, believe me a guy will come into your existence and love you for who're. Its feels like once you aren't any further searching for someone they arrive alongside and once you're searching for someone you looks to in no way locate every person. also attempting chatting with him overtly about sex, once you sense gentle, and get slightly heritage of his previous sex existence, I did that with my Bf and that i do sense better confident about my sex existence with him. desire this solutions your question :)
2016-11-28 02:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want it to work out you need to grow up and become mommy because eventually you want to marry him right? so what do you think is going to happen if you get married? YOUR GOING TO BE A MOMMY!
2006-08-04 07:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn hes an ***, seems like ur wasting ur time tryna fix something thats not helping either of u...usually kids at that age are brats n he has more power than u bcuz its his daddy, it seems as though he makes it seem like ur the prob, i dnt kno wat to say. Good luck
2006-08-04 07:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by nanajm05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋