As with a het relationship, sex is just a fraction of the whole equation. If there was no such thing as sex, would the companionship and lifelong committment of same-sex couples even be an issue?
And why is there so much ignorance?
Yes, I'm MtF. For those of you not in the know, that means I had a "sex change" from male to female. Ya know what bugs me most? Assumptions that I was a gay male prior to transition. I have always been attracted to women, and still am. So why did I transition? Not because I was So Waaaaay Gay, but because trying to be male when I really wasn't inside, in my brain chemistry, was killing me.
Some of you folks should read a book and something other than the Bible. Try something science-based. God gave us science and the ability to think to be used. I read the Bible every day, attend church, am active in my spiritual community, and yes... I even accept Jesus as my Saviour. Ya know what else? He accepts me too. Unconditionally. Pray on that.
2006-08-04 07:09:47 · 19 answers · asked by Jayne 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I agree. Sex is not the only thing that makes you gay. There is love, commitment and all the same things that go with a straight relationship. What is so hard to understand?
2006-08-04 07:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by WEIRDRELATIVES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People everywhere put an emphasis on the physical aspect of relationship. I know a lot of hetero people who are all about the sex first and foremost - mostly other men, but some women as well. I think it might be more visible in the gay male community because (and I can vouch for this myself), men in general are more likely to be into the idea of no strings attached sex, but since women are taken out of the equation, it's a lot easier to just think about the physical.
Is that a mistake? It can be. I don't think that there's any moral reason why sex must take place only in an emotional, romantic relationship, and sometimes it's nice just to be physical with someone without any grand expectations. But at the same time, I've been in a committed relationship for 5 years and I wouldn't trade that for the world. I think that an intregal part of being gay isn't just sexual desire, but the ability to be romantically attracted to the same sex as well.
2006-08-04 08:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by devouring_wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is all some people see. Its like people who want art with nudity banned. All they see is the "naughty bits." They miss that a person can be a wonderful, smart, beautiful, and a good person.
People think gays just walk around screwing each other all day. Most have great jobs, are in loving relationships, and are happy.
I try to show people that I am a good person and have many angles before they find out I'm a bi-sexual wiccian. I've changed many people's idea about both things and I'm proud of that.
If you think all gays are sluts, look at all the straight people who are way into sex. Some one like Judy Gang-bang (not a real person) or Fred Wanna-f**k. People who try to get into be on the first date or even before that. I'm not saying that we should all be prudes. But there is more to everyone then just sex. As humans, we enjoy sex, but we also enjoy food, hanging out, answering questions at 3 am, watching tv, books, and what ever else you like!!
Ok, I'm done with my rant....
2006-08-04 08:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mithrandir_black 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just need more education about what being a lesbian, bisexual, straight, gay, or trans really means, because it's about love, relationships, feelings, and sex not just sex.
On a side note I just watched the "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy" show where they helped a trans female to male and they did it in a very educational way and it was a fun show. I think things like that educate people.
Oh and pick out an avatar so I can reply to your questions, I sometimes skip people without avatars and this was a thoughtful question which is good to see in the GLBTQ area.
2006-08-04 07:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it wouldn't be an issue if things were sexless.. but since there ARE different genders... there has to be a reason, right? I suppose the main reason is for procreation.. but anyhoo.
I suppose people put emphasis on the physical aspect because.. well if it wasn't physical, then how come not everyone is a bisexual? But there are strong physical factors, just like how people go for who they consider to be attractive... I'm a christian and I believe that anyone can be a christian too, whatever your sexual orientation may be.
In any case, I don't know why things are so physical.. it's just the way society is I guess. I mean think about it. ALL the media is saturated with sex. Sexual ads with near-naked women clinging to near-naked men, and so forth.. I guess it's hard to think otherwise with the way society is right now..
2006-08-04 07:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emphasis on physical because it is that part that makes gay people different from straight people.
It would Probably not be an issue if the physical part was taken out.
Ignorance? Well that depends on what kind of ignorance you are talking about.
The Bible IS a good reference and so are science books(as long as they are legit) ...
And to those who would say the bible would have us discriminate against another."he (Christ) lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her" (John 8: 7) Look in the New Testament... greater law of Christ is written there. "Judge not that ye be not judged" (Matt. 7:1).
Christ was/is kind.
2006-08-04 08:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Wolf_Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the friend of many a guy man and woman, I must say that the reason sex is focused on so much is because its the #1 definition used to describe who you are. I've struggled with this same questions with my friends and came to the same answer. I wish there was a way for homosexuals, transsexuals, etc. to define themselves aside from their sexual preference. I know there are other aspects, but the sexual preference is usually what gets it started in conversation.
2006-08-04 07:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by clrlou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THANK YOU!!! ***applause*** I'm glad someone else has voiced this in such a direct way. Sex is only a miniscule aspect of a serious, devoted relationship. There is way more to it than that! Some really soul deep stuff if you're truely in love with that person.
2006-08-04 09:35:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jayne, because most people are just ignorant. We are such puritans, even to this day. It's frightening. Good luck in your srs or transitioning. I have met a number of trans people lately (thru working at PFLAG) and am really getting an education. : )
2006-08-05 22:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well said and congratulations on your survival of what must have been a difficult journey.
I believe that fear along with lack of knowledge is the reason so many people simply choose to put so much into the homosexual act instead of the real issues.
Why has no one tried to pass a law against heterosexuals who do anything other than the one act required for procreation?perhaps one can get pregnant with oral sex, kissing, man on woman anal, woman with dildo in man, and the many other adventures heterosexuals enjoy, who knew?
Yours truly a finally free Gay man formerly known as a straight married heterosexual .
2006-08-04 07:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by cbb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋