how do get the person that you love to not be scared of marrige,?

Question

so may people make it out to be so horrible?

Answer 1

i think the thing about marriage is that *ideally* it should be something so wonderful, so great, that u cannot share w/ ANYONE else. but it takes *work*... and not many people realize that. you work hard to impress a girl, you work hard to make the girl happy, you work hard to ask her to say "yes"... but once ur married, u think "oh i don't have to work anymore, that's why i got married. i don't have to impress anyone, or go on dates, etc." but that's totally wrong! u have to WORK HARDER to make each other happy, but because this woman/man is THE ONE you chose to love and cherish and honor!!! you should WANT to continue on and on making this person feel special, wanted, needed, and loved. who says that is easy????? i don't think so.. but it's more rewarding because this person Deserves it...at least that's what it should be. that's why it's so important to set boundaries and find someone you can respect, and grow with, and learn together. if you become careless, eventually someone will feel disappointed, or resentful, etc. relationships take *work*..but it's not a Ball and Chain... it's a Voluntary Commitment to love and honor this person, til death do you part. why are u willing to think of dates and pay for dinners and impress people w/ flowers only when ur in the beginning dating stage? u don't even know if that person really appreciates it! but the person u marry, is someone you WANT to do it for now, and ur free to love and give gifts and share everything *freely*, with no expectations, with no fear that they will reject you. marriage should be Freeing for us to give and take love, as much as we can! instead of dating, where u are unsure, scared someone might leave you, or treat you bad... marriage *should* be that person and that thing that alleviates you of that fear of being dumped and treated badly by a stranger. too many people these days don't understand what love and Commitment is, and they don't work on their marriages. it's really sad...to take commitments and vows so lightly. i don't see marriage as ball and chain at ALL.. i see it as finally finding the one person i can share and do everything with, i trust him and he trusts me, we can conquer anything together, and i'll never have to worry about someone cheating or lying because i love and trust him. if he does it, then yes, divorce time. but that's where dating and bf/gf comes in...testing each other and truly knowing if you are ready to get married, and Want to commit to one person. don't get married until you feel that!!!!

Answer 2

marriage is good when both parties are compatible and share common goals for the future.
How to make commitment less scary --- let the person know that everything in life generally comes with some type of commitment --- you buy a car you sign paperwork stating you'll make payments for a set number of years - you don't do it and they repo the car.... let the person know you are committed to helping them and being there for them --- addresses those issues.... show them what a responsible person you are and that they can depend upon you through thick or thin....let them know you don't run at the first sign of trouble -- communication is key to having a successful marriage - tell them there is nothing the two of you can't talk about --- that you'll keep their secrets and you expect them to do the same....
have you got money saved up for bad times (if so - stress this factor --- a person feels secure when they know that their marriage partner has considered this and made arrangements for such times) --- do you have more than one job skill? If so let them know - that you won't be bowled over if your job ends --- that you have resources to fall back on.

Answer 3

When people are ready to get married they won't be scared.

If this is a person that has already been married and divorced, then definetely would have reservations about doing it again.

The peopel that make it so horrible is because they have the time to whine about it, happy couples don't need strangers pity and reassurance of thei happiness.

Just like the news, only the bad ones make it to the first page.

Good luck

Answer 4

one ingredient i do no longer comprehend is why you have been treating HIM like that - there is grieving, and then there is purely being downright rude. He feels like a advantageous guy so think of what you're doing. even once you're disenchanted, you mustn't take it out on every physique, hit upon a different thank you to flow on quite than hurting somebody. He needless to say has some point of devotion to stick by using you thru all this - i'm no longer able to think of why you go with for to maintain a guy like that secret yet oh properly, i assume that's as much as you - although how does he experience approximately this? type your self out in the previous you lose a large pal and in all likelihood greater. i'm sorry to hearken to approximately your ex-boyfriend, he ought to have been some thing particular to make you experience so undesirable. Sorry to be so blunt approximately some issues yet that's purely my opinion, FTootie.

Answer 5

You can't do anything... You can wait and see if they come around, but if not - hit the road and look for someone who shares your relationship goals.

Answer 6

its just a peice of paper that says whats yours is his and whats his is yours. my advice (in case you get divorced) if you pay for ANYTHING with your credit/debit card keep the receipts so you can prove its yours. other then that, its just a piece of paper. and that paper can be turned into another paper that says your divorced.

Answer 7

let him see the beauty of marriage

Answer 8

time and effort. some are miserable. some aren't