How does my marriage harm?

Question

I am a 26 yr old legally married massachusetts lesbian. I have been on here for a while and this question is for everyone who is answering GLBT questions with hate and bible quotes. I'm not looking for judgement, becuase I belive that God will judge us all, and we have no right to judge each other. This is a real question, I am hoping for a serious answer.

I want to know how my marriage is hurting you. Can you please tell me how my marriage has directly affected you personally in either a positive or negative way?

Thank you.

Again, I do not want a religious or hate battle. But I would like to say that, although I belive in God - it is not the God that everyone is quoting. I am of a major religion, but the Bible, Koran, Talmud, etc. does not apply to me. I am trying to keep religion out of my question, which is why I am not naming what I belive. And to clarify for Oklatom, and others, I am married to a woman - Mass is the only state it is legal in.

I will also answer Doc's question here: It is wonderful to be in love - I am happier than I have ever been. And yes, I do have appeal to men (I get hit on quite a bit), men just have zero appeal to me.

Answer 1

Well... I'm a christian, and I don't think your marriage is harming me in any way. I think the main issue is really to do with the definition of marriage, I suppose. The idea of a man and woman being united, that sort of thing. Personally I don't mind if same-sex couples got married in a LEGAL contract sort of way.. I'd just have issues with people getting married in a church/religious manner, as it's a bit contradictory.. but yeah, that's how I feel.

Answer 2

Hello there,
I think that problem is that many people were brought up to believe that being different isnt right. There are also many people that take the Bible literally word for word and forget taht it was man that wrote down the words on paper thousands of years later. I think also that peopel judge what they cannot understand. Instead of seeing gays or lesbians as people some may just see them as being gay.

I dont understand it, but I dont judge. I don think it harms anyone that you are married. I believe that as long as it is in legal terms. I think i would start having a problem if it was in a church.

I also dont think that the people who are mostly religious groups or conservatives that have a problem with the gay and lesbian movement dont think it affects them personally. I think it that they truly believe God doesnt like it. Either way, no matter who is right and who is wrong, judging people is wrong and saying that someone is going to hell or that you are an abomonation of God only turns people away cause they get angry or hurt. I cant imagine having to live my life with someone in my face every day saying hurtful things like that.

I hope this helps, good luck, God Bles, and stay strong.

Answer 3

Well, I was married and divorced and remarried. Your marriage directly affects me because it helps show the rest of the world that Massachusetts is an enlightened state. Excuse me if I'm mistaken, but I think that M.I.T., Boston College, The New England Conservatory, Harvard, etc. are all located in your state. These are not shabby institutions. The fact that you keep re-electing the great Ted Kennedy, also shows your heightened level of development as compared to other more backward states. When my friends from other more enlightened countries laugh at our backwardness, I can say with pride, "well at least we have Massachusetts". The only thing I don't like about Massachusetts is that it is so darn hard to spell!

Answer 4

"What was once the fringe - the embarrassing cousin they saw only when they had to (special occasions, especially the ones held every four years in November) - has now become the heart of the Republican Party. They've finally got the real power, and, like Bush with the phantom "political capital" he claimed to have earned after the 2004 election, they intend to use it."

The majority of Christians aren't all that bothered by my homosexuality or yours. It's the extremely vocal, crazed extremists that are the driving force. The only problem with them is, people aren't standing up against them and telling them they're wrong. The religious extremists are getting power, and they're pushing incredibly hard to make this country into a Theocracy - with the help of George W.

Until the the majority of rational citizens start standing up for what they believe and denouncing these hypocrites and extremists, I don't think we'll see a lot of change in public opinion. I unfortunately am not sure how to motivate the general public to stand up and denounce the crazed fanatics, nor am I sure how to get them to even care.

For the straight people in this country, 90% of the populous, the radical right pressing their religious views against gays on the government doesn't directly affect them now. It's not "their" battle. That's true, it isn't! However, a lot of things aren't your battle in the here and now, but can create an avalanche that will eventually encroach on your serene, comfortable way of life.

If the straight people who are against the radical right don't speak up, and those radicals get their religious views scribbled on the constitution, we're one step closer to a theocracy. We're one step closer to a country that imposes censors on citizens, that removes all religions but the state sponsored religion, we're one step closer to a country without freedoms.

Benjamin Franklin once said: "Anyone who gives up a bit of liberty for a feeling of safety, deserves neither liberty nor safety."

The general public of this country is in a position much like the Eurpoean countries were in the late 1930's. They saw what Hitler was doing to the Jews - but, it was the case of "it's not our problem." True, it wasn't. However, when does anything stop where it starts? It expands, it enlarges, it encroaches on others and everythign around it. People have to stop the radical right from imposing their beliefs on the government before it expands from the gay issue to other issues. Because if they don't start with the early warning signs - by time the real problems are here, it will be too late to do anything.

Then, the straight people will be like france and england in WWII - on the brink of a hostile take over of their freedoms by a "Christian" regime with a "Christian" agenda.

Answer 5

Congratulations honey I think that is wonderful. Your not hurting anyone you know that. If people think it will hurt there little children and grandchildren. Well what if they are gay? 50/50 chance these days. If you raise them there whole life to be straight and anything else is a sin, that would be painful. Maybe they will live in shame and never truly experience love. Get married like they were suppose to then divorce when they are old enough to realize that they have been brain washed there whole life. To think your views are the only correct view, I feel sad for your family. But if they were gay, they would never share that happiness with you, ever.. your loss

Answer 6

The rights given by marriage are adminstered by the state. These include inheritance, taxation, and adoption. Since this country was founded on the separation of church and state, religion and religious people should have no say in who is able to get married.

So obviously marriage is a STATE-based institution. I think some people confused this with LOVE, which is just one of the gifts God gives us. Another gift is how God made us, which happens to be gay.
How can anyone disparage or refuse to another any of God's gifts? They certainly aren't 'christian' if they try to.

Answer 7

I'm conservative in many ways but I have never understood why some people get so upset over this issue. I personally am not bothered by homosexuality and I really do not see how gay/lesbian marriages are a bad thing.
Then again, I'm also agnostic, so maybe it's the religious aspect that is fueling the antagonism.

Answer 8

I don't feel like your marriage is harming me, but I don't see the point of it. I feel like marriage is an institution that God established between men and women. I don't mean this in a mean or rude way, but if I married a bird it would be the same thing. It was meant for men and women to be together and pro-create after marriage.

I have no problem with gays or lesbians, I believe to each his own, and it's none of my business what you do. I wish you the best in life, and hope you stay in love forever, because there really is nothing better than being in love.

Take care,

Answer 9

Your marriage does not hurt or affect me at all. I am one of those bibble thumpers, but I am divided on the homosexuality issue. I do believe we'll all be judged, and my sins will not be judged as any less than yours.

Love is love. If you two are truly committed and love one another, your union can only bless everyone in your proximity.

Peace.

Answer 10

hey there,
iu runner's answer was great.
mylife's answer was gibberish.
and natex thinks that two gaymen/lesbians getting married makes no more sense than him marrying a bird. What rock did you just crawl out from under??
To the asker, congratuations. One of these days dubya's regime will be over and we can start making a little headway with gay rights. Get out there and vote people. Come out of the closet and stand up for all of us, Can I get off the soapbox now? Thanks. MY VERY BEST TO YOU GALS.