The Other Woman -- Why do you assume?

Question

Why do so many of you assume that all mistresses want to end someone's marriage? Is it inconceivable that a woman would be content having sex with your husband and taking his money without wanting to take your place? Not all women want to be a wife and being the other woman can give you all the benefits of a good man without the hassle of dealing with his faults, flaws, and problems. Plus who wants to cook and do laundry. :)

Answer 1

Sad to say but your almost correct. Some woman like the benefits of a man with no real commitment and headaches that can follow I love you. Sometimes the mistress no matter how you cut gets the joy and goodness of the married man because when she sees him, he's at his best and she doesn't get to see who he's truly is.

Many marriages have caused some to lose the sanctity of what a marriage is suppose to be because divorces are so high and people are married but behind their spouses back doing all types of disrespectfull things with them.

At least the mistress will go in knowing her man is a cheater.

Answer 2

why do u have to go out with married men? grow up little girl and find a single guy that doesn't want to get married. here's a saying for u. what comes around go around remember that when u find Mr. right and u married him and then one day u found out that he cheated on u and then u come to yahoo answers to ask people what u should do with a cheating husband but when that happens please remember your question. on why do so many of u assume that all mistresses want to end someones marriage? is it inconceivable that a woman would be content having sex with your husband and taking his money without wanting to take your place? not all women want to be a wife and being the other woman can give you all the benefits of a good man without the hassle of dealing Whit his faults, flaws, and problems. plus who wants to cook and do laundry. like i said what go around will come around and when it happens to u maybe u will grow up. why would u take his family money in the first place now that just wrong. u didn't earn that money all wait minute maybe u did by laying down with him well, that makes you a paid *****.

Answer 3

Because the other woman is a homewrecker and has no right interfering in the marriage between two people who are supposed to be commited. I guess what you are saying is that it is okay to be a prostitute and get paid for sex with a married man? Sure, I am married and I am not a big fan of laundry and cooking, but I would take my life with my husband and all the other things that come with it, aside from sex and money, any day over being a homewrecker with no self respect or feelings toward anyone else.

Answer 4

You are just too scared to go for the available guys, and your low self-esteem gets a boost when you can distract a guy's attention from his wife.
Guys cheat when they feel like losers to their wives and it makes them feel more powerful to have a little on the side. They turn away, and look outside the marriage if they are too chicken to ask for what they need from their wives.
It is two people with low self-esteem feeding off each other for their own personal validation. It is also a form of prostitution.
Being a mistress is a way to avoid true intimacy, and lacks the pressure of being a true partner to someone.
Why would someone be attracted to a cheat and a liar, anyway? Maybe mistresses feel they don't deserve any better.....Maybe you are jealous of the women that these guys picked to be their partner, and want to get back at them and to show them that their man isn't really that great and honorable as they had originally thought....

Answer 5

I'm sure there are situations where a woman just wants to have sex and take his money (there's another name for that and it ain't mistress). Married men can be considered 'safe' to these types of women.

That's all fine and dandy, until there is an emotional investment either by the mistress or the husband. Then things get really complicated (which also happens in some cases)

All that being said, there is a family that could potentially fall apart due to the indescresions of the husband/father due to the other womans loose moral fibers.

But hey, it does take two to tango.

"Get down girl, go head, get down" - Kanye West

Answer 6

Let me guess...you are the mistress!! If all you want out of a man is sex and money, that makes you a prostitute in the technical sense. As for not dealing with his faults and flaws, he's concealing them so he can get you into bed!! The very fact that he is with YOU instead of his wife is a VERY BIG flaw indeed!! A loving wife cooks and cleans for her husband not because she is forced to but because she loves and wants to take care of him!! Think about it....the wife was there before the mistress, and she will be there after the mistress....and if he'll do it WITH you he will do it TO YOU!!!

Answer 7

when you chose to be with someone else's man you are always going to carry his baggage there's no way around it. A husband is a cheater if he takes on a mistresses - then instead of calling the mistresses a mistresses she should be called the cheateress. The cheateress - wants your man in some way or form - that is still taking away something from the wife.

Answer 8

Logically speaking,the other woman means a woman in possesion of a man who isnt her husband.This means she is weak,dependable and vulnerable.She doesnt want to break the man's home cos she is satisfied with her no-status living with the man.ok,for how many years??What would happen after wrinkles appear,and she no longer remains charming and beautiful?These were her assets,werent they?
Marriage is an institution where a woman has her rights,has a family of her own,and protection by law.Any person/man or woman breaking this family for selfish gains is a sin.The woman not wanting to do laundry and cooking can get some other respectable job,why does she want to be a married man's slave for this??

Answer 9

Speaking for those of us you refer to in "we"-- it is not the wife role we assume you want. we assume that you feel so bad about your self that the best you can do is share a man than getting one of your own. @ least if you were married too the odds would be even that you and your lover just needed to take a mutual break from the marriages. u both would have equal losses irregardless of money etc. Even that you and your husband cheated on each other whether you knew about it or not. A good man does not think a woman is worthless enough to be on the side while he lives his life with the woman who is more important- his wife. Buck up honey and feel good about your benefits. you are obviously needing that boost for yourself....

Answer 10

Being that the wife wouldnt be happy with her husband having a mistress and it would probably end the marriage if she were to find out then yes I would assume that the mistress wouldnt mind ending his marriage. People living for the moment...not thinking of the future and the consequences of their actions...is what is destroying the world today. For every action there is a consequence...Are you ready for them?