what do you say to a friend when they say their going to kill them self???

Question

cause i think a friend might try to do somthing like that and i dont know what to say to him.

Answer 1

People who are thinking of killing themselves are basically having two or three faulty thought patterns. And sometimes if someone thinks in a certain way long enough it can be a habit. So you're going to need all the help you can get on this one. Professionals, other friends, whatever - this is not a secret you want to keep. But you can help too. So here's part of what you need to know:

One of the first faulty patterns that someone thinking of suicide often gets stuck in his head is that nobody really cares. Here's were you can do better than some stranger, no matter how well trained they are - you really DO care about your friend! Sometimes just being patient and listening to problems is all someone needs to let them know that someone is there for them. Try to do things with your friend to cheer them up. They probably won't cooperate much, but they'll probably appreciate the effort nonetheless! If someone is depressed it can be really hard to resist friendly efforts at goodwill - which is good for you!

Another typical erroneous idea that problems are insurmountable. It doesn't matter whether YOU think your friend's problems are too large to handle... you friend almost certainly does! Here's where your previous listening can pay off. Offer to help out, and really do what you can. Or if you can't do anything, sympathize instead of belittling the problems - and leave the door open if they later think of things you CAN do for them. And be available. They may ask nothing of you, but just knowing you're there is probably a good thing.

Another problem line of thinking is sometimes that loved ones would be better off if a suicidal person goes ahead with his ideas. Now that your friend knows you care, you need to let your friend know that even when he asks things of you, it is things you will happily do - that your friend is not a burden and that you would be worse off if your friend wasn't around to do things for! Explain that is what friendship is: sharing trouble so that it's no trouble for either, and sharing joy so that is more joyous than if you kept it to yourself.

I hope that helps. Be vigilant. It will be worth it for both of you.

Answer 2

Ask him does he need any help!

You may be familiar with the term Harikiri which is not the term Japanese use. That merely suggest ritual suicide. The more literally gut wrenching term is seppuko, ergo the idea of disembowelment! And if he wants to try it he will need a Second or assiatant to cut his head off because otherwise it will still take him a long and painful time to die!

That, as hard as my words may seem at first is the point. Suicide is not a way to solve the real problem or to run away from the real pain or trouble. There is no excape from reality and truth, no matter how painful it may seem, and in the end if you stick the thing out you will discover that the hard times are in fact the window to the good!

Answer 3

well i will tell your friend that they have a whole life ahead of them and they can't take their life because if they do then they will be missing out on wonderful things and they could never come back unless they process someone body. but tell them it's not worth taking their life because if they in heaven then they might regret it. and also they might need to go see someone to help or talk to family members to help them and maybe they might not want to kill themselves but be love and heard by someone. good luck!

Answer 4

Try to talk to your friend and tell him or her it's not worth it life is just too short let them know there is nothing worth taking your life let them know have faith in god he will work it out in time I know I thought about doing that about two years ago but two years later I'm glad I didn't go out that way my 14 yr old daughter needs her daddy. God bless pray for your friend!

Answer 5

There are suicide hotlines you can call. Look them up on google and call yourself. Then ask them the same question for advice. You may save a life today.

Answer 6

tell him that what he's feeling is temporary and that death is forever. tell him that you love him and it would mean alot to you for him to reach out to someone who can help him. pastor, school counselor, or even a parent. if you don't think that he will, you need to talk to a school counselor, pastor or your parents to get their advice. sounds like your friend needs more friends like you. good luck.

Answer 7

Stop - Are you sure? There's no turning back after you die!
Look - It's going to be painful and I know life is not fair!
Listen- God Loves you and I love you too!

Answer 8

http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html

hon, only professionals are equipped to handle this kind of thing. you need to call your local hotline and get them to intervene, because you friend is ALREADY having suicidal ideations and this is very serious....they willl help. and best of luck to you ♣

Answer 9

say goodbye. have a friend with terminal cancer (3 to 6 months to live).....all you can do is say good bye...or as i told my buddy..you go and die on me and i will have to kick your ar$e--at least he laughed a bit

Answer 10

well, you need to find out why, and then convince them that people care about them and would miss them. You need to prove thier reason wrong.