2006-08-04 06:43:06 · 29 answers · asked by rk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to go with your gut on this one. Don't listen to the people telling you, you are a whore, they are mostly bitter women who have been betrayed. You know what you can tolerate and what you are looking for so following your instincts they are usually on track.
2006-08-04 07:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by Tiredofbrainlessmorons 1 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Pray for G-d to remove this obsession. Take it a day at a time. You can do it. If this was the man for you, he would not be married. Why are you attracted to someone that is unavailable? Are you afraid of trying out a true relationship. That is scary! Imagine being in love with someone who can actually return those emotions. That means commitment and functioning with someone in the real world, not just your mins. Sure, it's scary but you will never find happiness if you don't step into the uncomfortability of the unknown -- a man who is AVAILABLE and looking for you. Look at your past. Have you been attracted to unavailable men before? Maybe this is the time to take control of your life and your heart but trying a new flavor.
2006-08-04 13:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by joliannaramma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only u can answer this? I wonder if u are already involved with this man? U know I am involved with a married man one of the stupidest things i have probably down but I am most definitely enjoying the ride so far...... so u need to decide just remember we are the ones that end up getting hurt not them.
2006-08-04 13:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. ,for over a year. Then I decided to call it quits. You should too. They had a open relationship but I knew I was just wastin my time. You don't want him to do that to you. He has his cake and your the frosting Let him find some other frosting. Maybe he is not happy at home, but stays for the kids, still not right. Go the other way and don't look back. Tell him if he is ever free to call you, but don't wait for him. Good Luck
2006-08-04 13:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all ... do you know you can't have him? Is he
happily married? Does he have children? Would your love
be destroying something beautiful?
If so, or you just don't think you should try, then realize that
there are lots of good fish in the sea, many of whom are not
married.
Go find someone else - maybe screw up a few times
because you keep thinking of him - but move on.
2006-08-04 13:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks.
We all want what we can't have. If you want him in your life you need to make a decision. Could you live with the fact that he's in your life, just not in the capacity you want him to be? If that is too painful for you, then perhaps you need to move on. No point in worrying about something out of your control.
Focus on the people who can and want to spend time with you rather then the ones that you can't spend time with.
2006-08-04 13:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time, someone cheats on someone else, they break a trust. Each and every one of us has had trust broken. We've been betrayed, and each time it happens, a piece of our ability to love and trust dissolves forever. So, when you think about getting with this married man, think about his wife, and think about how you might be the instrument of the betrayal that keeps her from loving anyone again ever. If you wouldn't want that done to you, you really don't want to do it to someone else.
2006-08-04 13:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by Michael D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may always be on your mind, but he's MARRIED! Is that not sacred to you? You deal with it, and get over him because he's not fair game. If you try to make a move on him, you should know, you are a HORRIBLE person, the lowest of the low, and barely deserve to be in existance.
2006-08-04 13:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Aliza, Queen of the Night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL! Bravo! We have another stupid idiot whore running around!!! Yeah us!
I hope you feel like total crap ALL THE TIME...because that PALES in comparison to what the wife will feel when she finds out.
Oh, and one more thing, don't think for a New York minute he isn't still sleeping with his wife. HE IS.
2006-08-04 13:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear I just want to know how u gonna feel living with someone who left his wife and kids to stay with u I don't think u gonna feel you are the most attractive woman on earth but you gonna be watching him every second to see if he found somone better than u and imagine what kind of life that would be.
2006-08-04 14:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by Yahoo User 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on with your life - he won't marry you no matter what he says. I have been there, done that, got that t-shirt. Only heart break is that way. Good luck.
2006-08-04 13:47:08 · answer #11 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋