Do you have a sexless marriage?

Question

I do... I'm wondering if there is anything worse. Everything else is fantastic... it's just that my wife is so uninterested in sex.

Does anyone know first hand how awful this feels?

I want to give my thanks for all the kind responses so far..

Still open for answers.

Answer 1

Yes I had sex once a year for three years!!! It was so bad that I was checking out 60 year old women and thinking ...."she's really hot"! We eventually divorced, but my marriage wasn't good and my wife wanted me to divorce her. She wanted out but for some convoluted reason she couldn't file. So she denied me sex for however long it took me to finally say enough is enough and I filed.

You have to sit your wife down and put her on a "get well" program. Tell her that you're not going to live your life with a load on constantly looking at other woman of all shapes and sizes (and you will when the sex isn't there). If she doesn't get the picture then you must consider getting rid of her. Especially before you have children. This is your time to decide if this marriage will work out or not. You can mark my words that you will probably cheat on her if she doesn't "answer the mail" as a wife/woman. You will meet some woman at work that will pick-up on your DSB (deadly sperm buildup) and over a short time will have you "making the beast with two backs". You'll hate yourself for cheating and you will hate your wife for setting you up to cheating. You must do this before you have children. If you wait then you will be stuck ethically and finacially. SHe should be a good wife for at least three years before you can feel comfortable enough to connsent to children.


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Answer 2

Yep, and it is not your fault...if she has been in the past, but has had a child, she needs a check up. Often, a small amount of testosterone cures the problem. And it is a problem. I do have a suggestion...you may not be hitting her buttons. And not to sound awful, but...what sign is she? If I had more info, I might be able to give you the key. Believe it or not, some signs have very real turn-on things that are different than other signs. IF you are doing the same ole, same ole...some ... all of the interest can dissappear. If you write me at my email address, I can give you some hints...please tell me how long you have been married if you do. Good luck

Answer 3

No sorry. But I do have a friend that has been married for about eight years and have a sex less life because her husband is so unattractive. He is Irish and very skinny. So you might want to look at yourself in the mirror and see what you can do to be more attractive. I am not all that but I have been loosing weight and my husband and I are very active now. Before I was active just to get him buy but I was depressed because of where we were living. So there could be several things wrong. Sit down and talk to her straight up. Tell her that if she hurts your feelings you'll get over it and you hope the same for her but you guys really need to communicate. No YELLING.

Answer 4

Yes. There is something worse. My marriage is sexless too, and now my wife is trying to change all my behaviors. That's what makes the marriage even worse. I can live without sex because my right hand does a good job at satisfying me. Trying to get her to shut up is another thing.

Answer 5

yes and I have been in the same situation with my husband and it has been a challenge. I finally let him know that I have needs and talked him into going to the doctor. They said there was nothing wrong after testing and that it was psychological and stress related. Since then I have talked about it constantly and things have greatly improved. I refuse to give up I love him now instead of once or twice a month if i was lucky it's once or twice a week. Getting better slowly but surly I wish you the best.

Answer 6

Yes, my husband started sleeping on the couch just over two years ago claiming that he couldn't sleep in the middle of the night and didn't want to wake me up by watching T.V. in the bedroom. I didn't buy it then and I'm not buying it now. We have sex occasionally but not as often as I would like. What a switch!!! This time it's the wife not gettin' any!

Answer 7

Yes, I do. I was not married but with my boyfriend for 8 years! The last year are sex life decreased considerably but everything else was good. But the fact is sex is a very important role in healthy relationships. I love sex and ultimately our relationship broke after this.

Answer 8

The sooner you stop worrying so much about it, the sooner she'll feel like it. Don't ever talk down to her or talk to her like she is stupid, listen intently when she speaks, hug her JUST FOR THE HECK OF IT, smile at her more often, flatter her sincerely, do ALL the things you did for her when ya'll were dating. When ya'll were dating she thought you were interested IN HER, NOT HER ****. Get snatch off your brain and care about her and her needs. Ya'll go to church and get right with God so he can fix the issues that each of you have or your marriage is doomed.

Contrary to what the guy below would have us believe, lack of sex is not an excuse to cheat. That's a load of crap.

Answer 9

yes, sure do, did it twice. In my case, after the marriage begins, the sex stops.

Just divorced from my wife who would have rather been on the phone making deals then with me. Not exactly a morale booster.

Answer 10

Have you wondered if she might have depression? If you feel she has other symptoms it's worth checking out treatment. I was diagnosed with depression a few years back, and since I've been on medication my life has improved dramatically (including the sex drive).