Guys or Girls advice plz !?

Question

my best friend is a 13 yo boy (ima 13yo girl) and we've been best friends since we were six anyway lately hes been acting wierd anytime he gets an erection he makes a stupid excuse and leaves or gets really red ive told him i dont care and that i kno he can't control it . we used to be really close and talk about everything but now i never see him because he always leaves... hes never been really shy and my other guy friends dont have a problem with having and erection near me. it would be really bad if we stopped being friends because he is the best person ever (and he knows all my secrets) but thats not a good reason I NEED ADVICE SO I DONT LOSE A FRIEND PLEASE

Answer 1

you need to talk to him about it and understand taht he is going through a diffucult time in his life and that some things may change between the two of you. Not being able to control things with your body is very embrassing and you need to understand that.

Answer 2

since you don't know what happens in his house (like maybe his parents tell him it's wrong; or maybe they never explained things to him and he "thinks" it's not normal; or maybe his parents told him it's only for marriage and kids), you can't push him into feeling like you or your friends do. Some day he will find out from the guys it's ok, and he'll be fine. Don't rush him. Everybody matures at their own rate. You won't lose him as a friend. Actually talking about erections at 13 should be out of the question. What's wrong with waiting till you're 18 or 21?

Answer 3

He might like you... Maybe that is why he gets embarrassed...

Another question - You said other guys don't have this problem with you but does he have this problem with anyone else? He might have the same reaction when this happens with others and it is not about you at all... It's hard to tell. You say he's not shy but maybe this issue in particular embarrasses him...

You are at an age between childhood and being a teenager. If you are really good friends, it will pass.

Answer 4

one reason for his weird behaviour is because he is a really nice guy and has a high esteem of your friendship to him but also given his age he might even be starting to get physically attracted to you. Because you 2 have been friends from before he probably thinks his getting sensual attraction towards you is not correct or that you may get offended or it will jeopardise your friendship. He is going through a transition and I don't think you can help him a lot other than accepting the fact that he is real good friend of yours and he values your friendship a lot. This problem doesn;t occur with your other guy friends probably because your friendship with those guys is not that deep.

Answer 5

I think that that would be really embarrassing for a lot of guys. He probably doesn't really want anyone, especially a girl, to see this. As he gets older it probably won't happen quite as often as it is now, so just continue to be there for him, and if he does have an erection, don't talk to him about it, as he doesn't seem to want to discuss it with you. I'd just say that you should pretend not to notice. Good luck, and I hope he realizes that this type of thing shouldn't ruin a freat friendship!

Answer 6

I can sympathize with your friend and I thank you for having the courage to seek help on his behalf. If you haven't yet done so, tell him exactly what you said in your question. It is not his fault and it would indeed be a shame if your friendship suffered because of this very natural thing that is happening to him.

Boys (and girls) deal with the changes to their bodies in different ways, and just because he is reacting differently than your other friends is no cause for alarm. I imagine he his so embarrassed because he really values your friendship and does not want you to think you are the "cause" of what is happening.

Keep trying to get through to him. I hope your friendship survives intact. Please know that it is going through the difficult things in life that makes friendships stronger. I commend you again for seeking help for your friend. May God bless and keep you.

Answer 7

Name the game

(he's just shy)

Next time it happens, you need to stop him from leaving gently and explain that you feel that he is leaving because something is happening that he has no control over. (You being so sexy and all :)

You need to also explain that if he keeps leaving, you are scared that you are losing him as a friend (cos he can't control it, after all) and that you really WANT his friendship so you want him to stick around.

It would also help to explain that if he ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY had to go, well he has to go... but that you want to find some way to stay friends...

(? chat online ?phone contact ? whatever)

maybe it would be best to discuss this through some form of medium that isn't so confronting.. like chat/phone/email

Answer 8

Well, he is going through allot physically speaking. He may even be starting to have feelings for you in a romantic way, but not know how to handle it. Just be nice to him and try to be as calm as you can around him. One more thing, if you want to keep him as a friend DO NOT KISS. It will lead to dating and it will change the whole aspect of the relationship. Just keep him at a reasonable arms length.

Answer 9

Listen, at your age, most boys are beginning to REALLY like girls. (I mean, REALLY like them, if you know what I'm saying.) Therefore, he's probably a little embarassed about it (guys can't usually control these things) and doesn't want to let you see it or be affected by it.
My advice, let it pass. IM or something for now so he doesn't have to run away. When he's more comfortable in his own skin, he'll come back.
Good luck!

Answer 10

It is quite normal to have erections for a boy at 13 years of age, don't get angry with him, Just explain him that it is too early to have sex at this age.