My soulmate is w/ someone else. What do I do? Serious answers only please. Looking more for the ladies opinion

Question

My soulmate & also best friend share a deep unexplainable bond. A yr ago we had finally admitted that we had deeper feelings for each other, but b/c of a traumatic incident & her moving down south, what we began came to a screeching halt. Lost contact b/c I didn't know where she went, didn't have the new number, nothing. Then 1 day I rec'd an email response. We picked up our friendship & found out she was now involved w/ her ex & actually got married to the ex. I was confused, but I only expressed happiness to her. The thing is that we have a special connection. We can talk for hours & find peace w/ each other. We feel things off of each other like I know when she is crying or angry, I even know when she is having sex b/c I can just feel her & she feels me too like when I'm upset, etc. Just recently I got an email stating that she called out my name during sex. Her spouse is upset & heartbroken. What should she do? What do I do? Can we ever be together? Is that wrong?

Answer 1

If you really care about her then leave her alone. She is with someone else, sometimes if you really care about someone, then you have to leave them be.

Answer 2

First of all sweetie, DOn't apologize for Ur feelings, we cannot control with whom we fall in love with.
I have a simular situation, my soulmate moved away and also married someone else. But there are children envolved on both ends so its a little more complicating.
I understand the bond, alot of people will never feel that, so consider Urself VERY Fortunate.
This is a tough one.
Basically she's gotta make up her mind. Does she want to stay married to this man or be with you.
She obviously loved this man she did in fact marry him, now did she marry him because she no longer had contact with U???
And now that she has found U once again, can she stand to just be friends or even worse, can she stand to loose U once again??
I can't tell either of U what to do, but I will say this:
I think U only get 1 true love in this life and I would give ANYTHING to get a second chance with mine.
And there is NOTHING that can take the place of him, our memories are forever burned into my heart for life, I can remember them as if they were yesterday. I have NEVER and will NEVER have that with anyone else. U want her FIGHT FOR HER.
Life is too short, don't live Urs with : Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda's.
One day U will wake up and U'll be an old person who feels regret, like they have spend their whole life as only half a person because when they had that 2nd chance @ true love they let it slip away.
This life is short enough to spend it half hearted.
Here's my advice:
Meet her, tell her how U feel, see if the two of U still feel that connection. See if the sight of her still makes U weak in the knees.
If she still feels the same then GO FOR IT.......
If it's true love and meant too be....The two of U will find a way 2 B together.....



Good Luck Doll, I truly hope this works out for U both....

Answer 3

From what you say, You two give the word "soulmates" it's true meaning. If what you say is true, you were made for eachother, but for time reasons, she twisted destiny. I think she should be honest enough with her husband and tell him what she really feels. It would be worse to entertain him for a lifetime, playing with his feelings and becoming misserable herself. I don't agree that people that don't love eachother stay together for pity's sake. It ends up upseting them both and hurting deeply. If she's really really into you that badly, she should have the courage to bring an end to her actual relationship before it brings up further consequences. It would be far worse if she ends up cheating on him. Besides, she'll give him the chance to find someone that really loves him. Now, I recommend you to be willing to marry her. Don't turn her into your mistress. If that's what you have in mind, then better let her remain with her husband.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like your soulmate if very confused. If she felt the same connection with you, why would she move and not contact you or leave you contact information? And if she felt so strongly for you, why would she marry or have sex with someone else?
There is a chance that she is using you just to have someone on the side to meet the needs her husband is not meeting. And if you were to get with her, I guarantee that she will bring lots of turmoil and unhappiness to your life. Her actions don't match up with the things she's telling you. It sounds like you have very strong feelings for her, but she either doesn't feel the same about you or makes very bad decisions. Either way, if you were to marry her, you would be asking for trouble.
In my opinion, you need to move on. I k now it's hard, but there is someone else out there for you. Someone who you can feel the same bond with, but without bringing trouble into your life.
Good luck to you

Answer 5

You said your relationship came to a screeching halt because she moved and married her ex. If she really did love you the two of you would be married now. She sounds confused and it is not fair on you.

I too have a connection like yours with someone. Knowing when the person is thinking of me or when he is mailing me does not mean he is my soul mate.

Experience

Answer 6

If she were such a soulmate, etc she would have given you a forwarding address and her new phone number. AND she wouldn't have married some other guy if the feeling were mutual.

I don't doubt you have some sort of connection, but she is playing both sides of the fence and that is wrong.

Either she leaves him to be with you or she cuts it off with you. No two ways about it.

Answer 7

I am in a simular situation. My best friend ( a guy) and I just admitted that we have been in love with each other for a while, but... I just got married! Where do we go? Once I found out how he felt I filed for a legal seperation from my husband. I know I want to be with him!!!!!! We agreed to kinda see each other discretly until the divorce.

Answer 8

If this person relly is ur soulmate and really wants to make it with you she will dislove the marriage and come to you. However, This all means she has to make some serious decisions. You can't except to let her know that the door is open.

I do recommend however, not to put your life on complete hold, go out, meet ppl, have fun, whatever will be, will be.

Answer 9

Well, sounds like you need to take a step towards what you want but make sure she wants the same thing. Time will usually give you the answers you are looking for. If it wasn't meant to be, it would be sad to see you wasting your time with your heart door shut when the truly right woman could walk through it if it was just open. Good luck.

Answer 10

Sounds like to me what you do is you wait. It sounds like she is in love with you because if she wasn't she wouldn't be calling out your name in the middle of sex with her husband. Give it some time because it sounds like it is true love between the two of you and I think she is going to come around. Sometimes, people make mistakes and think that they can move on with someone else but if you really true love someone no matter what happens your going to end back up with that person. So, what I would do if I was you is simple I would pray and ask for God to find a way to bring us together? Don't try to do it yourself ask God for some help in this situation because if you get her back your going to need all of his help in keeping her.

Answer 11

Wow! Quite the situation! You're just going to have to wait it out. She chose to marry someone else and has to honor that vow. If she's unhappy in her marriage and decides she wants to be with you...then she needs to leave her husband first. Whatever you do, do this the right way.