What is the best way to find out if your husband is cheating?

Question

My husband is working with this girl that when he first started he said that he never to her about me and and he kind of liked her and if we had problems he wanted to be with her well now heinvites her to all of our parties and is always going out of hisway to make her happy and when I asked him if he was still attracted to her he just said that he was never really attracted to her and changed the subject. he said that she is just his best friend and he talks to her all of the time about everything but he never talks to me about anything at all and since she find out who i am she doesn't even talk to me we only have one car and cell phone which I keep on me and wheen he takes the car to work he comes home about an hour later and when she's around when i pick him up he goes to the back to clock out it takes him longer then if was going back there with one of his guy friends if i ask him anything about her he says that I need to learn to trust him and that he loves me and it starts fight

Answer 1

a two-headed coin or weighted dice is usually a good indication

Answer 2

well if he does not think his actions are setting off all the warning bells then ur husband is a lot dumber than he is trying 2 make u.hun I am not saying he is cheating but what u described is what broke up my marriage, almost a year after all that started with my hubby I got smart n let him take the car n had someone take me 2 his job n followed them yes them once they where in her house I spied in the windows n well what I say made me break the door in, n try 2 kill both of them.

I really hope this is not the case 4 u as it still hurts 2 think about and its been 13 years. do some checking hun investigate on ur own. good luck n stay strong.

Answer 3

1. Has he bought new clothes, especially new underwear, and doesnt need them?
2. Does he give you less money then he used to?
3. Does he talk on the phone in private? Like going outside and walking away from you if you were to follow him?
4. Does he go out with his buddies and stay out longer then normal?
5. Is your sex life lacking? Do you have less sex now then a month ago?
6. Does he accuse you of cheating on him?
7. Does he explode when you ask about her? Does he try to make you feel badly for asking?

These are signs of having a cheater on your hands.

Have a girlfriend, or family member with a car he wont recognize follow him when he goes out one night. have her take pics if she can. check out your phone log...the one you have to get from the phone company not on the phone directly as that is too easy to erase. Call any numbers you dont recognize.

good luck.

Answer 4

Trusting is a major have to in a marriage, but he is giving cause to worry. He has to understand this. My husband's best friend is a girl too, but I am lucky because she is also my friend. I get jealous still even though I know nothing is going on, because I feel like I should be the only woman in is life. I tell her too, when I think they are pushing the envelope. They are buddies, just that she a girl. I think that where most of the problems are, is it's another woman. If it was guy you wouldn't have a problem with it. Talk to him and tell him how you feel, that this relationship he has with this woman makes you uncomfortable. Tell him that you feel like she is taking over your lives, and that he needs to give you some of his time. Have you tried to make friends with girl, if you have and she doesn't want anything to do with you-she might be having some feelings for your husband that she knows ain't right---He might honestly have no desires for her, but what about on her end....Is it just friendship-or is she wanting more. Be honest with him, ask him this questions-what do you have to lose. If he's not willing to talk about this honestly and openly then, honey you don't need him. Your feelings are suppose to be the most thing to him. He needs to face facts, that you need him to assure you what is going on or what's not going on. If he says you need to learn to trust him, yes, I do, but you are giving me reason to wonder. That will make him stop to think..What if your best friend was a man? Don't you think he would be demanding some answers and some assurances that he wasn't being cheated on. Also, bring up the fact that affairs can be emotional-you don't have to have sex- You deserve some answers, be prepared for some answers that you may not want to hear. The what if's- that he has feelings for this girl, he wants to be with her, you aren't doing it for him anymore...So brace yourself for anything. I know you are hurting, so are you ready for your questions to be answered honestly. I hope he tells you don't have anything to worry about, and he loves you! But I pray you are strong enough to handle it if he doesn't. You aren't wrong for feeling this way, and don't let him bully you into thinking that you are. I know I speak from experience. He should be grateful that you care enough about your marriage that you are worried! God bless us all............

Answer 5

I am a litltle wiery about males having girls as best friends becasue guys tend to stray more easily then women having male friends. Just from what I hear from you it sounds like he's cheating or right on the edge ready to jump into it. If you think is nothing has happened then stop him before it does confront him if he's hiding something hopwefully you can tell

Answer 6

sounds like you have a lose cannon. Why not try to get to know this person see what she is like. BTW I am a guy so I'll tell you straight out if I have a best friend who is a girl and I always hang out with her if I had a chance I will sleep with her so its all depends on the girl if shes willing. Be warn. stupid things can happen around alcohol.

Answer 7

Working relationships are a different release than the married relationship. she may be attempting to respect your marriage so you won't think any of the things you are concerned about. follow up on the things he tells you via calls or unannounced visits. before you go off you will need to account for specifics as to why you are accusing him. don't believe in complete blind trust anymore. I have been both right and wrong about various boyfriends

Answer 8

That is the most stories I hear all the time. They are lying. Only one thing what they want to have is a nice home, somebody taking care the children, cleaning, cooking all that and they go out and have fun. If you have some questions they are explosive and get mad and telling you, you are the only one I love.......

Answer 9

It sounds like to me you have good reason to be suspicious, at least. Look through his wallet especially in little corners. Go through the phone bills for numbers you don't know. Check credit card bills for gas charges, hotel charges, dining charges, etc. I would certainly keep an open eye on the situation, but unless you can confirm your suspicions in someway...accusing him can only drive a wedge further between you.

Answer 10

Check his phone calls, get a taxi and show up at his job afterhours if he says he staying late. And give him 2 choices either he stops talking to her and inviting her to parties and pleasing her or tell him that you are going to file for divorce. If he really loves you he will do anything to save his marriage. Good luck!!!

Answer 11

OMG do you know what a period is used for? And I'm not talking menstration!

When you think he may have been with her, get really 'friendly' with him and say something no guy can resist.

Jump on his lap, start rubbing your breasts and crotch and kissing his neck and chest. Get yourself really wet with your finger then suck your finger and then stick it in his mouth. Whisper in his ear while rubbing his manhood something like "I want you in my mouth right now!" then go down on him and give him aggressive hand and mouth action.

Of course, while you are doing this, you are smelling him for signs of her. You will know.

Also, if he resists too strongly, he's definitely doing her.